The New Man

Do you believe you have commitment issues? Why do we sabotage ourselves? And how can we overcome analysis paralysis so that we can start taking meaningful action today? In this excerpt from This Book Will Make You Dangerous, I’m going to share the reasons why we hit the brakes when we’re trying to make a positive change, and we’ll also begin to understand the invisible force of resistance so that it doesn’t keep us stuck. If you’re interested in the book you can learn more by visiting DangerousBookstore.com. In this episode: Why won’t a man commit? What keeps someone from committing? Why do we get stuck or fail at making a change? Why do we sabotage ourselves? What drives analysis paralysis, excuses, and resistance Plus: How can we learn to identify our resistance so that we don’t let it hold us back? Are you convinced something terrible might happen if you were to make a big change? What if the fear holding you back isn’t so bad after all? How can we get out of analysis paralysis and into action today?

JP Bouvet is a world class drummer that has lived through one of my recurring nightmares — twice. In this talk we explore our fear of face planting in front of others, the importance of meaning in our work, and why he’s chosen to redefine himself professionally. You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/ This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way.

Comedian Kyle Kinane (Comedy Central, Trampoline in a Ditch) discusses why we need to laugh at ourselves, getting caught up in comparisons, and confronting our fear of rejection. You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/ This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way.

Jaimal Yogis (Saltwater Buddha, The Fear Project) on mindfulness, meditation, and riding emotional waves. Also discussed: fatherhood, common misconceptions about meditation, and the trap of trying to outrun what makes us uncomfortable. You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/ This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way.

What if the fear of failure wasn’t the thing holding us back? Could the freedom we deeply want be available to us right now? And how could we quickly shift into a perspective that challenges us to play big? Today we’re going to zoom out and see our problems and lives from a perspective we rarely take. In this excerpt from This Book Will Make You Dangerous, we’ll tap into a universal view to minimize fear in order to access greater freedom and power. If you’re interested in the book you can learn more by visiting DangerousBookstore.com. In this episode: What is freedom? What would life be like without proving and defending? The fear of failure Why we’re not a big deal — and we never will be Learning how to play big even though we are very small You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.c

Erik Everhard, author of Unleash Your Sexual Superpowers has been in the porn industry for over 20 years. He’s had sex with over 4,000 women. Today we discuss what it was like to have such a unique career, how he ended up feeling lost, and how he found his way again after learning how to help others. You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/ This Book Will Make You Dangerous is a swift kick in the ass that will make you laugh out loud. It’s a practical guide to play for what we truly want, to get over ourselves, and have a ton of fun along the way.

Do you get pissed off when someone says something that goes against your values? Do you believe that negotiation is all about winning and getting the best of the other guy? And is calling someone out the best way to make positive change? Kwame Christian is the Director of the American Negotiation Institute which means he knows a thing or two about resolving conflicts and finding solutions. Today he’s going to share some basic tips that will help us navigate challenges online, at home, at work, and in our neighborhood. In this interview: How to approach difficult conversations “We’re always negotiating.” Why most conversations are doomed to fail The 3 main goals of any negotiation Why negotiations are 90% ego or emotionally driven Plus: Calling out vs calling in Why “calling out” typically backfires Virtue signaling and performing instead of persuading What to do if you’re actually trying to inspire change What’s the number one goal of power? You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same minds

Does it seem scary to talk about race? How is racial tension similar to an uncomfortable Thanksgiving dinner? And what if the thing that would make a difference is much closer than we could imagine? Recently I learned a valuable lesson: that I could actually talk to my black friends about their experiences instead of making assumptions and relying on the media or some idealogical group to tell me what to say, think, or do. Having these individual conversations has been revelatory for many reasons — one of which was realizing again how much simply being curious and paying attention could have a huge impact. I learned that it was safe to ask questions and to simply listen. That I wouldn’t be attacked because I was white or if I didn’t get it politically correct. One of the conversations that cracked my world open was with my friend, Mark Palmer. He’s an author and corporate leadership consultant, and even though we’ve known each other for many years, I’ve never asked him about his experience as a black ma

