Social Anxiety Solutions - Your Journey To Social Confidence!

It’s amazingly light and simple and easy and brings you more and more peace and self-confidence and just a sense of ease in being who you are. The words of Tapas Fleming, a Licensed Acupuncturist in practice since 1987, and the developer of TAT; a powerful and easy-to-use technique to clear past stressful or traumatic experiences in an easy, gentle way. TAT in awesome Energy Psychology technique you would love knowing about so you can start using it to shed your social anxiety. Tapas shares: “A lot of people feel like “oh I really want to release this, why haven’t I released this, what’s my problem why am I holding on to it?!”.. but it’s not something a person is doing consciously. It’s not in conscious control unless you’ve got a technique, unless you’ve got a way to connect with that (referring to what you want to release). It’s kind of like talking to your computer and saying “turn on!” and then complaining “why is it not turning on? why is it not working? what’s wrong with me?” But you need a keyboard to

"It brings peace it brings love and it brings closeness and it has so much of a benefit to forgive." The words of Mary Llewellyn, a Hypnotherapist and Psychotherapist who uses Energy Therapies and Art Therapy, and one of the only 29 EFT Founding Masters. She talks about transferring a positive feeling of confidence from one area of your life to another, about not having any emotions to tune into, and she shares various empowering quotes to understand forgiveness. She goes into why people struggle with forgiveness so much and details the benefits of forgiveness. Mair's show notes page (www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/mair/) My homepagewww.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly: www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards,Sebastiaan van der Schrier

“People now react differently to me”The words of Cathy Vartuli, who didn’t date for 13 years because she’s a 320 pound woman who was afraid to get rejected for her weight. She did a session with an expert and two weeks later she was dating and has been on hundreds of dates since.In this interview, Cathy (who is a sex-positive Emotional Freedom Coach who helps people transform their traumas into their greatest strengths using love, laughter and inner guidance) shares her story. She for example says:“I had all the fears about how I looked. As I worked through it, I realised all of us have insecurities. And that was a big A-HA moment. I thought I was the only person in the world that felt awkward and out of place and everybody else was fine. Because I can’t see in other people’s heads, I had this belief that they had it all together and it was just me that’s messed up. When I started letting go of that enough to get closer to people I realised everybody feels awkward.” And she also shares: 1. How much self acce

“There are various stages of transformation, which have an order to them” The words of Sue Beer, who is an originally trained in psychodynamic psychotherapist, an experienced Hypnotherapist, NLP Master Practitioner, EFT Founding Master and AAMET Master Trainer of Trainers. Sue shares how to get started with big change so that you maintain your motivation. She shares how to go from despair to hopeful. She explains the difference between “white knuckling change” (using ongoing will-power) versus true transformation. She says: We get what we focus on. Beliefs are not truths and they haven’t come out of thin air. They don’t just descend on us. We attach to them usually as a consequence of a decision we make when something happens to us. These beliefs are not what we really are. But as long as we hold on to them we get what we're expecting. We attract people who kind of confirm and give us evidence that we’re not good enough. She shares in this interview the one thing you should focus on to make the biggest change

"Generally, people feel at peace after a first session because they realise it’s possible to get out of this." The words of Yves Wauthier, psychotherapist, trainer, author, supervisor of therapists, and a sexologist specialising in brief therapy, complex trauma and attachment disorders. Yves shares practical tips for men and women to overcome sexual dysfunction and how to become comfortable with sex and your sexuality. He talks about other energy therapy techniques aside from EFT that are simple and very powerful. He says "I realised a client can achieve real deep change more easily than with other classical therapy." He says: With energy psychology you don’t have to go so deep into the sensations, the emotion. You need to be connected, but it’s not so hard. Energy psychology for me was the best solution. It changed my life. He further shares a breathing exercise to quickly decrease anxiety as well as a simple trick to quiet your thoughts. Yves' show notes page (www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/yves) My homep

