Delight Your Marriage

There are so many amazing topics for this week's podcast, I'm not sure which ones should I write here! Marie and I talk more in depth about her relationship with God and her relationship with her husband.   These are just some of the things we talk about: what life with a husband who is a sociopath looks like -- and no, it's not what you may think! the defining features of a sociopath and how they got a "psychological miracle" how her husband tried to kill his father and landed in jail her husband was a devout atheist until he started reading the Bible and now millions watch his Apologetics debates defending Cheistianity Marie was back to being a Christian after reading an Apologetics book how their complete honesty helped solidify their relationship how reading the Bible helps David in his daily life   Other topics that we talk about how sex should be treated as a spiritual bond and not just as a physical bonding between married couples how there's no aspect of YOUR story cannot be touched by God's grace

I had a wonderful and extremely inspiring chat with Marie Wood, who is raising 5 children (a basketball team, according to her!) with her husband, David Wood--the very famous Apologist. Two of their sons, Reid and Paley, both have a rare, life-threatening condition called myotubular myopathy. It’s so rare that it only affects 1 in 50,000 male live births. It causes problems with muscle tone and dangerously affects muscles that control necessary functions like breathing and swallowing. In this interview, I was moved to tears more than once because of the story of Marie and her children. She is an incredible woman who clearly loves the Lord and is such a force for good even in the face of suffering.  I know if you listen to this conversation you’ll come away in awe that our God can even raise the dead in this day and age! I’m amazed and I pray this will be an empowering and affirming message for you as well. Marie serves as vice president for a non-profit organization to connect people affected by myotubular my

Hi there! This is part 2 of my chat with Ruth Buezis, author of Awaken Love. You can listen to part 1 here. If you loved listening to part 1, part 2 delves deeper into the specifics of lovemaking and Ruth and I's thoughts about the different types of orgasm that women would love to experience.    Other things we talk about: Just having sex vs. getting to know each other through sex The dynamics of who leads during intercourse The in and out movement for a man, it's good for him. But how about the woman? The three ways women can have orgasms What does the Bible say about sex Is the intercourse you're having with your spouse the kind of intercourse that leads to orgasm? The clitoral alignment technique: what is it exactly? Some helpful things for the wives: What you can do to allow you to discover new and interesting feelings during intercourse The journey you can take to learn more about the orgasms you can experience Understanding new concepts and ideas that are related to orgasms G-spot vs clitoral orgasm

I'm so excited to chat with Ruth Buezis (author of Awaken Love) about how to transform your sex life  into something much deeper.    Ruth started out her journey by talking about sex to 8 of her closest friends! Word spread and she's now sharing her journey to hundreds of women who used to be in the same boat as she was.    We talk about Christian couples and the usual questions we get from them: -How do I help my wife orgasm? -How do I orgasm during intercourse (from wives)? -How long should I last (from husbands)? -What EXACTLY should I do (from both!)?   And as Ruth says, men can get so caught up in the mechanics -- but there is so much more to sex than just mechanics!   What are the things that husbands and wives can do DURING and AFTER intercourse instead of feeling pressured and worried?   There are actually SO MANY things couples can do to help remove the pressure!   Whether or not there's orgasm during intercourse, there are lots of things that CAN be done so it's always mutually enjoyable during inte

How do you become MORE attractive to your wife?    What exactly do I mean when I say "attraction"?    Well, it's kind of like having a pull towards yourself. Whatever it is that you're doing, it's going to pull her and cause her to desire you. When you're attractive to her, she'll also have a physical desire towards you.   What can you do as a spouse to cause her to be interested again? To be FULLY in the marriage again?   My theory? Attraction works outside of marriage like this:  You are a whole human being with your own passions and desires and she starts being drawn to your power and confidence. Slowly, through time, you BOTH start to fall in love.    It's simple: Chemistry (natural attraction) + spending time with each other = being attracted to someone   We'll be attracted to different types of people our whole lives. It's up to us as married people to not spend time with others.    So how do you become the whole man that you want to be? By desperately seeking her love? By wishing to spend more time wi

  Over the years listeners have asked for my book Delight Your Husband: The Christian wife’s manual to passion, confidence, and oral sex, to be available on paperback. It is now available!   And if you get the book, read, and review on Amazon, you can have access to a $97 Masterclass for free!   The Masterclass will be September 15, 2019! When you do those three things go ahead and email [email protected] And you’ll be on the list! Thank you so so much!