Have you ever wanted something so badly that you screwed it up? Why do our efforts to “get it right” usually end up with us getting it wrong? And how does fear block our ability to be more energized, creative, and bold? Today, we’re going to hear another excerpt from This Book Will Make You Dangerous. In this excerpt you’ll hear how I found myself in a cinematic coffee shop shootout and why I almost blew up my marriage before it ever got off the ground. If you’re interested in the book you can learn more by visiting DangerousBookstore.com. In this episode: How our fear of screwing things up tends to screw things up. What kills our ability to be bold, playful, and creative How I survived a direct hit from a soy vegan latte with 3% dick sprinkles How my wife, Alyson saved our future marriage by humiliating me You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is

Have you ever felt that you’re waiting to do what you really want to do in life? How could the fact that we’re going to die, help us live more fully? And what are the two key elements needed for us to step fully into our power? Today, I want to share another excerpt from This Book Will Make You Dangerous. First, you’ll go through a short exercise designed to help us create more alignment with what we truly want. And second we’ll discuss how giving away our power keeps us playing small. If you’re interested in the book you can learn more by visiting DangerousBookstore.com. In this episode: Are you aligned? How to use your mortality to stop playing small Why be dead now? Tolerating the small stuff, scarcity, productivity issues 45 year old boys The (2) key elements required to step into our power You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for

Do you ever play it safe when it comes to money or sex? Do you take risks or only go for what appears to be a “sure thing?” And how can we make sure we don’t get stuck in a prey mentality? Today we’re going to listen in on a recent call I had with a coaching client. His work and sex life were feeling flat, so we explored some ways he could get out of his own way, stop playing it safe, and find that mojo again. In this interview: Feeling uninspired in our work and sex life Why playing it safe can kill our careers and relationships Trying to avoid being the “weird” guy The pressure of trying to “get it right” Are you aligned with what you want in life? Plus: Being a knuckle dragging romantic What keeps us in a prey mentality Nice guy syndrome What if it was okay to face-plant from time to time? How can post-it notes change your relationship? You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and ent

What does it mean to be dangerous? How can we ensure we don’t become grumpy, soft, and fragile old men? And could what you’re about to hear be the worst, most disgusting way to open a book? Today, I want to share an excerpt from This Book Will Make You Dangerous. This is the introduction where we take a very unconventional look at expectations and clarify why I throw most success how-to books in the trash. Learn more by visiting DangerousBookstore.com. In this interview: What happened when I went to the butt doctor Why I throw most success how-to books in the trash Is the pursuit of success making us weak? How expectations kill our peace of mind Are we playing a game we can’t win? The trap of seeking comfort and safety once and for all You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/ Th

With so much uncertainty right now, how do you deal with the uncomfortable feelings that arise? What if it actually all came crashing down? What could possibly exist on the other side of your worst nightmare? Our brains are constantly scanning for threats — most of which never come true, but this constant worrying can kill the enjoyment of our short time to be alive. Today I’m sharing a recent group coaching call where, instead of running away from these scary feelings we chose to do something else instead. In this interview: Clarifying what’s at stake Getting hijacked by our fear Phil Stutz “Only the dead survive.” Tapping into a power we rarely recognize Learning to watch the theater in our minds Plus: How to pivot out of our fear Why trying to run away from fear creates more suffering What happens when we relax our need to control everything? The power of brotherhood How to Change Your Mind by Michael Pollan You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier

Do we have to depend on fear for motivation? Can we learn how to put scarcity and pressure into perspective? And how can we learn to forge our own path instead of following the herd? Today, my wife Alyson and I discuss how fear can serve us — or work against us. On many levels we’re being challenged. For many this challenge is simply a matter of being uncomfortable or bored. Others are experiencing great uncertainty with regards to their professions and financial well-being. And then there are those who are being confronted by mortality itself. We can get caught up in the collective freak out or we can use this period as a wake up call. It’s a time to zoom out and reflect. The men I’m coaching all around the world are seeing this challenging time as an opportunity. It’s an opportunity for us to assess our lives and how we’re choosing to live them. Are our professions and relationships and lifestyle choices aligned with our deepest values? Or does today’s challenge help us see that it’s time to cou

Do you think more success and status are the keys to lasting fulfillment? What happens when our achievements leave us feeling empty? And what does it mean to be dangerous? Today, my wife, Alyson and I explore a life beyond constant comfort and how most men are stuck in a trap — striving to play a game they can’t win. In this interview: Alyson recovers from her bathroom noises Getting over ourselves can be painful A threat to our self image feels like a threat to our lives What it means to be responsible for your life Tolerating bullshit vs saying “no” Plus: Settling because “this is just the way it is” Blaming others and playing the victim Do victims enjoy feeling powerless? Why someone with a victim mentality isn’t coachable The addiction to sadness and suffering And: When success leaves us feeling empty “What’s wrong with me? I thought I’d feel fulfilled.” What would feel expansive? What do I want more than being comfortable all the time? Developing a guidance system based on what you value most

