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Are deeper voices more attractive? "Animals show us to take our best attributes, whatever they are, and highlight them, display them." - Jennifer Verdolin The Cheat Sheet: Looks matter! and why biology supports this. (6:00) What MHC is and why it's so critical to successful attraction. (11:35) Why pretending to be something you're not doesn't work in the long run. (22:00) This type of bird actually divorces, Jennifer explains. (24:55) Men are biologically programmed to hear deeper voices better: true or false? (33:00) Jennifer gives us three steps to become more attractive. (38:00) And so much more... Is it possible to learn how to be successful in dating and relationships from animals? According to our guest for episode 315, it is. Dr. Jennifer Verdolin of Duke University is the author of Wild Connection and she has devoted her academic life to studying the mating and dating behaviors of the animal world. Today she joins us to talk about what she's observed in the animal kingdom, how humans can apply it to

Lateral Thinking Solves Problems Better. "If you truly love life, don't waste time because time is what life is made of." - Bruce Lee The Cheat Sheet: Facebook and The Death Star: we compare. The 3 ways to change on a micro level. Skeptical optimism: what it is and why it is a powerful habit. The Charlie Rose technique: how and when to use and why it's effective. What ben franklin has to do with all of this. The 5 second rule to overcoming your fears. And so much more... If you wrote for Wired or Fast Company, do you think you'd find innovative ways of living and working? The answer is yes, of course you would! And our guest for episode 314 does just that. Shane Snow, author of Smart Cuts, is also a writer for these notable tech publications and he's here with us to share what lateral thinking is, how to use it for greater innovation in every area of your life and how to use neurotic spreadsheeting to make your life rock. More About This Show: Shane Snow is a whiz at finding out what makes people go against

"One of the reasons they call it 'the secret to success' is that people don't even understand that their habits are the cause of their wealth or poverty." - Tom Corley The Cheat Sheet: A goal is only a goal if it has these two things: what are they? Is wealth really as simple as working harder and working more? Consistency: why it's so important For 30 minutes every day, the rich do this: what is it? The best strategy to network with the rich, even if you are average or poor. What is opportunity luck? And so much more... Have you wondered what separates the rich from the not-rich? Is it luck or some closely-guarded secret? Or do the wealthy simply do things differently every day? Are there rich habits and are there poor habits? Our guest for episode 313, Tom Corley, has done extensive research and written a book on the subject. He says there are habits that separate the rich from the poor. In this show, Tom and I talk about what those rich habits are, how we can change them, how to network with the wealthy,

"In a lot of ways, the whole Alpha Male thing is just an excuse for being an asshole." - James Fell The Cheat Sheet: Scientific research has debunked the Alpha concept: true or false? Why you should run towards danger (i.e., your fears). The secret to finding your innate talents Ready, fire, aim: why this is a valid approach to get things done. How body for wife became a brand, then a web site and a book. Action is the antidote to despair: who said this and why it matters. And so much more... Alpha Male. Today you can't turn on a TV, go into a bookstore or walk down the street without having the concept thrown in your face (often times literally). And it's a concept we at The Art of Charm and our guest for episode 312 don't buy into, not unless you want to be a douchebag. James Fell is a fitness and health writer for the LA Times, Ask Men, the Chicago Tribune and Time magazine, and he joins us to talk about why the alpha male marketing idea is bullshit, how to actually face your fears and grow your confiden

"Whatever kind of giving you're focused on, it starts with asking the question: What do other people need?" - Adam Grant The Cheat Sheet: The different categories of giving value. How to give to someone you don't know - the RIGHT way. What are stage gates and how should you use them? How to avoid social capital suicide. The power of powerless communication: Abe Lincoln showed us how. Chunker vs Sprinkler And so much more... The latest buzz in the online marketing and entrepreneurial world is to give value and the profits will come back to you. Is this really true and does it work when it comes to networking and expanding our social circles? Adam Grant has the answer to that question and he's our guest for episode 311. Adam is the author of "Give and Take" and an organization psychologist professor at Wharton School of Business. He was also named by Malcolm Gladwell as one of his favorite social science writers. In this show, Adam and I talk about how to spot takers and protect yourself against them, how to

