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Stay relevant in the workforce. "There is no linear career path anymore."-Dan Schawbel The Cheat Sheet: How many jobs do most people have between the ages of 18 and 45? 20% of the workforce is retiring in the next 4 years: true or false? Which are the top majors that land jobs after college? How to network effectively, even if you're an introvert. EQ or IQ: which is most desirable in a job seeker? And so much more... There's no denying it any longer, the workforce today is an entirely different animal than it was even a decade ago. Long gone are the days of working for one or perhaps two companies in your lifetime. Now most people will work in at least 3 different careers in their lifetimes, some of us will work in as many as six! And note that says careers, not jobs. If you're like millions of others trying to get a leg up on the fierce competition in the marketplace, we've brought in Dan Schawbel to talk about how. Dan is the author of Promote Yourself, and that's exactly the topic we dive into today. Dan

Do what would make your mom proud. "We don't live in a scarcity economy any more, we live in an abundant economy." -Seth Godin The Cheat Sheet: Is there really such a thing as writer's block? Why quitting and failing aren't the same, Seth explains. When and how to quit to be successful. The two categories of failing. Why 98% of people who start online classes don't finish them. What it means to serve people. And so much more... As the author of 17 books and an uber-successful entrepreneur who has started multiple companies, Seth Godin is a man who needs very little in the way of an introduction! He is looked to as a thought leader in marketing, communications and entrepreneurship. On today's episode he shares his thoughts on the creative process, what it means to be in "the dip" and how to succeed in business without having an exclusive focus on the bottom line. Listen in for details on all of that and so much more on the 336th episode of The Art of Charm. More About This Show: Believe it or not there was a

Circumstances don't define us. "I always do anything I do as if I'm at stake and I have everything to lose."-Pejman Ghadimi The Cheat Sheet: The good is the enemy of the great. What are Pejman's three circles and why do they matter? The fear that holds most of us back: what is it? How he focused on making his life count for more than just making money. It's easier to accept failure than to seek success: true or false? How to start a business if you only have an idea and nothing else. And so much more... When most people think of entrepreneurship today they generally think of the glitz and glamour of making so-called "easy money" on the Internet and working for themselves. Rarely do they think of value creation, which is what our guest for today says is at the very heart of being an entrepreneur. Joining us for episode 335 is self-made multi-millionaire and value creator Pejman Ghadimi. Today he shares his personal story of how he became financially independent by 25 as well as "Secret Entourage" and third c

Find out what women really want (it's science!) "As humans we are not a species that runs on physical dominance; we are a species that runs on social status, respect."-Dr. Geoff Miller The Cheat Sheet: What body types are women most attracted to? (13:00) Phenotype: what is it and why should you care? (18:40) IUDs vs. The Pills: the details you need to know (and yes you actually do). (33:00) Why women want men with money- it's not because they're gold diggers. (36:45) The correlation between the cost of shoes and how attractive women find them: explained. (38:45) Dr. Miller uses science to debunk The Alpha Male myth. (46:35) And so much more... What do women really want in a man? It seems to be a question men have asked themselves and have been trying to answer for centuries. If you're tired of wondering and you want actual answers to help you better understand, connect and have quality relationships with women then have a listen to today's show. Our guest is Dr. Geoff Miller, is evolutionary psychologist at

It's better if you tell your own story. "In order to be successful today we have to make reinvention a constant part of our repetoire."-Dorie Clark The Cheat Sheet: Elements of a personal brand: what are they and how can you use them? (7:00) Why the days of being a "lifer" are over. (12:00) How you can determine and define your personal brand. (21:00) The wingman strategy and how it can enhance EVERY area of your life. (27:30) Why having no online presence is just as much of a red flag as a negative one. (41:00) How to have attention and respect before you walk into any meeting. (44:00) And so much more... Do you think personal brands are only for the likes of Dr. Phil, Oprah Winfrey and CEOs? Think again. In today's workplace we all have a personal brand, and too few of us are managing it. So says our guest for today's show, Dorie Clark. Dorie is the author of Reinventing You, a former presidential campaign spokeswoman and regular contributor to Harvard Business Review, Forbes and Entrepreneur magazine. To