If you want more out of life then what’s really getting in the way? Why do we have such a hard time making a commitment? And what’s so wrong with trying to live happily ever after? Today, my wife Alyson and I explore the deep-seated fears that keep us stuck, the ways we operate from a prey mentality, and Alyson’s embarrassing bathroom experience. In this interview: “Why won’t a man commit?” There’s no such thing a commitment-phobe Competing commitments (Robert Kegan and Lisa Lahey) What keeps us from having alignment with our values? When we believe that there are monsters under our bed Plus: The danger of “set it and forget it” Identifying our prey mentality The shadow to personal growth and self-help We’re forgetting how powerful we are And: Why seeking “easy street” is a trap Exoneration with Phil Stutz and Barry Michels Fragile egos and the “need” to prove our self worth Alyson’s body sounds You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with hi

Do you want to make a change but believe you need the perfect plan before you take action? Does your work or salary or title determine your value as a man? And how do we know when it’s time to make a big change? Today, my wife, Alyson and I pick up where we left off in the episode entitled A Bold Way to Start a Relationship. We explore how I went from feeling very confident to very lost; how I spent years dicking around while waiting for the perfect plan; and how I finally pulled my head out of my ass and got back on track. In this interview: Stepping out of our comfort zone Being a small fish in a big pond When our work determines our self worth Dealing with uncertainty and self-doubt Waiting for the perfect time and the perfect plan Plus: Stuck in excuses Trying to predict the future Refusing the call to adventure Moving from “pre-f**k it” to “post-f**k it” Getting out of the bleachers and into the game You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses w

Do you face your challenges alone or do other men have your back? How does our desire for a plan or vision become a trap? And what’s the key to making a commitment in relationships? Alyson and I continue where we left off in the episode entitled, Should You Settle or Blow Up Your Life? Today we talk about making bold moves, the value of a men’s group, and how I almost killed our relationship by acting like a nice guy. In this interview: Outgrowing a split lifestyle Starting Tripp’s first men’s group The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida A bold way to start a relationship Plus: Moving from discomfort into aliveness When trying not to screw it up starts to screw it up Wanting the truth vs comfort Making a smart commitment Waiting for the perfect plan is a trap You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is available for immediate download. https://w

Have you ever suffered from “imposter syndrome”? Are you okay with simply chasing money or do you want your work to be meaningful, too? And how often do you tell yourself, “I will figure this out”? Today, The Middle Finger Project author Ash Ambirge is here to discuss how she went from growing up in a trailer park to middle class success to sleeping in a K-Mart parking lot with only $26 to her name to eventually making seven figures. In this interview: Growing up in a trailer park Being mentally tough Being willing to rock the boat Striving for middle class Why becoming “normal” was so disappointing Plus: Dealing with imposter syndrome The feeling of “I don’t know what I’m supposed to do next.” Doing work you’re proud of Wanting our work to align with our values Feeling guilty for wanting more out of life And: Ash’s “sleeping in a K-Mart parking lot” story “I will figure it out.” The key to being “Unf*ckwithable” The trouble of not having your own money Learning how to provide value You don't have to

Do you feel guilty for wanting more out of life? Is it possible to outgrow your current profession or relationship? And would you have to blow up everything you care about in order to make a big change? Today my wife Alyson and I pick up where we left off in the previous episode entitled, The Emotionally Constipated Control Freak. In this conversation we explore taking responsibility for what we want, the seduction of settling, and the one question that kicked me in the gut. In this interview: Living a split life “Stop being a spoiled brat.” Focusing on problems vs solutions Feeling guilty for wanting more out of life Plus: Have you outgrown your life? The Drama Triangle - Victim, Persecutor, Rescuer Shifting from bitching to focusing on what you want Are you defensive or curious? The fear of being broke and alone And: “Do you feel like you’re settling?” The myth: “I have to blow up my life in order to make a change.” Are you being lulled to sleep? Waiting for the perfect, safe plan The phone call that