Does sex feel like a duty?   When he asks to make love, I believe that he's actually doing a really brave thing. He could be afraid of rejection and is actually insecure about it.  What if you have the opportunity to bring out your husband's generosity by being compassionate about his sexuality? As a side: Dear husbands, If you want your wife to work with me, I encourage you to take the first step in transforming your marriage. By doing this, she'll be receptive to transforming herself as well.  Wives, I want you to know that if your opinion of sex is that it's a chore or a duty, it’s probably hurting your spouse's feelings. AND sex has to start with having an open heart and a good perspective. Otherwise it doesn’t feel like making love, it feels like you value it as much as washing the dishes. What if you can go to a place of: Joy, fun and excitement To the point that you physically crave sex I want you to get there. Listen in for encouragement and new perspectives and tools to make love rather than do

First and foremost, I'm so glad you're planning for sex. Many people let this HIGH priority slip away from their marriage. And they wonder why their marriage turns into a disaster.   I am GRATEFUL if you are one who puts it on your calendar--it means you DO prioritize it!   So, I'm now encouraging you to go the next step and make it sexy. So often I hear from husbands that they make love the exact same way every single time they make love. And "it's even on the calendar!"   Well, 1st- the good news is you're making love (!!) and 2nd- ladies, we can plan sex (just not let him in on it!) ;) Listen in for inspiring ideas on how and why to spice things up and how you can plan sex without making him feel like a To Do List item! Aka...plan it sexily!   How EXACTLY do other people even plan for sex? Planning for sex can look different for many people: You can plan for sex in other physical aspects (If you're too full from dinner, you might be too sleepy for sex!)   You can plan for sex emotionally  (are you emot

What does it mean and WHY would you actually do it? What if it’s COMPLETELY outside of your personality? What to actually do? (Steamy examples!) --- Before we dive in… I run a men's course called Masculinity Reclaimed: Be respected, enjoy fierce intimacy and love being married again.   It's a program which helps you understand how to be an amazing husband so your wife wants to do this kind of stuff. It dramatically transforms  marriages.    I work with men in this program and interview their wives who started out rating their intimacy as a 3 out of 10 and then they move to a 7 out of 10 or from a 5 out of 10 to a 9 out of 10!  ---   ALL-DAY seduction is:  not normal for me I don't wake up thinking I want to be someone who likes playful touching throughout the day I thought it was sinful. “Why think about sex the whole day???” was my question. Well, now I’ve changed my tune. Here’s why…   The reason I do this work: I love families I love what children have when it's a safe, loving family The desire for in

Good Morning--- I wanted to say a prayer for you. And let you know that whatever situation you're facing He is with you. He is right there beside you.  He says: 28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” Matt 11:28-30 (NIV)   God is with you in this situation. Jesus loves you and wants to take your burdens. Love you and praying for you.    Love,  Belah

Do you wish YOU were into sex more?   A lot of things are not mentioned in the Bible: Electricity Vehicles Importance of exercise Internet So much of our daily life is not spoken about in the Bible! And yet we have no problem doing it, every day. In fact, we’d say it was good, though not mentioned in the Bible.    So, why don’t we have the same view of sex?    Art isn’t mentioned in the Bible but some like painting, some like sculpture, others like charcoal. As with art, if your spouse would like more variety, that's okay! If your spouse would like more frequent intimacy, that’s okay!   God can help you with all of this. He can help you physically crave sex. He can help you want to meet your husband’s particular desire for that particular style of “art”. God cares about being a part of your life --- and your sex life! In a marriage, a man and a woman are free to want to make love with one another.    Resources: If you're interested about the women's program to be truly free in the areas of VARIETY, CRAVING

This is our (my husband and I) final conversation about being easygoing, playful and fun together.  It's a bit of insight into our relationship and we believe it'll give you some inspiration into where your marriage can go.    I go through the final keys to making your marriage peaceful and walking through life in a state of calm, rather than rushing in a state of stress.  A couple of things you'd be interested to hear... how (and why) my husband responds when he's watching a game (live) and he sees I'm upset. From him. why receiving an apology graciously is just as important as making one. when you're more vulnerable, the spouse will be too! someone called me the "calmest person I've ever met". I was grateful (and shocked), but this conversation may give a bit of insight into why.   ---   If you'd like to get my newly released on paperback Delight Your Husband: The Christian wife's manual to passion, confidence and oral sex, go here! If you purchase and then review on Amazon before Sept 1, 2019, you'll rec

My darling husband and I continue our chat about becoming easygoing and why it's important to develop this skill. And how it can impact even their relationship with Jesus. We have some playful convo but also some serious and important things to say. My husband" derails" my 15-point plan ;) with a very insightful and emotional commentary that you won't want to miss!  This is Part 2 of 3.   If you'd like to revolutionize your marriage and your intimacy I want to invite you onto a Clarity Call. This is an opportunity for you to speak directly with me Belah Rose and uncover what is blocking you from the playful, peaceful and purposeful marriage you crave. Sign up now as I have limited availability: www.dym.as.me

I think this has been something I've wondered and I know the wives I've worked with have thought their husbands were. Maybe you're a husband and you're concerned that you might be too? Maybe you're a wife and think your husband is. I mean there's a lot less scriptures about sex in the bible than there are about other things right?    Well...Have you heard all the scriptures about golf? And yet, people spend a lot of time golfing. Or playing football. Or doing make up or hair or clothes. Or horsebackriding... And yet, we spend a lot of time and energy on our specific hobbies.   Yet the Bible does have A LOT to say about sex. The wrong type of sex and how to fill that desire. I want to walk you through scriptures and my own insights over the years, that I hope you God would give you a lot of freedom through this podcast and you wouldn't feel the concern but you would align your heart with the way God views and wants you to view sex with your spouse.    I'd LOVE to have you on my LIVE webinar this coming Sunday