Experiment with your own life. "I wouldn't say fail faster, I'd say fail more. For every ten failures you're going to get one success."-AJ Jacobs The Cheat Sheet: Digital reminders: how to use them to become happier. (10:00) How to use the Song of Solomon to get a date. (14:40) Radical honesty: can it be effective in dating and relationships? (19:30) Cafeteria Religion defined. (24:45) The Odysseus Strategy:what it is and how to use it to make yourself happier. (27:35) Posture affects your testosterone levels: true or false? (44:40) And so much more... If you lived your life as an experiment and you became a human guinea pig what would that be like? What would you try out and what do you think you could learn? Our guest for episode 332 has done this several times and discovered so much through each experiment. AJ Jacobs is a four-time New York Times best-selling author who has used his life as an experiment on several occasions, and then written about it to share with all of us. For example, he once spent a

Give your all while you can. "I want to know that on my last day when they lay me down in my grave, I am not taking my best work to the grave with me."-Todd Henry The Cheat Sheet: The best possible education experience you can have. (10:30) Should anyone go to college? (20:50) The key to overcoming America's economic malaise revealed. (27:00) Why it's never too late to enter the marketplace. (29:50) What's one of the biggest issues people have, according to Todd? (32:10) The most valuable land in the world is where? (37:30) And so much more... If you chose to live today by the motto "die empty" what would you do differently? What projects would you start, what relationships would you enrich and which would you let go of? These two words became the motto for this episode's guest few years ago and they had such an impact that he decided to write a book on the topic. Todd Henry, author of Die Empty, joins us to talk about the value of going to college or not going, the deadly sins of mediocrity, how to avoid b

It only takes one. "Assertiveness and kindness is the combination most attractive to women." -Scott Kaufman The Cheat Sheet: Dopamine is the pleasure molecule: true or false? (7:25) Scott defines a true alpha male. (18:40) The Dark Triad revealed: is it as ominous as it sounds? (19:10) What is positive psychology really about? (31:00) Why chat-up lines don't work. (39:50) Mate copying: what does the term mean? (43:10) And so much more... If you've listened to the show before, you know we don't buy into the whole "alpha or beta male" mindset that is so prevalent in society right now. At the Art of Charm we stand on the belief that men are far more than just "alpha tough guys" or "beta door mats". And today Scott Kaufman, Scientific Director at the Imagination Institute and author of Mating Intelligence Unleashed, shares the science behind that belief. On this episode, we talk about why the "alpha-beta" thing is far too simplistic, what the dark triad/bad boy thing is all about, and why assertiveness, kindnes

Negative self-talk amplifies painful experiences. "We need to monitor our emotional health like we monitor our physical health. It has nothing to do with self-esteem, it has nothing to do with masculinity." -Guy Winch The Cheat Sheet: Why avoidance doesn't work and can actually make areas of your life worse. (10:30) Chronic loneliness is like smoking a pack of cigarettes a day: true or false? (16:50) Stewing vs doing: how and why to avoid the former. (26:20) Why affirmations are not useful. (36:20) Failure distorts our perceptions: the study that proves this. (41:35) How negative self-talk damages your emotional state even more than the actual event. (49:30) And so much more... If we all learned from childhood on how to take care of our emotional hurts, our pains and our struggles, what do you think the world would look like? Probably an incredibly different place than it does today. One person helping us move in that direction is our guest for episode 328, Dr. Guy Winch. Guy is the author of Emotional Firs

No one has the right to hold you back. "There's nothing more important than knowing who you are, the path you are on and its final end." -Dandapani The Cheat Sheet: Why you should make your bed every day. (5:10) They watched 30 minutes of the news in his monastery: true or false? (14:20) The hierarchy of where to spend your energy as a parent and spouse. (27:50) What the law of thermodynamics has to do with relationships. (35:05) Affectionate detachment: what is it and do you need to implement it? (46:20) Why happiness should never be your goal in life. (54:05) And so much more... When you think of a monk do you think of coding, a Macbook Pro and lessons about life? Maybe the last of those three pops to mind but certainly the first two don't! And that is what makes our guest for episode 327 so interesting. Dandapani is a Hindu monk who lived in a Hawaiian monastery where they gave him a MacBook Pro and he spent some of his time coding websites! On today's show we talk about his origin story as a monk, how t