"You've got to take imperfect action. You literally have to start. It doesn't matter if it's not perfect. It doesn't matter if it crashes and burns." - Michael O'Neal The Cheat Sheet: Why he decided to stop trading time for dollars. The business takeaway from the fake orgasm scene in When Harry Met Sally. Why it's important to say "yes" and the lesson he learned from doing so. Why you can't teach hustle. His near-death experience 10 days before he launched his show and why he still launched. What separates the haves from the never will be people? And so much more... There are times in our lives when we face a challenge, an adversity so daunting we can only cope by going into survival mode. But with time, patience, the right attitude and the proper support, we can take those experiences and propel ourselves into lives we never even dreamed possible. Here to share his own version of this is Michael O'Neal from The Solopreneur Hour podcast. In episode 310, we talk about how the loss of both of his parents in l

"Unless you're actually on Jeopardy, knowledge without action is useless!" - Adam Gilbert The Cheat Sheet: What's the top reason people fear losing weight? Why awareness is the key to making lasting changes. The broccoli test: what it is and how to use it. The most common roadblocks Adam sees. How to use discomfort as your compass. Why you need a coach and it's amateur to think you don't. And so much more... Have you ever tried to lose weight, stop drinking, start a business and a new exercise program at the same time? Did you fail and wonder why? Health and fitness psychology expert, Adam Gilbert, would say you took on too much at one time. There's a psychology to making changes that last and Adam is here to give us the golden nuggets on that very topic. Join us for episode 309 as we talk about the psychology of weight loss, why you sabotage yourself and others do too, why discomfort is the perfect compass and the most common roadblocks he sees with his clients. More About This Show: Adam Gilbert has alway

"If we listen, we always know what to say next." - Susan RoAne The Cheat Sheet: Your number one purpose at any event. Why drinks aren't really free at an open bar. How to remember people when you meet them. Why it's important to never burn bridges, Susan gives a personal lesson. #1 tactic to create your own luck. How to introduce yourself, even if you're shy. And so much more... Networking. It is one of the most coveted skills someone can possess; it can open doors where they were previously closed, it can create opportunities where there previously were none. One of the most informative experts on this topic is Susan RoAne. She's the author of How To Work A Room, now on its 4th edition and silver anniversary. She joins the Art of Charm podcast for our 308th episode to dish the details on the ins and outs of networking and connecting, even if you're shy. She's got advice, techniques and tips for everyone in any industry. More About This Show: Considered one of the leading experts in the field of networking,

"We can't control what happens to us, but we can control how we feel, how we react and what we do." - Pat Flynn The Cheat Sheet: Why it's important to him to fail on his own terms. The best way to find potential income opportunities. The most important question to ask any business owner, and what to do with their answer. What a bucket of crabs teaches us about life, according to Pat. One of the biggest challenges entrepreneurs face is a lack of ideas: true or false? What is "just in time learning" and how does Pat use it? And so much more... One of the greatest challenges a man can face is experiencing a setback and turning it into an asset that actually improves his life. Someone who has done just that is Pat Flynn of Smart Passive Income, our guest for episode 307. Pat is the man in charge of SPI, a brand devoted to sharing with people how he's created smart, passive income streams. And it all began when his Plan A fell through. In this show, we talk about how Pat has overcome adversity throughout his car

"A day of pain is worth a lifetime of pride." - Jon Vronman The Cheat Sheet: How he invested his last $4k and how it motivated him. The 53-mile double marathon that changed Jon's life. Do you have to be an extrovert to be in the front of your life? The 3 people you admire most: a life evaluation exercise. What is one of the most powerful questions on Earth? The reason most people don't achieve their life's purpose. And so much more... If you imagined your life playing out like a concert, where would you want to live it: the front row or somewhere in the upper deck? The front row of course - that's where the action, energy and enthusiasm is happening. Jon Vroman has built a business and a life around teaching people to live like they're in the front row and he's our guest for episode 306 of The Art of Charm podcast. Join us as we talk about what it means to live life from the front row, how to reframe experiences in a positive way, why your networks are so important and how to be a contributor who makes ever