"I can't go on like this" "I don't think we can make this work"  "I'm at the end of my rope" (what I hear the MOST) I hate these phrases. They're not literal, and they mean this person is in severe pain. I am sad about that. I am sad that you're in such heartache. I'm sorry that you feel so alone, frustrated, discouraged and desperate.  But I want you to have hope. I want you to have FAITH for your marriage.  Ephesians 6:12 "For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms."   If you've been fighting with your spouse... there's stuff you can do. God hates divorce not because He's waiting for you to mess up and wants you to be miserable and live in suffering... but because divorce shreds hearts--what God has joined together--that which has become ONE FLESH. What that disconnects it truly shreds humans, families, children.   I love working with people who are on

Is easygoing a personality trait or a skill? I am definitely NOT a natural "easy-goer". Most of my life, I have generally had an opinion and if asked I could find one pretty quickly. I generally have had a schedule and way in which I'd like things done. And I'm extremely goal-oriented and don't have a lot of patience for those who aren't. Well, those can be super qualities for productivity and work, they're not necessarily the best for marriage. We've gone through a path. I've learned a lot.  And here he and I chat about my journey into the skill of "easygoing" and my conviction that if we want the peace God wants us to walk in, we have to seek to develop this skill as well.    -- If you're craving intimacy in your marriage--if you're a man or a woman--I want to help you! God has designed marriage and I believe SEX SHOULD BE BETTER IN MARRIAGE. The foundation of our marriage is God, emotional intimacy and physical intimacy. Each are vital for you to do God's work fueled out of the love cultivated in your marr

Sexless + Controlling = miserable husband Sex-Full + Controlling = miserable husband Sexless + Non Controlling = miserable husband   Sadly, sexless or controlling or both are the biggest problems I see. And this is what I hear from husbands that are desperate for change. I want to help you!   JFYI My husband said this is one of the best podcasts ever---he has only said that 1 other time (!) so I hope this is one that is helpful for you.   I talk about foundational truths about men and women that I don't hear people shouting from the rooftops---but they should be! Learn how to strategically change what is going on in your marriage!   Sadly, sexless or controlling or both are the biggest problems I see. And this is what I hear from husbands that I work with. I want to help you!   1) Come on my free webinar TOMORROW, Friday, May 24, 2019 at 7:30pm EST: The 7 Blocks to Her Libido: Remove these for generous intimacy in your marriage Sign up www.delightyourmarriage.com/7blocks   ---- 2) I used to be a CONTROLLING w

Yep... MY husband said this! Like last week.   What did he mean? Maybe you're a wife that has insecurities like me? After a wonderfully intimate evening, I came clean about something I had been struggling with for a while. He was able to give ear to my heart and hear that I was feeling pain that I wasn't even aware I was hiding from him.   Various husbands have expressed confusion as to why a wife wouldn't want him looking at others while at the SAME TIME she's hiding her curves he LONGS to see!   As a wife, I get it and I stumble in this way too. If I am not vigilant I can fall just like the enemy wants us all to. I think it's sin because we're separating ourselves from God and what He wants us to do... (Quite literally) our husbands. :)   Maybe you're a husband who doesn't "get it". I have some important insights for you too!   Further... I'm EXTREMELY excited to invite you on a LIVE Webinar with me coming up!    On Fri, May 24 & Sun, June 2, 7:30pm EST I'll be hosting a LIVE FREE WEBINAR:  WHAT'S BLOC

Do you want unity in your marriage? Do you want her to feel safe to be utterly vulnerable and literally naked before you? Then it is NOT helpful for her to know your past sex life.  You probably have forgotten plenty of your past, but once you've told her it will stay with her for years--even decades. Whatever sexual sin you've had before (or even the porn you've done while) is sin. It's your job as a man to discipline your mind, and your actions to be faithful to her. But if you're making her your "accountability partner" it's like saying: "honey, I'm trying not to look at other women, imagine them naked and pretend having sex with them". That will hurt her. Get your act together sir, get to a church, get vulnerable with someone--don't do this in isolation but don't load your dirty laundry on her. Because this will make it HARDER for her to make love (and of course that's what would actually HELP you avoid the temptations anyway). So, whether you think you're just "being honest" you do not need to be unwise

I have been late to get a podcast out to you...for a pretty important reason. My brother was found on the side of the road without a pulse. I raced to the hospital several states away and arrived when the doctors told us he may be brain dead---we found out they were considering putting him on life-support. No one knew how long he was there without blood pumping through his body.    But God. My family reached out to loved ones, Christians, churches, friends, friends of friends all asking for prayer in faith for healing. Standing on the word--by His stripes we are healed, the prayer of faith shall heal you, lay hands on the sick and they shall recover... Standing on His promises of Jesus' healing. All asking for God's miraculous intervention.   The story of Lazarus came up OVER and OVER again--my sister was in a play, her paster and my pastor in different states preached on it, a Lazarus song came up 2x, and 2 dreams about Lazarus. We prayed that my brother would be raised like Lazarus.   It's pretty incredible