Alex Kouts gives us the edge we need to overcome our fear of negotiating and make deals that benefit both sides of any arrangement. The Cheat Sheet: Why everybody's price is an f-you price, according to Alex. (11:15) How to emotionally prepare for awkwardness of negotiations. (23:20) BATNA: what is it and why is it so important? (31:10) Why women are better at negotiating than men. (32:30) When to apply the silent strategy. (35:05) What's the nuclear option in negotiation and how do you know when to push the red button? (48:30). And so much more... Find out more about the team who makes The Art of Charm podcast here! Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/alex-kouts-art-negotiating-episode-326/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Review the show in iTunes! We rely on it! http://www.theartofcharm.com/mobilereview Stay Charming! Learn

Choose who you connect with wisely. "Other people have all of the critical resources to get you to where you need to go." -Judy Robinett The Cheat Sheet: How to know if you're in the wrong room. (4:30) What are the three golden questions and when should you ask them? (13:20) Your network comes BEFORE your success: true or false? (13:35) How to test for duds in your network. (29:00) How to improve your ability to ask. (36:10) How she got Mark Burnett to endorse her show. (48:25) And so much more... If someone was from a small town in Idaho would you take their advice on networking? What if they had 10 billionaires in their Rolodex, would you listen then? That hypothetical person is our guest for today's show. On episode 324 we're talking with and taking notes from Judy Robinett, a power connector, a giver and the author of How To Be a Power Connector. We'll be discussing how to be a power connector, a life hack for connecting with people who have zero time, and what makes a quality relationship...and so much

Don't ever stop pursuing her. "A lot of what you do to get the girl you need to do to keep the girl." - The Art of Charm Toolbox The Cheat Sheet: How not to be needy. (12:00) When and how to use sexual banter to add fun and intimacy (23:30) The three A's to build and maintain a healthy relationship. (30:55) Specific ways to break out of a rut, and why it's vital to do so. (36:45) The importance of touch in developing and keeping intimacy alive. (42:00) The 6 second hug: how and why to use it. (43:10) And so much more... When's the last time you took your girlfriend or wife out to do something new, or to go somewhere together you've never been before? If it's been awhile, or if you just want to add some flavor back into your relationship, this is the episode for you. On this Toolbox edition of the show we're talking about how to keep your relationship fresh, whether you're still in the honeymoon stage and want to continue it or you've been married for decades and want to bring back some of the playfulness fr

You really did learn everything in kindergarten. "Your ability to take action in the face of unanswered questions is essential to accomplishing anything of significance." - Srinivas Rao The Cheat Sheet: What are gaba levels? (4:50) What have been the two themes throughout his career? (9:30) The unhealthy myths of a "self-running business" and of being a nomad. (13:30) Why you need patience when starting any new venture. (18:00) How to get back into the creative space of kindergarten. (31:50) Google's 20% time policy and how to apply it for success. (41:50) And so much more... A bank robber. A happiness expert. A hip hop artist. A CEO of a multi-million dollar company. Can you find the common thread? Maybe, maybe not. Our guest for episode 322 can; these are all types of people he has interviewed on his podcast, The Unmistakable Creative. On today's show Srinivas and I talk about the current state and future of podcasting, why comparing yourself to others is a losing battle, as well as the roles curiosity an

Choose a word you can say you stand for. "You need to grab on to something that you say 'this is what I stand for'." -John Jantsch The Cheat Sheet: How long did it take him to write his first book? (10:50) You have to have a narrow niche: true or false? (13:00) What's the 6-week expert phenomenon? (15:00) The power of content creation whether you're an employee or a business owner (19:30) What causes the death of a great conversation? (26:50) How to avoid information pollution (35:00) And so much more... Many marketers and promoters in the Internet world today call themselves experts on a given topic. But check back in a few weeks and a lot of them have changed their field of expertise. And that is not how to become a recognized leader according to our guest for episode 321. John Jantsch is the author of his latest book: Duct Tape Selling. He's also the head honcho of Duct Tape Marketing, a brand and business devoted to practical, systemized marketing for everyone from employee to business owner. And in tod

