Dad Starting Over Podcast

In this episode of Dear DSO, I respond to a letter from Jerome—a man who’s feeling disillusioned and depressed about relationships and marriage. After a breakup and years of being told that “marriage is the dream,” he’s beginning to question everything.Does long-term monogamy even work anymore? Are women really wired for it? Is the “wife and kids” dream still alive for men today?I unpack all of this and more—including what I’ve learned from helping thousands of men, my interview with Women’s Infidelity author Michelle Langley, and my own personal experiences.

In this live conversation, I sit down with Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy, to talk about the psychology of the modern man—especially the ones struggling in dead bedrooms, difficult marriages, and post-divorce confusion.We dig into why so many men unknowingly sabotage their relationships, how covert contracts fuel resentment, and what it takes to stop being the “nice guy” and start living a better life. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a marriage with no affection, no sex, and no answers—this is the episode for you.

We all crave emotional safety and stability in our long-term relationships…But what if that very safety is what slowly smothers erotic desire?In this livestream, I dive into one of the most frustrating and misunderstood dynamics in long-term monogamy: the trade-off between comfort and sexuality.Why does it feel like the more secure your relationship becomes, the more the passion disappears?Join The HFM Brotherhood!

Brendan’s been dating his girlfriend for three years — and the sex is already slowing to a crawl. He’s worried this is setting the tone for a future marriage, and he’s not wrong. In this clip from a LIVE DSO, we dig into one of the biggest red flags guys ignore: early sexual disinterest. If you’re seeing signs of a dead bedroom while you’re still dating… buckle up.Join The HFM Brotherhood!

Ramius has been married for 47 years. In his 70s, he’s gotten healthy, got his testosterone up, and wants to stay sexually and emotionally connected to his wife. The problem? She’s done. No interest, no desire, early bedtime, and emotionally checked out from intimacy. What do you do when one partner still wants connection… and the other is ready to ride off into the grandma sunset?Let’s talk aging, sex, emotional reality, and the hard truth most men won’t hear until it’s too late.

Keith has been married six years. No sex since baby #1. Volatile arguments. Threats of suicide. Police visits. And yet — he's afraid to leave. This is the classic trauma-bonded, broken-from-the-start marriage. In this episode, I talk about what it means to finally say “enough,” and how men can break free from toxic relationships.Join The HFM Brotherhood

Ross is in a marriage where intimacy is dead, but the jealousy is alive and well. Despite his massive physical transformation and emotional growth, his wife remains cold and uninterested — while also resenting any female attention he gets. Oh… and she had an affair last year. Let's unpack this contradiction and talk about what it really means when your wife doesn't want you, but doesn’t want anyone else to have you either.Join The HFM Brotherhood

In this Dear DSO submission, a husband shares his frustration: after two kids, his wife seems to have completely disappeared into motherhood. Once bubbly and fun, now she’s anxious, overwhelmed, and only shows affection after wine or exotic vacations.He’s worked on himself, lost 60 lbs, rebuilt his confidence—but his wife won’t join him. No therapy. No gym. No time for herself. And definitely no connection with him as a man.Join The HFM Brotherhood!

Ned is a Special Ops vet whose marriage has seen it all — deployment, infidelity, gaslighting, emotional chaos… and now his wife wants to “separate, date around, and reevaluate in 6 months.” What should he do? This episode dives deep into how trauma, emotional abuse, and codependency show up in military marriages — and what men need to reclaim clarity and strength.Join The HFM Brotherhood!

In this powerful Dear DSO entry, I read a message from a man whose wife left him after 20 years of marriage. He gave everything to his family—his time, energy, identity—and now he's completely lost. No friends. No hobbies. No direction.This story is not uncommon, and it shines a light on what happens when men sacrifice themselves entirely for the sake of family and end up with nothing when it all falls apart.In this video, I break down his story and share what men in similar situations can do to rebuild and come back stronger than ever.

