Social Anxiety Solutions - Your Journey To Social Confidence!

Does your version of social confidence SUCK? What if your version of success the problem? I'm interviewing the internationally recognised psychologist Steve Wells on what stops people from becoming successful, in this case "socially successful". He says: There’s always a downside to success that people don’t necessarily think of but unconsciously it’s what holds them back from being able to get there. We talk at length about the common blocks that keep people from ever getting to a place of social confidence, and share resources on how to get there. In particular, Steve shares a new technique that is super simple to release your emotional attachment to ideas, beliefs, actions and so on. Very powerful interview, enjoy. QUOTE: If success means you’re suffering, it’s not success. Expert's show notes page (www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/stevesuccess/) My homepagewww.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly: www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier ____________

Want to have FUN meeting people? I interview my good friend Christoph Schiessl on his mindset for meeting new people. Christoph is totally at ease and relaxed when meeting people, and has a great time doing so. 

He has a wide social network with a wide variety of backgrounds and truly loves people. 

 This is a fun interview jam-packed with nuggets of gold on how to have a good time socially. Pick up on the vibe, and get a feel for what it’s like to be at ease and relaxed socially. Enjoy.
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When I meet someone I really try to be there 100%. I’m very focused in that moment on who I’m dealing with and the time I’m spending with that person. I guess that’s also what people appreciate. cause they feel that you’re actually there at that moment, giving your time, showing an interest in what they have to say. For that moment I’m really there. Christoph's show notes page (www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/christoph) My homepagewww.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly: www.social-anxiety-solutions.c

“Para” shares what pranic healing is and what benefits you can expect. She says: “Pranic healing is not only for physical ailments, it’s also very powerful for ailments of the mind like depression, anxiety, obsessive compulsive disorder, bi-polar and so on.” Para gives her recommendation about what to do in order to release your social anxiety, and tells you what great results you can expect. QUOTE: “Most of my clients I see shifting within 2 weeks of our healing. The way they speak about themselves, the way they think about themselves is totally different from when I first time I met them.” Expert's show notes page (www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/para) My homepagewww.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards,Sebastiaan van der Schrier

As an ex-social anxiety disorder sufferer and social confidence coach with 6 years of experience guiding socially anxious clients to social confidence, Sebastiaan shares his perspective on how to overcome social anxiety in the most effective way. He shares his own journey, common pitfalls that keep people stuck, and what is necessary to become not only anxiety-free, but also effortlessly socially confident. QUOTE: "Social anxiety sufferers can get far better and much faster results when they use some of the wisdom from Western traditional psychology and blend this with the powerful release methods and techniques from the field of Energy psychology. We’re living in 2015, social anxiety is no longer a problem that you cannot overcome. Look at where you’re at and look at, and look at the results you’re getting and take the steps necessary ignored to move to the next place. There are solutions out there." Sebastiaan's show notes page (www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/sebastiaan) My homepage www.social-anxiety-sol

Dr. David Lake talks about how depression can be related to social anxiety, and about the different kinds of depression. He speaks of the kind that gets results, and the kind of depression for which you need medication. Here are a few quotes (this is a MUST listen if you’re depressed): “When people have “melancholic depression” and they just drag themselves around and they can’t think and they can’t do anything at all, they’re absolutely exhausted all day long that’s actually a nasty business and is very very serious. And it’s important to recognise it because ordinary psychological treatments don’t work at all. Not at all. Not in the slightest. Whereas with the other kind of depression, where people are reactive to life, either over a long period or fairly quickly, reactive to negative events, you can often use psychological treatments very successfully. Especially the energy therapy treatments.” “Doctors and alternative practitioners speak about how depression can be treated psychologically. They actually

This is a very powerful and super simple technique to experience change. There are a few techniques I use over and over, next to tapping. Logosynthesis is one these. It's been developed by Willem Lammers, a psychologist and a licensed psychotherapist who trained in bioenergetics, TA, hypnotherapy, NLP and energy psychology. Since 2005, he created Logosynthesis®, an amazing new tool for personal development, and this is what he’ll be sharing on this show. Interesting is that Willem is an introvert himself, and he shares some great insights (and resources) to help you understand yourself better, and be more at peace in the world. Enjoy! Willem's show notes page (www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/willem/) Free report on how to overcome social anxiety COMPLETELYwww.social-anxiety-solutions.com/free-report/ Contact me directly:www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards,Sebastiaan van der Schrier

Brad Yates explains how social anxiety is there to serve us. And why it can be so challenging to overcome it. And he then shares the big picture steps to overcoming it. He goes into why we don’t love ourselves, common blocks to loving yourself, and we talk about exposure therapy at great length. He shares an easy-to-understand visual metaphor that helps you see how forcefully facing your fears is futile, and that there are smarter, more efficient ways to overcome your fears. QUOTE: “if we’re not good enough to love ourselves, how on earth are we even good enough for other people to love us? If we think poorly of ourselves, we’re naturally going to expect others to think poorly of us.” Brad's show notes page (www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/brad/) My homepage www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly: www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier _________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do yo

