Love Sober Podcast

In this episode we take a moment to re-affirm our core values and beliefs at Love Sober. We explain why we have included #sobercurious in our intro from the beginning, which was before it became a buzzword. For us it means an exploration into getting sober and how to do that i.e. curious about sobriety. A recent press article in Patch stated The "sober curious" movement, also known as "sober sometimes," and that is something we one hundred percent do not advocate, we have stated before and felt it important to state again that “mindful” drinking, moderation or sober sometimes is not a solution for people with a problematic relationship with alcohol, it is what keeps people stuck and drinking. We believe in early intervention, being sober curious for us is being given permission to go alcohol free before a situation of maladaptive behaviour with alcohol/self-medicating or binge drinking can slide over the line into dependence, having the conversation early before the choices you have become increasingly limite

IT IS EPISODE FIFTY!!! How incredible is that? We see no better way to celebrate than by talking with Scott Pearson aka The Boy Who Drank Too Much. Scott is a Sober, Mental Health and LGBQTI+ Activist and is also celebrating his ONE YEAR SOBERVERSARY WoopWoop. He's a writer for the magazine Outlife  www.outlife.org.uk and a dear friend to Kate and Mandy who we met have met through the gram.   We talk among other things about how shame has impacted his life, growing up gay in a hetro-normative society and how that internalised for him in a negative way, how getting sober has changed his life. We talk different systems of support, and creating your own patchwork for recovery, the importance of self-compassion and how this journey isnt always easy, but we keep going. We also talk about mental health, coping with anxiety and how we try to work through that.   It's a good one! So grab a cuppa and let's chat. Resources mentioned: Matthew Todd - Straight Jacket https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/17614857-straight

This week we wrap up warm and talk about autumnal self care, taking time when you need it and looking for the sparkle as the season changes. So grab a cuppa and let's chat X K & M xxx  If you would like to support the podcast you can via https://www.patreon.com/join/lovesoberpod You can join us via links below: https://www.lovesober.com https://www.lovesober.com/community-1 https://www.lovesober.com/courses https://www.the-coaching-academy.com/cart/index.asp?uid=1603813594565 #reasonstolovesober #lovesoberpodcast #lovesober #loveyourselfsober #sober #soberlife #hangoverfree #sobriety  #recoverycoach #sobermovement #sobercurious #alcoholfree #recovery #sherecovers  #sobercoach #greyareadrinking #grayareadrinking #mentalhealth #motherhood #wineoclock #sobermums #selfcare #womeninrecovery #sobercommunity

We are absolutely delighted to chat with our lovely friend @london_artist1 Sharon Walters, Sharon is our cohost at the Love Sober Create & Thrive workshop in London Bridge 19th October - we have only a few tix left (link in my bio) Sharon is a west-London based artist who has been sober for 9 months and is a Mother of 2 and is very inspiring. She came to sobriety for health and wellness reasons and her decision to quit the booze has skyrocketed her creativity and energy and she hasn’t looked back since. Sharon has led a number of collage workshops and is an experienced artist educator of over 20 years. After graduating with a second degree, this time in Fine Art from Central St Martins in London in 2011, she has developed her practice and continued her work with community arts organisations and museums.  Both her art practice and work in the heritage sector aims to provide platforms for those under-represented in the mainstream. Her current series ‘Seeing Ourselves’ explores identity, beauty standar

In this weeks episode we talk about OVERWHELM. Such a huge trigger for so many of us. We talk about our experiences and how that lead into problem drinking. We talk about the problems of perfectionism, parental burnout and Maternal gatekeeping. We talk about how perfect vs honest parenting have both contributed to the growing problem of mummy wine culture and how we need to balance to thrive. We chat through some strategies we use to dial down the overwhelm. Kate talks through a technique to prioritise tasks called the Urgent/Important Matrix, we talk avoiding information overload and trying to find breaks, planning and prep, taking a third off the list and remembering always "This too shall pass".  So have a break, grab a cuppa and let's chat. Resources mentioned: Parental Burnout article - https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6230657/ Urgent/Important Matrix - https://citoolkit.com/articles/importance-urgency-matrix/  If you are looking for support for an alcohol free life at Love Sober we GET sob