Whatever your situation is, there’s someone that’s gotten over that. For certain. The words of Phil Parker, Master Trainer of NLP, Expert in the psychology of health, happiness & genius, Hay House Author, PhD Researcher and Designer of the Lightning Process.  He shares two simple and effective techniques you can use immediately to let go of worrying and release stress. He says: Anxiety relies on triggering sympathetic nervous system consistently, which is the part of your nervous system that is all about fighting beasts. It triggers adrenaline, it triggers cortisol, noradrenaline and dopamine as well… but is is very linked to the speed at which we talk. Your breathing is linked to your internal voice speed. Slow your internal voice speed down and your breathing will slow down. Slow down your breathing and your nervous system will start to settle and get back to balance. QUOTE: If you start to use the pathway towards calm more and more then what will happen is the connection to the stress pathway will star

Your social anxiety can be the result of a porn addiction… In this fascinating interview Gary Wilson, author and researcher on Pornography and it’s addiction, shares the science behind how internet porn addiction could be the CAUSE of your social anxiety.  He shares how hundreds of guys who stopped porn reported their social anxiety released. And how non-anxious people’s desire to socialise increased, their confidence increased, they became more social. And, how some with diagnosed social anxiety and medication saw improvement or full remission of their condition by stopping porn. This goes into the science behind it in an easily understood way. And he also shares: What to do to increase your will power and decrease your social anxiety within 8 weeks. Why socialising or small talk can become boring (and how this can be reversed Why you could be having trouble being disciplined What sexual dysfunctions out there (erectile disfunction, unable to ejaculate, bizarre fetishes, etc) are the result of porn and how t

"I was less worried about what others thought of me and more oriented around what I thought was important." The words of Andy Bryce (EFT Master) after he started improving his self-respect after decades of low self esteem and little respect for himself. Andy shares what self-respect is, how to regain respect for yourself, how to build strong self-respect from the inside out, and how to build on top of that and create a forward momentum that makes your self-respect rock-solid. We also discuss the value of working through emotions, what to expect when undertaking the journey back to a healthy self-respect, and much more.  QUOTE: No one can love you more than you love yourself. And no one can respect you more than you respect yourself.  Andy's show notes page (social-anxiety-solutions.com/andy) Contact me for coaching:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier _____________

"His panic attacks stopped. He didn’t have any anymore ever" The words of Rehana Webster, EFT Founding Master, counsellor, an NLP Master, and AAMET Trainer of Trainers. Her area of expertise is working with trauma, PTSD, depression, panic attacks, anger, grief and other negative emotions which cause people to remain stuck and unable to develop their highest potential in life.  She’s the developer of the Trauma Buster Technique, a fast, efficient and simple tool that helps trauma victims recover and lead a more functional and satisfying life again.  We talk about her technique, the results you can get with it, and she shares some amazing stories of transformation. She says: The only pain you experience (during the use of this technique) -which you experience daily anyway- is to think about what the trauma is. This is just to get a base-line. After this you immediately start the tapping to bring down the anxiety levels.  We use what’s going on in the body and the mind to elicit the response from a trauma and th

Teun is "effortlessly socially confident". And it's likely not what you think it is. Teun is a friend I met while living in Chiang Mai. He's someone who embodies "effortless social confidence" and I've personally learned a lot from him, just by spending time with him.  In this interview I'm asking him questions to get into his mindset, to uncover his beliefs, to see why he's so comfortable with himself, and what he does (strategies, what to say, what to do, etc) to make friends easily and have a great time socially. Teun is someone who's traveled to a wide variety of countries, traveled from the Netherlands to India in a red disabled car (that only goes 45km per hour!), lived in various countries, and has an amazing social life with friends all over the world. In this interview Teun shares: How he meets new people The one simple questions he asks when meeting someone new that’s low key, no-pressure and easy The easiest way to makes friends naturally How he deals with disapproval How he starts creating a new