It’s amazingly light and simple and easy and brings you more and more peace and self-confidence and just a sense of ease in being who you are. The words of Tapas Fleming, a Licensed Acupuncturist in practice since 1987, and the developer of TAT; a powerful and easy-to-use technique to clear past stressful or traumatic experiences in an easy, gentle way. TAT in awesome Energy Psychology technique you would love knowing about so you can start using it to shed your social anxiety. Tapas shares: “A lot of people feel like “oh I really want to release this, why haven’t I released this, what’s my problem why am I holding on to it?!”.. but it’s not something a person is doing consciously. It’s not in conscious control unless you’ve got a technique, unless you’ve got a way to connect with that (referring to what you want to release). It’s kind of like talking to your computer and saying “turn on!” and then complaining “why is it not turning on? why is it not working? what’s wrong with me?” But you need a keyboard to

"It brings peace it brings love and it brings closeness and it has so much of a benefit to forgive." The words of Mary Llewellyn, a Hypnotherapist and Psychotherapist who uses Energy Therapies and Art Therapy, and one of the only 29 EFT Founding Masters. She talks about transferring a positive feeling of confidence from one area of your life to another, about not having any emotions to tune into, and she shares various empowering quotes to understand forgiveness. She goes into why people struggle with forgiveness so much and details the benefits of forgiveness. Mair's show notes page (www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/mair/) My homepagewww.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly: www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards,Sebastiaan van der Schrier

“People now react differently to me”The words of Cathy Vartuli, who didn’t date for 13 years because she’s a 320 pound woman who was afraid to get rejected for her weight. She did a session with an expert and two weeks later she was dating and has been on hundreds of dates since.In this interview, Cathy (who is a sex-positive Emotional Freedom Coach who helps people transform their traumas into their greatest strengths using love, laughter and inner guidance) shares her story. She for example says:“I had all the fears about how I looked. As I worked through it, I realised all of us have insecurities. And that was a big A-HA moment. I thought I was the only person in the world that felt awkward and out of place and everybody else was fine. Because I can’t see in other people’s heads, I had this belief that they had it all together and it was just me that’s messed up. When I started letting go of that enough to get closer to people I realised everybody feels awkward.” And she also shares: 1. How much self acce

“There are various stages of transformation, which have an order to them” The words of Sue Beer, who is an originally trained in psychodynamic psychotherapist, an experienced Hypnotherapist, NLP Master Practitioner, EFT Founding Master and AAMET Master Trainer of Trainers. Sue shares how to get started with big change so that you maintain your motivation. She shares how to go from despair to hopeful. She explains the difference between “white knuckling change” (using ongoing will-power) versus true transformation. She says: We get what we focus on. Beliefs are not truths and they haven’t come out of thin air. They don’t just descend on us. We attach to them usually as a consequence of a decision we make when something happens to us. These beliefs are not what we really are. But as long as we hold on to them we get what we're expecting. We attract people who kind of confirm and give us evidence that we’re not good enough. She shares in this interview the one thing you should focus on to make the biggest change

"Generally, people feel at peace after a first session because they realise it’s possible to get out of this." The words of Yves Wauthier, psychotherapist, trainer, author, supervisor of therapists, and a sexologist specialising in brief therapy, complex trauma and attachment disorders. Yves shares practical tips for men and women to overcome sexual dysfunction and how to become comfortable with sex and your sexuality. He talks about other energy therapy techniques aside from EFT that are simple and very powerful. He says "I realised a client can achieve real deep change more easily than with other classical therapy." He says: With energy psychology you don’t have to go so deep into the sensations, the emotion. You need to be connected, but it’s not so hard. Energy psychology for me was the best solution. It changed my life. He further shares a breathing exercise to quickly decrease anxiety as well as a simple trick to quiet your thoughts. Yves' show notes page (www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/yves) My homep

Whatever your situation is, there’s someone that’s gotten over that. For certain. The words of Phil Parker, Master Trainer of NLP, Expert in the psychology of health, happiness & genius, Hay House Author, PhD Researcher and Designer of the Lightning Process.  He shares two simple and effective techniques you can use immediately to let go of worrying and release stress. He says: Anxiety relies on triggering sympathetic nervous system consistently, which is the part of your nervous system that is all about fighting beasts. It triggers adrenaline, it triggers cortisol, noradrenaline and dopamine as well… but is is very linked to the speed at which we talk. Your breathing is linked to your internal voice speed. Slow your internal voice speed down and your breathing will slow down. Slow down your breathing and your nervous system will start to settle and get back to balance. QUOTE: If you start to use the pathway towards calm more and more then what will happen is the connection to the stress pathway will star

Your social anxiety can be the result of a porn addiction… In this fascinating interview Gary Wilson, author and researcher on Pornography and it’s addiction, shares the science behind how internet porn addiction could be the CAUSE of your social anxiety.  He shares how hundreds of guys who stopped porn reported their social anxiety released. And how non-anxious people’s desire to socialise increased, their confidence increased, they became more social. And, how some with diagnosed social anxiety and medication saw improvement or full remission of their condition by stopping porn. This goes into the science behind it in an easily understood way. And he also shares: What to do to increase your will power and decrease your social anxiety within 8 weeks. Why socialising or small talk can become boring (and how this can be reversed Why you could be having trouble being disciplined What sexual dysfunctions out there (erectile disfunction, unable to ejaculate, bizarre fetishes, etc) are the result of porn and how t