This week on the pod we are joined by Clemmie Telford. Clemmie is the creator of Mother of all Lists and the brilliant Honestly Podcast. She is a creative director and event organiser. Clemmie is also a mum of three and shares her honest portrayal of  motherhood through her very popular instagram account. Clemmie suffers from Anxiety and made the decision to go sober based on her mental health journey and has been amazed at how positive breaking up with booze has been on her wellbeing.    It was great to talk to Clemmie about her decision to go sober, her relationship with alcohol and motherhood. As her background is as a creative, working in marketing and advertising it was also interesting to hear her thoughts on the insta mum influence and mummy wine time. Clemmie credits her podcast recording with Millie of @sobergirlsociety and meeting @soberdave1 at @bryonygordon book launch for fostering her sober curiousity and giving her the spark to want to try it herself -  So it goes to show, being visual - sharin

We're back! Hoorah! We are absolutely delighted to return for this new season :-) In this episode we start off by reflecting on our Summer Holidays (Period of school closure). Using an exercises from Jane Hardy at https://www.blurtitout.org/ - Blurt are actually running a Crowdfunding campaign atm so if your like their work as we do, they really need support right now. The exercise is as follows: Describe how you feel right now in three words. What has been the highlight reel and the lowlights over the last month? What tools did you use to overcome them? What lessons did you learn about yourself? Is their any habit/boundary/mindset you want to tweak for next month? Try it yourself! In this episode we also talk about the offerings that Love Sober can now bring to the sober community. Kate is a qualified coach so you can do 1-1 sessions with her contact [email protected] you can sign up to the monthly newsletter, purchase the 30 day email course and join our Mighty Network - Love Sober Life all on our websi

This is the last pod until the period of school closure (holiday, is it tho?) so we chat through some strategies to think about. Seeking out collective joy, making a plan, taking the pressure off, putting down the beast of comparisonitis which is Social Media and making room for much needed self care. This period can be particularly difficult and having a daily check in email and motivation can really help which is why Kate created the 30 day essential Toolkit which £30 - a £1 a day! https://www.lovesober.com/essential-toolkit/ We also mentioned that you can be a Love Sober Patron/Matron ooooo Matron here https://liberapay.com/LoveSober up until now, the website, group and podcast hosting and editing has been self-funded by us, so any donation is greatly received. We have some amazing guests, plans and workshops planned from September so until then stay sAFe thanks so much for listening, your lovely messages and your support. XXX Join us for soon for more chat XXX #lovesober #lovesoberpodcast #reasonstoloveso

This week on the pod we talk boundaries. We have come to the conclusion that this is THE KEY to managing stress, overwhelm and then reaching for the f*** it button with a glass of wine. So how do we say no? How do we protect ourselves from burnout in this modern world? - It’s not easy, for many of us it’s challenging a lifetime of people pleasing. Combined for us being “modern mother’s” we have been given a seat at the table in a professional sense yet the infrastructure and support for women to be able to have a career & be a parent is still far from being equal, it won’t be will it until women actually head up companies rather than still banging on that glass ceiling - So what this means is we are micro managing our lives, we have adapted careers around motherhood, we are on the brink of burnout constantly, with the emotional baggage of “shoulds” So being able to reassess what we have put on our plate is essential - asking ourselves the uncomfortable question am I being a martyr here or is this necessar

In this week's episode we talk about how coaching has become an important intervention in recovery. Mandy interviews Kate about her training as a mindset and wellness coach. With tips, tools and neuroscience and the processes of goal setting, habit change and mindset and how the holistic , bespoke approach is key in our sober journeys. So grab a cuppa Love K & M xx   If you would like to support the podcast you can via https://www.patreon.com/join/lovesoberpod You can join us via links below: https://www.lovesober.com https://www.lovesober.com/community-1 https://www.lovesober.com/courses https://www.the-coaching-academy.com/cart/index.asp?uid=1603813594565 #reasonstolovesober #lovesoberpodcast #lovesober #loveyourselfsober #sober #soberlife #hangoverfree #sobriety  #recoverycoach #sobermovement #sobercurious #alcoholfree #recovery #sherecovers  #sobercoach #greyareadrinking #grayareadrinking #mentalhealth #motherhood #wineoclock #sobermums #selfcare #womeninrecovery #sobercommunity