"It is life-changing, the results are very very compelling" The words of Dr. David Lake, a medical practitioner, supervisor of therapists, and psychotherapist who has been in private practice since 1977. He shares his views on energy psychology, tapping, creating boundaries, and when face to face therapy is necessary and the benefits of it. He shares: I used to think that myself (that I would have to live with my fears for the rest of my life) as it was my evidence from the real world and it was also true in the psychological and medical profession in the usual sense. And it's been true for many many years. But, approximately 20 years ago things started to change; a whole new paradigm emerged. In this paradigm, the so-called energy psychology, it turns out that even though when you don’t know exactly how it works, you can actually help three kinds of serious human emotion to minimise and even disappear. One is most kinds of anxiety. Two is most kinds of fear. Three is most kinds of deep hurt, related especi

“Well-intentioned parents who try to make us the way society would accept are really teaching us to go outside of ourselves for our sense of approval in a sense that “if someone else approves of me then I can approve of myself” which is totally backwards from how we are meant to be. As a human being each of us is born with self worth. I want people to understand they come into the world as worthy and sovereign beings standing on their own inner land.”  The words of Rue Hass, one of the 29 EFT founding Masters, Intuitive Mentor, and Spiritual Life Path Coach. She continues: “Life can be a deep, rich, beautiful tapestry of experience if you’re willing to approach it in that way and deepen into it rather than focus on what’s wrong.” In this conversation we explore the highly sensitive person (Rue believes that many people labeled as “socially anxious” have a deeply spiritual quality that she calls “sensitive intelligence”) and speak about how to reframe the way we see ourselves so that we can reconnect with o

"You’re not born with social anxiety, it is learned" The words of Gwyneth Moss, an EFT Master (one of the only 29 worldwide) who holds certificates in Neuro Linguistic Programming, Hypnotherapy and the Human Givens approach to Psychotherapy.  She's studied the works of Dr Robert Scaer, a leader in the field of trauma research. She shares: If the way you’re behaving, thinking or feeling doesn’t fit what is happening in the here and now, when you’re not feeling calm for no reason, when you can’t think straight in a situation, or when you can’t act sensibly and resourcefully...  ...you’re being affected by your past! She shares in simple terms how our past affects our day to day experiences and how we can use EFT to release the hold the past has on us, so that we can free ourselves and live lives of calm confidence. She shared how you go from re-living your past to re-telling it; no longer being emotionally connected to your past, being able to live in the now.  QUOTE: With social anxiety your animal brain is go

It’s really important for us to have a clear understanding of what the transformational path looks like as we’re moving through it. It makes a big difference for people because it also gives them the ability to when we recognise these small steps we’ve made forward, it gives us the sense of achievement and momentum and so we keep after it." The words of expert "Gene Monterastelli"; a Brooklyn based EFT tapping practitioner who works with people to help them overcome limiting beliefs, anxiety, and relationship challenges.  Gene suffered from specific social anxiety: "I was totally fine performing on stage for 7000 people. But when I was engaging with a person 1 on 1 I didn’t have control because the other person had more agency, they could make choices. And that unpredictability of how they would respond was crippling. For me it was the starting of conversations."  We go into depth on the journey from social anxiety to social confidence and Gene shares what he did to overcome his social anxiety using the tappi

"There is hope for everyone" says Sophia Cayer, one of the only 29 EFT founding Masters who has been devoted to a full-time EFT practice and has been teaching EFT since 2000.  Sophia has had more than 12 000 client sessions and is known for finding core issues and working with tough challenges.  We go into depth on the things that prevent people from letting go their social anxiety. We go into why some people stay stuck, and what can be done to get unstuck.  She says: It takes courage to do the work but you will find it worthwhile. And what is great about EFT is the fact that you don’t necessarily have to tell your story and get into detail. There are so many subtle ways to get to the situation, so if there’s a concern to talk about things or reveal things that are uncomfortable, know there are gentle and subtle ways to get to these things and clear them. The process does not have to be horrifying or incredibly painful. Not saying their can’t be or won’t be moments where there will be intense emotion, but fo