"When it comes to setting a date, just take the lead and guide the interaction. You'll have a lot better first dates and help yourself out with the Attraction Process." - Justin Jensen The Cheat Sheet: What's a social sales funnel and how do you use it in dating? Photoshopping your Tinder pics: how, when and why. How to showcase your personality on Tinder and stand out. What's the first goal on Tinder? Why it's good to give her your phone number. How to strike while the Tinder iron is hot. And so much more... Unless you've just emerged from living under a rock, you probably know what Tinder is. It's a dating app available on smart phones that allows men and women to meet. Tinder works by allowing you to post a quick profile, using your basic information (location, age, gender) and it posts a few photos of your choice from your Facebook account. There's room to write a short bio and then you simply see pictures of women in your area. You swipe right if you like them and want to connect, left if you don't. Th

"A lot of the best stories are the ones you are most resistant to share." - Michael Simmons The Cheat Sheet: What are brokers and why are they uniquely successful? The most common mistake people make when posting online. How to use social media as an online story-telling platform. Michael's personal story on the power of connection. The ninja Soundcloud introduction hack and how to use it. How to build that network of kindred spirits, according to Michael. And so much more... Authentic connection. It seems to be a rare commodity today, especially in the online social media world. If you're like most people, you have that one friend online who is always bragging about how great his/her life is. They post pictures of their flashy car (or even just a flashy car, it doesn't have to be theirs) and their latest awesome vacation. They're a trophy wall poster. While we might be inclined to think a trophy wall makes someone cool, it actually has the opposite effect. And here to tell us why and the science behind tha

"The truth is no matter what we want in this life, every single thing is learnable." - Arel Moodie The Cheat Sheet: Shaq has a legitimate PhD: true or false? What's the most crucial component of likability? What is one of the most common mistakes he sees people make? The opposite of happiness is ____? Here's a hint: it's NOT sadness. How to make the buying decision as easy as possible for your clients. A simple technique to answer the phone that will make people feel special. And so much more... Arel Moodie is a true rags to riches story. He climbed his way out of the projects in Brooklyn to become a keynote speaker at the White House, a millionaire and one of Inc Magazine's 30 Under 30. He's also contributed to Forbes, and delivered a TedX talk. All on the subject of likability. He joins The Art of Charm today to share with us what likability is, why it had such an impact on his upward mobility from the projects in Brooklyn and how to cultivate and authentically apply it in your personal and professional l

"Part of trust is being secure, not just with you as a couple but also within yourself." - The Art of Charm The Cheat Sheet: How long-distance becomes full-disclosure and why it's good. How to work backwards when you go from long distance to being in the same city. The benefits of long-distance. Why admitting you miss her is so important. Women and plants: the correlation. Why women dig it when you remember details about their lives. And so much more... Most people will tell you long-distance relationships never work. But what if you've met an incredible woman and the only way you can be together is long-distance and you want to give it a shot? What do you do then? In this episode, I talk with Kim Seltzer, a trained therapist, about how to navigate the waters of a long-distance relationship and how to make it work. We talk about the 3 phases of dating, what factors to evaluate when considering moving in with someone, behaviors that are red flags in you and in the woman you're dating, why trust is so vital a

"The best indicator of a successful tomorrow is having a successful day today, that's the only thing." - James Altucher The Cheat Sheet: Why starting a business is better than going to college. Anyone can take the bar exam in California: true or false? US economics in 3 minutes. Where is the money in today's economy and is there enough? James' "Choose Yourself Message": what it is, how and why to apply it to your life. The story of how he thwarted a $30 million financial fraud. And so much more... Could you get more education from starting and failing at a business than from going to college? If someone said to you sending an 18 year old to college is like sending an 18 year old to Vietnam, would you agree? That's James Altucher believes and he's our guest for episode 300. Having founded over 20 companies along with creating and publishing 11 books, James Altucher knows a few things about how the world works and he doesn't see the necessity of college for most people. Today James and I talk about alternativ