"I was less worried about what others thought of me and more oriented around what I thought was important." The words of Andy Bryce (EFT Master) after he started improving his self-respect after decades of low self esteem and little respect for himself. Andy shares what self-respect is, how to regain respect for yourself, how to build strong self-respect from the inside out, and how to build on top of that and create a forward momentum that makes your self-respect rock-solid. We also discuss the value of working through emotions, what to expect when undertaking the journey back to a healthy self-respect, and much more.  QUOTE: No one can love you more than you love yourself. And no one can respect you more than you respect yourself.  Andy's show notes page (social-anxiety-solutions.com/andy) Contact me for coaching:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier _____________

"His panic attacks stopped. He didn’t have any anymore ever" The words of Rehana Webster, EFT Founding Master, counsellor, an NLP Master, and AAMET Trainer of Trainers. Her area of expertise is working with trauma, PTSD, depression, panic attacks, anger, grief and other negative emotions which cause people to remain stuck and unable to develop their highest potential in life.  She’s the developer of the Trauma Buster Technique, a fast, efficient and simple tool that helps trauma victims recover and lead a more functional and satisfying life again.  We talk about her technique, the results you can get with it, and she shares some amazing stories of transformation. She says: The only pain you experience (during the use of this technique) -which you experience daily anyway- is to think about what the trauma is. This is just to get a base-line. After this you immediately start the tapping to bring down the anxiety levels.  We use what’s going on in the body and the mind to elicit the response from a trauma and th

Teun is "effortlessly socially confident". And it's likely not what you think it is. Teun is a friend I met while living in Chiang Mai. He's someone who embodies "effortless social confidence" and I've personally learned a lot from him, just by spending time with him.  In this interview I'm asking him questions to get into his mindset, to uncover his beliefs, to see why he's so comfortable with himself, and what he does (strategies, what to say, what to do, etc) to make friends easily and have a great time socially. Teun is someone who's traveled to a wide variety of countries, traveled from the Netherlands to India in a red disabled car (that only goes 45km per hour!), lived in various countries, and has an amazing social life with friends all over the world. In this interview Teun shares: How he meets new people The one simple questions he asks when meeting someone new that’s low key, no-pressure and easy The easiest way to makes friends naturally How he deals with disapproval How he starts creating a new

"It is life-changing, the results are very very compelling" The words of Dr. David Lake, a medical practitioner, supervisor of therapists, and psychotherapist who has been in private practice since 1977. He shares his views on energy psychology, tapping, creating boundaries, and when face to face therapy is necessary and the benefits of it. He shares: I used to think that myself (that I would have to live with my fears for the rest of my life) as it was my evidence from the real world and it was also true in the psychological and medical profession in the usual sense. And it's been true for many many years. But, approximately 20 years ago things started to change; a whole new paradigm emerged. In this paradigm, the so-called energy psychology, it turns out that even though when you don’t know exactly how it works, you can actually help three kinds of serious human emotion to minimise and even disappear. One is most kinds of anxiety. Two is most kinds of fear. Three is most kinds of deep hurt, related especi

“Well-intentioned parents who try to make us the way society would accept are really teaching us to go outside of ourselves for our sense of approval in a sense that “if someone else approves of me then I can approve of myself” which is totally backwards from how we are meant to be. As a human being each of us is born with self worth. I want people to understand they come into the world as worthy and sovereign beings standing on their own inner land.”  The words of Rue Hass, one of the 29 EFT founding Masters, Intuitive Mentor, and Spiritual Life Path Coach. She continues: “Life can be a deep, rich, beautiful tapestry of experience if you’re willing to approach it in that way and deepen into it rather than focus on what’s wrong.” In this conversation we explore the highly sensitive person (Rue believes that many people labeled as “socially anxious” have a deeply spiritual quality that she calls “sensitive intelligence”) and speak about how to reframe the way we see ourselves so that we can reconnect with o

"You’re not born with social anxiety, it is learned" The words of Gwyneth Moss, an EFT Master (one of the only 29 worldwide) who holds certificates in Neuro Linguistic Programming, Hypnotherapy and the Human Givens approach to Psychotherapy.  She's studied the works of Dr Robert Scaer, a leader in the field of trauma research. She shares: If the way you’re behaving, thinking or feeling doesn’t fit what is happening in the here and now, when you’re not feeling calm for no reason, when you can’t think straight in a situation, or when you can’t act sensibly and resourcefully...  ...you’re being affected by your past! She shares in simple terms how our past affects our day to day experiences and how we can use EFT to release the hold the past has on us, so that we can free ourselves and live lives of calm confidence. She shared how you go from re-living your past to re-telling it; no longer being emotionally connected to your past, being able to live in the now.  QUOTE: With social anxiety your animal brain is go