The New Man

Have you ever hit a big win…and felt nothing? Have you chased success, only to realize it was shallow or meaningless? And what happens when we finally start living in alignment with our soul instead of our ego? Today, Alyson and I dive into success, comparisons, and the art of getting over yourself. We talk about who we are underneath the urge to protect, please, and prove, and why it’s actually a gift when our wins feel empty.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/08/success-without-soul   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Do you have a voice in your head telling you what you should and shouldn’t do? Why does this “tyranny of should” drain our aliveness, passion, and connection? And how might your life change if you weren’t afraid to be who you truly are? Today, Alyson and I talk about how we all “should” on ourselves and each other. We explore how this can leave us feeling trapped and emotionally constipated—and what life can feel like when we loosen our grip on control.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/08/shoulding-all-over-yourself   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippL

Do you treat the pizza delivery guy with more kindness than your partner? Do you frequently bicker or cut each other down with biting humor? And how is this disrespectful behavior killing your aliveness, connection, and sexual spontaneity? Today Alyson and I discuss the all too common problem of disrespect, resentment, and contempt in relationships. We explore how we can ditch the sniping and bickering and instead learn how to keep things clean, have each other’s back, and handle disagreements with respect.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/07/bickering-disrespect   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse t

Do you feel like you keep getting stuck in the same old arguments? What drains our aliveness more than work? And what if the thing killing your sex life had nothing to do with sex? Today Alyson and I reveal one of — if not the — biggest killers of aliveness, intimacy, and trust. It’s the drama triangle. We explore what it truly is, how it keeps us from finding solutions, and what you can do to pull yourself from its trap.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/07/drama-triangle   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Do you ever feel stuck about what to do with your life, relationship, or career? What’s really going on when we say, “I don’t know what to do”? And how do we move forward without a clear vision or plan? Today, Alyson and I discuss feeling stuck and uncertain about what to do next. We explore what fuels anxiety, why comfort is different than peace, as well as some ways we can move from uncertainty into clarity.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/07/stuck-and-uncertain   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Do you talk to AI like it’s your therapist? Is it wrong to prefer interactions with a machine over a human? And how is our pursuit of comfort killing our sense of confidence and meaning? Today, Alyson and I discuss the rise of AI as a substitute for friendships and emotional support. We explore why people are forming real bonds with artificial companions, how these tools can actually help, and what we risk when we forget the value of real connection.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/06/ai-therapy-connection   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com

Why do some guys crave women who aren’t good for them? Is the “nice girl” always boring — and the “bad girl” more fun? And do we really need to put on an act just to make a relationship work? Today, Alyson and I talk about something a lot of people wrestle with — feeling torn between who we’re attracted to and who’s actually a better fit. We explore why we often contort ourselves to be accepted, how that shapes attraction, and what to do if feel like you have to choose between chemistry and connection.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/06/attraction-vs-connection   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to

Do you get drained by small talk? Does it feel like no one else likes to talk about the things you love? And how can you have deeper conversations even if you don’t see eye to eye? Today Alyson and I discuss some ways to have deeper and more meaningful conversations — even when interests don’t align. Whether you’re chatting with strangers or deepening bonds in a long-term relationship, we share a few key ideas that’ll help you get out of the shallow end of the pool.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/05/deeper-conversations   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://

Should you settle in your relationship? Do you ever wonder if there’s someone out there who’s a better fit? And could raising the bar too high leave you alone forever? Today, Alyson and I dig into the idea of “settling” in relationships. We talk about what it really means to raise your standards, how we sabotage relationships, and why it’s tempting to focus on someone else’s flaws instead of facing our own fears.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/05/settle-in-relationship   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Do you ever fantasize about escaping your current life? Is fear the one setting your goals and expectations? And do you have any idea what would truly bring you peace of mind? Today, Alyson and I try to help a listener who is tired of the grind and wants to hit the eject button. We discuss how to know if you’re on the right track, why we pile on the pressure to succeed, and accessing our deeper selves to find peace of mind.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/04/on-the-wrong-path   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Is it easier to do a cold plunge than to deal with your partner’s emotions? If your partner’s in a bad mood, should you just be their punching bag? And do you spend more time focusing on solutions or who’s to blame? Today Alyson and I explore navigating big emotions in a partnership. We explore how to deal with intensity while also setting boundaries against aggression and good old-fashioned drama.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/04/dealing-with-blame-and-emotions   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