The most important thing to understand to beat your social anxiety is what we discuss today: "overcoming subconscious resistance". When you don't overcome this resistance, you cannot become anxiety-free. Ever. Lindsay Kenny, one of the only 29 EFT Founding Masters, a Life Coach, and EFT AAMET Trainer of Trainers is the expert on subconscious resistance and shares her wisdom on the podcast.  She says “If you haven’t been able to overcome your problem you have a subconscious resistance to change.” Consciously you want to change, but your subconscious (which is much bigger than your conscious mind) says: “We’re not changing because if I go out into a social situation, I’m gonna get hurt, remember what happened last time?!” She also guides you through an exercise to overcome this subconscious resistance easily and quickly. This is a MUST-listen. QUOTE: Conventional psychology says “let’s desensitise you from that fear by forcing you to face it, little steps at a time where you grid your teeth and bite your finge

Our popular online coaching program guiding you all the way from social anxiety to social confidence is now OPEN! You can sign up from 24th Feb to 29th Feb midnight EST! Use this opportunity to secure one of the limited spots and be guided to social confidence in the most effective and gentle way, from the comfort of your own home! All info at bit.ly/socialconfidenceclub P.S. Don’t hesitate and go there now! We only open the Club once a year for 5 days! Use this chance!! --- Rick Wilkes is an Emotional Freedom Coach who has been guiding people for over 23 years using energy healing and EFT Tapping and has worked with thousands of individuals. He blends a unique combination of body-centered and energetic approaches to activate authentic self-expression, personal power, calm confidence, and a warm sense of self-love in his clients. We discuss the fear of rejection, how to overcome it and expand your comfort zone. Rather than push yourself harshly, we speak of how to gently expand it, and listen to your bo

Our popular online coaching program guiding you all the way from social anxiety to social confidence is now OPEN! You can sign up from 24th Feb to 29th Feb midnight EST! Use this opportunity to secure one of the limited spots and be guided to social confidence in the most effective and gentle way, from the comfort of your own home! All info at bit.ly/socialconfidenceclub P.S. Don’t hesitate and go there now! We only open the Club once a year for 5 days! Use this chance!! --- Steve Wells is a psychologist. He has trained to the highest level in provocative therapy, has extensive training and experience in brief strategic therapy, and has been training counsellors and therapists for over 20 years. Together with Dr David Lake he also conducts personal development seminars and professional training workshops in Advanced EFT and Provocative Energy Techniques.  He and Dr Lake developed Simple Energy Techniques (SET) and the unique advanced Energy-based approach Provocative Energy Techniques (PET). Steve share



This may forever shift your perspective on sensitivity and vulnerability and place it in a perspective that empowers and inspires you.
 Tom’s my close buddy and is an ex-professional MMA fighter. He practices a combination of Energy Psychology and intuitive physical therapy to facilitate deep levels of acceptance. 

 He's been on (and still is) a long journey of intense self-exploration, has lived in the jungle for 6 months, has done a 10 meditation retreat, and is the ideal man to speak to when it comes to owning your sensitivity and feeling safe enough to be vulnerable.  We talk about the necessity of owning your sensitivity and getting yourself to a place where it becomes safe to be vulnerable. Tom grew up in the UK and sensitivity was seen as weak and pathetic. Same for where I’m from. This has set us both on a journey to exploring our sensitivity.  
QUOTE: Being sensitive and being vulnerable is really a huge part of being able to connect with people. The more vulnerable and sensitive you allow yoursel

Our popular online coaching program guiding you all the way from social anxiety to social confidence is now OPEN! You can sign up from 24th Feb to 29th Feb midnight EST! Use this opportunity to secure one of the limited spots and be guided to social confidence in the most effective and gentle way, from the comfort of your own home! All info at bit.ly/socialconfidenceclub P.S. Don’t hesitate and go there now! We only open the Club once a year for 5 days! Use this chance!! --- Tania suffered from social anxiety for the longest time and has completely resolved it.  She’s an NLP Trainer, EFT founding Master and Trainer, TAT Professional Trainer, Hypnotherapy Trainer and Practitioner. She’s featured on the BBC TV show Inside Out, as well as on a Swedish TV Show where she helped someone overcome a binge eating disorder. She has extensive experience working one on one with clients clearing fear and nerves in public speaking, including those who experience panic attacks, blushing and social phobia. We go int