"I can't control what happens outside of me, but I can control what happens on the inside." -Ted Ryce The Cheat Sheet: What was it like to see his brother's murderer executed? Ted's warrior mindset and how it has served him. The principles of resilience. Why aerobics and yoga can be beneficial, even to men. What is stress inoculation and why is important? And so much more... Today it's bordering on trendy to blame your early childhood for your present day screw-ups. For some, their dad wasn't around enough or their mom didn't hug them enough. But there are those people who truly experienced harrowing childhoods, the kind that could (and by all accounts should) - really mess you up into a non-functional human being. And yet there are stories of triumph from those who rise above to lead happy, healthy and impactful lives. Such is the case for our guest on episode 299, Ted Ryce, fitness expert and martial arts competitor. In this show, Ted talks candidly and powerfully about the impact of the kidnapping and mu

"It's never going to be perfect, I'm never going to have all the answers and I don't want all the answers because that would be boring!" - Jesse Elder The Cheat Sheet: How he fought and won a dojo? The acid test: how to use it for success in any area of your life. His merit-based approach to dating. What is a need-free connection and how can you cultivate it? Money makes us ___. Jesse fills in the blank. And so much more! What can we learn from a "Fight Club"esque fighter/former bouncer turned martial arts school owner turned multi-million dollar businessman about self-mastery? Plenty. Jesse Elder is a present day successful entrepreneur and business man who started his career in the underground bar fight scene and learned some startling self-mastery lessons along the way. He joins The Art of Charm to share his lessons, his keen insights and authentic views on life, love and business. More About This Show: Jesse's path began like it does for many people: he took martial arts as a kid. He loved it and by the

"The definition I use for networking is anything that increases the value of your network and/or the value you contribute to it. " - Derek Coburn The Cheat Sheet: Who you'll really meet at big networking events. Why successful networking is a lot like successful dating. What to ask yourself before you make an email introduction. Permission marketing: what is it, why you should use it and how. How to put together your own 20-25 person networking group. And so much more! Is networking a thing of the past? Or is there a new 3.0 version we can put into practice to make a difference in the lives of everyone in our circles? Derek Coburn is a master networker and author of Networking Is Not Working. He believes there is a better, natural way to fulfill the art of networking. He joins us for episode 296 to talk about what works, what doesn't work and how successful people network differently than the typical "big event" style. More About This Show: The concept behind networking has evolved and through over the deca

"Most people feel under-appreciated so if you want to make huge jumps up the career ladder, start treating other people as if you own the company.. " - John Ruhlin If you've ever been that guy who gave his wife or significant other a vacuum cleaner for your anniversary - and you thought it was a great present - than this episode is for you. John Rulin, our guest for show 294, has made a success out of understanding the art of appreciation and gift giving. In this episode, John talks to us about the secret behind his still-unbroken record as Cutco's top salesman ever, how to be an amazing gift giver and how gifting can open doors in business and personal relationships, how to apply gifting in business, your own relationships and marriage, how John nearly died proposing to his wife and how to cultivate thoughtfulness and creativity in the gifting process. More About This Show: John's career really began with the company Cutco. For those of you who haven't heard of this company, it's a cutlery company that has t

"When I started seeing myself as I actually am and allowing other people to see that too, I started feeling more powerful. " - Michael Port Can acting teach us more about life, being human and getting real with each other? Indeed it can according to our guest for show 293, Michael Port. Michael has been on such notable TV shows and films as Sex and The City, Law & Order, Third Watch and The Pelican Brief. He's a highly sought after keynote speaker and New York Times best-selling author of several books, including Book Yourself Solid. Today he's taking what he learned from his television and movie days and applying it to the written word and to the speaking stage and he joins us to share all that and more on this edition of The Art of Charm. More About This Show: By most accounts, Michael achieved success in his acting career: he was being cast on multiple top TV shows and landing roles in hit movies. But it wasn't working for him, and he got out of the "biz". Looking back on it now, he says he was impatient a