This week on the pod we are delighted to talk to Michael Maisey, an actor, public speaker, coach and author of 'Young Offender' available on pre-order now https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/1529005477/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1. Michael advocates for openess and conversation around men's mental health and is doing amazing work with his Warrior Within Men's Retreats. https://www.facebook.com/warriorwithinmensretreat/ It's fantastic that we had the opportunity to give a platform to this topic which isn't discussed enough and also Michael is 11 years sober!! - He has produced a free online programme for those seeking helping with addictions called Time for Change https://timeforchange.mykajabi.com/login He is also a dad, so we thought it tied in nicely to release this near to Father's day, big up to all you sober and sober curious dad's out there! In this pod we talk about Michael's life, coming back from adversity, resilience and dealing with stress. We discuss toxic masculinity, and

In this Episode we were delighted to chat with Penni, our sobersister down under based in Sydney and creator of the Facebook community Recovery Buddha. Mandy met Penni initially by chance at #sherecoversla and was immediately in love with her joy, spirit and sense of badassery. She jumped in the Beverly Hilton’s pool with Brandy @soberasshit and Paula @shamebooth in full Gala attire - if it’s good enough for Angelina Jolie at the Golden Globes, it’s good enough for awesome women celebrating sobriety

*DUE TO UNFORSEEN CIRCUMSTANCE THIS WORKSHOP WILL BE RESCHEDULED FOR 2020* This week on the pod we are delighted to be joined by @wandacanton. Wanda will be co-hosting our next Workshop in Brighton on the 13th of July. Tickets are available here https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/love-sober-life-speak-for-yourself-sober-with-wanda-canton-tickets-61801665445 and Wanda explains in this episode what participants can expect from this workshop. We're super excited about this event and we are looking forward to seeing you then. Not only is a workshop about personal development, it is also a great opportunity to come together in a safe space to share with other sober and sober curious women. Wanda has extensive experience in facilitating workshops, group courses and individual mentoring exploring how spoken word poetry, hip-hop and creative writing can enhance mental health and wellbeing. She has worked across community projects, mental health services and forensic psychiatric hospitals. In 2018 she was the Spoken Word

This week on the pod we are delighted to have chatted with Ruby Warrington. Ruby is a British writer, author and thought-leader currently located in Brooklyn, NY. Formerly Features Editor on the UK Sunday Times Style supplement, she is Founder of Now Age lifestyle platform The Numinous, and co-founder of “sober curious” events series Club SÖDA NYC . Her two books, Material Girl, Mystical World: The Now Age Guide to a High Vibe Life, and Sober Curious: The Blissful Sleep, Laser Focus, Limitless Presence, and Deep Connection Awaiting Us All on the Other Side of Alcohol, are both published by HarperCollins. In June 2019, these will be followed by The Numinous Astro Deck, an astology learning tool and oracle deck. Ruby is also the host of popular podcasts The Now Age and Sober Curious. It was great to swap stories, dispell myths and talk joy, flow and happiness through the sober lens. This is what it's all about, getting curious, sober curious. So grab a cuppa and join us for a chat. X WEBSITES www.the-numinous.c

Alcohol and Mental health We were greatly honoured to have our friend Laura @thesoberlioness on the pod to talk mental health and alcohol. Laura is an absolute warrior, shero and galpal. Sobriety in her own words "Is the gift that keeps on giving, which changed my life!" Laura, Kate and I’s mental health has dramatically improved by stopping drinking, and as importantly our mental health was significantly worsened by drinking alcohol. So it is one of the most important and vital conversations to be had in sobriety. Also It’s one year since our first pod episode. What a year of ups and downs it’s been. To quote Frank (sort of) "We’ve loved, we’ve laughed and cried. We’ve had our fill, our share of losing. And now as tears subside, we find it so amusing. To think we did all that, and may we say, not in a shy way, oh, no, oh, no, not us, we did it the love sober waaaaay" We are so so grateful for everything the pod has brought us, friendship, support and pride. Thank so much for all the messages we have received