How to listen the way women want you to. "If you are somebody who listens it gives you advantages in all walks of life. Persuaders, influencers and leaders are people who really listen." - Julian Treasure The Cheat Sheet: You hear with your whole body: true or false? (6:35) Why listening is a skill and not something that comes naturally. (15:25) Julian explains why listening is NOT the same for everyone. (21:25) What is empathetic listening? (25:05) RASA: what is it and how can you use it to consciously listen? (31:15) Why we equate deeper voices with more powerful people. (49:30) And so much more... Have you ever been working and you simply couldn't concentrate because that annoying guy in sales was so loud you could hear him clear across the room? There's actually a scientific reason it bothers you and lowers your productivity. Joining us to give us insights on to why that is and how powerfully sound impacts every other aspect of our lives is Julian Treasure. Julian is a sound expert and Ted Talks speaker

From wantrepreneur to real-life success story. "Instead of wondering when your next vacation is, maybe you should set up a life you don't need to escape from." - Seth Godin The Cheat Sheet: The good and the bad types of wantrepreneurs. How many views did his first article receive in its first 24 hours online? He was a bad writer in school: true or false? Why did he start his podcast? Who are some of his most notable interviewees on his show? Why you need to be the author of your own life. And so much more... If you've ever found yourself feeling stifled, uninspired or even depressed it might be because you're in the wrong career. You might be an entrepreneur trapped in an employee's life. Such was the case for our guest for episode 319. Andrew Ferebee was a manager at a big chain retailer when he realized he was actually an entrepreneur. But it wasn't one of those epiphanies he had in a nanosecond, instead it was a battle with clinical depression combined with a quest for personal growth that led him to thi

There is no straight line from your current job to your ideal career. "No matter how much you enjoy what you do, there will always come a time when it is work." - Grant Baldwin The Cheat Sheet: The myth of the perfect job and/or career. (7:00) The best time to start something is when? And the second best time? (14:45) Why you're NEVER in too deep. (19:00) Follow your passion: does Grant say yay or nay to this advice? (27:10) Why the path of least resistance doesn't work. (33:45) How many different careers do most people have on average? (44:00) And so much more... Follow your passion is almost a cliche it's been used so often. But what does that phrase even mean and is it really a good idea? Yes and no says our guest for episode 318, Grant Baldwin. Grant is a speaker and podcaster who produces the show "How Did You Get Into That?". On his show, he interviews men and women who encountered a "mid-life crisis" and got into an unusual profession or started a unique business as a result. On today's episode he an

Proof that your network is your net-worth. "When you hit rock bottom you will be left with two things: your network and your word. Never tarnish your word and always invest in your network." - Jayson Gaignard The Cheat Sheet: Why making 22x the national average made him unhappy. (9:40) The two things that landed him in $250,000 in cash debt. (12:00) What is his perfect day exercise? (20:25) The two types of freedom. (21:40) Eustress: what is it and do you want to have it? (32:20) Event ROI: why it's been so important. (42:05) And so much more... When choosing a career path or a business endeavor, we often hear advice to choose a profitable industry or niche. But what if we we choose it, make a ton of money doing it but are utterly miserable? What happens then? Here to share his experience of that scenario is Jayson Gaignard. Jayson is the CEO and driving force behind Mastermind Talks, an event-based organization devoted to bringing the greatest entrepreneurs together through events and networking. Have a li

Hack Language Learning. "You get to meet different parts of yourself by going through the process of learning other languages." - Gabriel Wyner The Cheat Sheet: What is the European scale of fluency? There is such thing as the language gene: true or false? A simple language hack you can do at home watching TV. How to boost your retention by 40% and 50%. The first way to start learning a language: it's NOT the way we're taught in school. Why you don't need grammar drills. And so much more... There are people who are fluent in multiple languages: are they freaks of nature or do they have the "language gene"? Or are there tricks, tools and life hacks the rest of us can use to learn and remember foreign languages? Our guest today is Gabriel Wyner is the author of Fluent Forever, a book about how to learn languages quickly and how to retain them forever. Join us as we talk about his techniques for learning a language quickly and retaining it, what the tremendous benefits are to fluency, the obvious and not-so-ob