What does it mean to 10X your life? Why are we so afraid to go “backwards” financially? And what’s really driving our desire for more, more, more? Today, Alyson and I talk about developing a healthy high achiever mindset. We explore scarcity, motivation, and what really drives us to be “set for life.”   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/03/set-for-life   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

If your partner cheats on you, can the relationship be repaired? Is it your fault if your partner cheats? And how do men respond differently to being cheated on? Adam Nisenson is the author of A Man’s Guide to Partner Betrayal — a book specifically for men whose partners have cheated on them. We discuss why he calls infidelity a “death experience,” why it’s such a blow to our self esteem, and what not to do if you find out your partner has betrayed you.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/03/cheating-guide-to-betrayal-nisenson   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https

Is sex a source of frustration with your partner? Do you feel sexually rejected by them? And if you don’t push for sex, will your partner ever initiate it? Many folks — too many folks — are unsatisfied with their sex lives. This can be a huge source of frustration and resentment between partners, which can ultimately lead to affairs or divorce. But does it have to be this way? Ruth Ramsay is a sex educator, coach, and creator of a TED talk that has garnered millions of views. She’s seen inside the sex lives of many people, and today she’s going to help us understand why sex is so challenging as well as what we can do to make it less frustrating and more fulfilling.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/02/sexual-rejection   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluste

Do you struggle with spirituality? If you stay off the naughty list, does the Universe give you what you want like Santa Claus? And why can spirituality feel so threatening to some folks? Today Alyson and I discuss some of the ways folks relate to the unseen, mysterious world of spirituality. We explore how this relates to our fear of uncertainty, our need for control, and why some people — including me — struggle with spirituality.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/02/struggling-with-spirituality   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Do you believe you need alcohol or some other crutch to function at your best? Do fears like imposter syndrome or stage fright ever completely go away? And is it still worthwhile to be generous and kind? Randy Blythe is best known as the vocalist for the metal band, lamb of god. He’s spent decades making records and playing to massive audiences all around the world. He’s also just another guy you might see surfing. That’s how we’ve become friends. Today we dive into his new book of essays, Just Beyond the Light and his difficult path of sobriety. We also discuss how, after a fan lost his life at a show in the Czech Republic back in 2010, Randy chose to face trial when he could have found a way out. If you enjoy gritty stories, stick around and consider picking up his new book.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/01/randy-blythe-just-beyond-the-light   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit ht

Is there a voice in your head that says you need to make a change? Do you experience scarcity if you’re not always making more money? And what can you do if the things that used to light you up feel empty now? Today Alyson and I discuss what we can do when we feel out of alignment with our lives. We talk about why we don’t need to beat ourselves up, what really holds us back from making a change, and why feeling “not enough” is really an invitation to get out of the shallow end of the pool.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/01/feeling-stuck   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life

Does it feel like your life is on hold until you figure out your purpose? What’s the real reason many folks are driven to be wealthy? And why do so many “successful” people feel burned out and empty? Dr Jordan Grumet returns to The New Man to discuss what many believe is the key to their fulfillment — purpose. He’s got a unique experience of being a doctor who helps people at the end of their lives, and he’s also a popular financial podcast host. This means he sees the gap between what is driving so many of us to be wealthy and what really matters. He’s written a new book called The Purpose Code that I love. It strips away the magical thinking BS and drills down to reveal what purpose and meaning really are. The result is a framework we can all use to do more of what we love, spend time with the people we love, and enjoy the precious time we have on this planet.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/12/purpose-code-jordan-grumet   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https:

Is it normal for you to forget things until someone nags you about it? Do you ever wonder why your relationships seem shallow or you miss out on career opportunities? And what does this all have to do with brown M&M’s? Today Alyson and I talk about people pleasing, nice guy syndrome, and how being checked out is killing your sex life and career. We discuss the dangers of transactional relating, why the little things matter and how you can become more trustworthy simply by saying “no” more often.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/12/people-pleasing   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk throu

Are you devoted to anything other than money, security, or status? Does living with an open heart make you weak? And how is staying guarded killing aliveness? I grew up guarded and armored. For many years, I thought it was necessary and strong to cut myself off from emotional vulnerability. The truth is that I was fragile and incapable of being in emotionally challenging situations. That way of living almost destroyed me. For the last 20 years I’ve watched my wife Alyson navigate life very differently. She’s one of those rare few that can effortlessly disarm people and help them access their own hearts. Her strength in emotional situations is inspiring. It’s her superpower. So is this just something she was born with or is it a skill that she’s developed? I’ve always wanted to know but never asked. Until today.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/12/being-guarded   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lani