This week on the pod we talk slips, blips, going back to drinking and or relapse. These are highly emotive terms, so we chat our experiences on this subject and the experiences we have had. Whatever day you’re on, however many times you’ve tested your limits and boundaries around alcohol, be proud of yourself for dusting yourself off and starting again, read another book, dig a little deeper and work the hardest at forgiving yourself, making yourself your own best friend because one day alcohol won’t be something you miss or want it will be something you won’t want anywhere near your precious self. So grab a cuppa and let’s chat. Resources mentioned: Tara Mohr - Playing Big William Porter - Alcohol Explained Tara Brach - RAIN of self compassion Love K & M xx   If you would like to support the podcast you can via https://www.patreon.com/join/lovesoberpod You can join us via links below: https://www.lovesober.com https://www.lovesober.com/community-1 https://www.lovesober.com/courses https://www.the-

This week is a soberstory and we are joined on the pod by Megan - who is Soberstory on insta ! @soberstory and @mysoberstory on Facebook. Megan is a great positive sobersis who embraces selfcare with many daily practices, she is a working single mum to two gorgeous kids and credits her soberlife to a complete transformation in the parenting experience, feeling more patient, less stressed and more present since going sober over a year ago and loves her soberlife. Megan is also part of the #1000hoursdry worldwide movement from 1st June to June 11th, running UK based support and events with another brilliant sober badass babe Holly @sobersista Grab a cuppa and let’s chat! Love K & M xx   If you would like to support the podcast you can via https://www.patreon.com/join/lovesoberpod You can join us via links below: https://www.lovesober.com https://www.lovesober.com/community-1 https://www.lovesober.com/courses https://www.the-coaching-academy.com/cart/index.asp?uid=1603813594565 #reasonstolovesober #l

Part 2 High days and Holidays. We continue on with our discussions of lessons learned recently in the our break and then move on to the bank holiday weekend. How it took a lot of people by surprise. Sunshine vs time off from work vs obligations. Expectations can be very hard to navigate especially when you are newly sober, so we talk strategies to get through times like this, the importance of saying no, preparation and talking yourself through and reaching out for help. So grab a cuppa and let’s chat. Love K & M xx   If you would like to support the podcast you can via https://www.patreon.com/join/lovesoberpod You can join us via links below: https://www.lovesober.com https://www.lovesober.com/community-1 https://www.lovesober.com/courses https://www.the-coaching-academy.com/cart/index.asp?uid=1603813594565 #reasonstolovesober #lovesoberpodcast #lovesober #loveyourselfsober #sober #soberlife #hangoverfree #sobriety  #recoverycoach #sobermovement #sobercurious #alcoholfree #recovery #sherecovers  

Part 1 - Check out part 2 which will be released now too! The Pod is back! We’re so happy to be having a chat about all things sober again, after a well needed break to down tools and regroup. This Episode we talk about what we have been upto recently and what we have taken away from recent experiences. We talk about Mandy’s trip to Ireland to Croí - Amanda Grace’s creative retreat and we also talk about our first Love Sober workshop and what we took away from that experience and from the incredible Jolene Park. So grab a cuppa and join us for a chat. Resources mentioned: Amanda Grace - https://www.amandagraceart.com/ The Biscuit Factory (Creative Community https://www.facebook.com/groups/bitethebiscuit/?ref=share) Jolene Park https://grayareadrinkers.com/ Brené Brown - Braving the Wilderness https://brenebrown.com/ Love K & M xx   If you would like to support the podcast you can via https://www.patreon.com/join/lovesoberpod You can join us via links below: https://www.lovesober.com https://www.lov

This week on the Love Sober Podcast Mandy talked with Jolene Park. Jolene Park is a great friend of ours and hugely knowledgeable on holistic health. Her TEDx talk introduced to us the notion of “Grey Area” drinkers and the NOURISH acronym has been hugely helpful in our understanding of our own relationship with alcohol. Jolene is over in Europe facilitating workshops including our first event. Love Yourself Sober: Nuture Yourself on the 13th April in Brighton. https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/love-sober-life-nurture-yourself-sober-with-jolene-park-tickets-55520951661 Jolene is nutritionist, health coach and TEDx speaker. She also co-hosts the Edit Podcast, editing our drinking and our lives with Aiden Donnelly Rowley. Jolene founded www.GrayAreaDrinkers.com. This is an online hub for gray area drinkers to get support, for former gray area drinkers to unite and for coaches to learn Jolene’s exclusive techniques. We chat about what Jolene will focus on in the workshop. Why she stopped drinking, how somatic yoga