A husband writes in with a heartbreaking and outrageous story: after 16 years of marriage and raising six boys together, his wife gave him an ultimatum — “Open marriage or no marriage.” She claims to be polyamorous and bisexual… and already has a boyfriend she’s in love with. Now she expects her husband to accept it — even while the boyfriend sleeps with her in their own marital bed.In this episode of Dear DSO, Ralph (Dad Starting Over) breaks down the emotional chaos, what’s really happening behind the scenes, and what this man — and others in similar situations — need to do next.

What happens when your wife cheats... not just with anyone, but with your married next-door neighbor you've known since childhood?Jake wrote in to share his heartbreaking story of betrayal and confusion after discovering a year-long affair between his wife and their neighbor. They've been together 13 years, have kids, and he’s trying to work through it—but the emotional fallout is brutal.In this episode, we break down:Why affairs feel so addictively powerfulWhy “forbidden and new” is a dangerous comboWhat healing really looks likeThe brutal truth about reconciling after infidelityJoin The HFM Brotherhood!

Victoria reached out to share her story — a candid, emotional, and often shocking look into a toxic relationship filled with insecurity, gaslighting, and infidelity.From being accused of cheating over a sex toy…To discovering her partner was visiting massage parlors and hiding condoms…To finding the strength to walk away for the sake of her child and herself.This is one woman’s raw account of breaking free, setting boundaries, and learning to trust herself again.If you’ve ever stayed too long in the wrong relationship, this one’s for you.Join The HFM Brotherhood!

In this candid livestream, Ralph is joined by psychologist and creator of  @psychacks , Dr. Orion Taraban, for a powerful and thought-provoking conversation on modern masculinity, dating, marriage, and purpose. Topics include:Why fewer men are choosing marriageWhether commitment still makes sense in today’s dating landscapeThe reality behind sex, status, and the modern mating gameDeveloping purpose without relying on external validationHow to become a high-value man in today’s world

What happens when a man starts taking control of his health—drops weight, hits the gym, starts TRT and Viagra—and his wife doesn’t like it?In this clip from a Dad Starting Over livestream, I share a common (and surprising) reaction many men hear from their wives when they try to turn their life around physically, emotionally, and sexually. The truth? Some women feel threatened by the changes… especially when those changes mean a man is more confident, more virile, and more sexually energized.This isn’t anti-woman—it’s a real conversation about the complicated dynamics that come with aging, libido, and relationship expectations.Whether you’re a man on a journey of self-improvement or a woman trying to understand your partner better, this one’s for you.

A reader sent me an email with some harsh feedback—he says my book is BS because by the time a man picks it up, his marriage is already doomed. He’s frustrated, resentful, and exhausted from trying everything, and he doesn’t believe any change in him will ever fix his wife’s lack of desire. Is he right? Or is he missing something deeper?Join The HFM Brotherhood!

A man reached out with a tough confession: after years of a sexless marriage, he turned to porn—and now he feels trapped. He says he's addicted, his wife ignores the problem, and if she knew the full extent of it, she’d leave. He feels ashamed, lost, and desperate for an answer."But is porn really the issue here? Or is it just a symptom of a much bigger problem?"Join The HFM Brotherhood!

Jennifer writes into to share the story of her OCD husband's super cleaning habits, and how she doesn't feel like it "counts" as helping out like "normal" guys do... because her husband's cleaning is an artifact of his disorder. I, like most men, will determine that her opinion on the value of his help is determined by how much he is suffering in the process. No, Jennifer... this was not a good thing.Join The HFM Brotherhood!

This is a clip from one of my recent DSO Live Streams on Facebook and Youtube. What happens when a man gives everything to his marriage—only to discover it was built on lies? A follower emailed me with his devastating story: His wife had a long-term affair...and he discovered that their youngest child was not his. The betrayal, the heartbreak, and the life-altering truth—this is one of the most gut-wrenching stories I’ve ever received. In this video, we break down what happened and what to do when your entire world gets turned upside down.Join The HFM Brotherhood!

A follower shares his story that is, unfortunately, all too common. His woman gave him every indication that she wasn't really good long-term relationship material. In fact, she flat out TOLD him that she has issues with her sex drive when in relationships. Like a lot of codependent men, Liam took that as a challenge to prove his worth as a spouse. Now he is left wondering why his woman left him for a guy young enough to be his son.  Join The HFM Brotherhood!