The Chick Whisperer Podcast

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== ===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== The underground society of pickup artists may be LONG gone, but the PUA movement is still alive and well. It just sort of changed venues. What's up with that? Well, men are never going to stop wanting to know how to attract and seduce women. But nowadays you can't just expect to go to a bar or disco club on Friday night and pull chicks. A big part of that is there are barely and dark, smoky "clubs" left. Yes, women's social habits have changed, and pickup strategy has changed with it. But it's also that the women are all somewhere else now anyway...assuming they're the kind of women men really even want anymore. Did you know that VAMANOS is the everyday carry for "Big Four" men? Getchasum at https://vamanos.chat === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. It's all built on the "Big Four":

Co-Host Kenny Vaughan (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/kenny) My first-time guest Kenny Vaughan is the author of The Right Fight and founder of Shield of Strength. He spends a lot of time thinking about what love is, and isn't. For years, Kenny thought love was only a feeling...but then realized there was something deeper there. He didn't buy that "love is a decision", either. What does, "I love you, I'm just not in love with you anymore" actually mean? And what does Kenny mean when he says, "I feel love her because she loves me?" And how did we get to the point where so-called "love" is actually defined by transactions in our culture? According to Kenny, love is both your offense and your defense. What does that mean? How much is love about being "nice" to each other? Why can that attitude of being "nice" actually show you don't love someone rather than truly loving them? Okay, so then what does "tough love" really mean? And what does this all have to do with how women crave "emotional availability"? Why is i

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== Most of us can't stand small talk. It's shallow. It's repetitive. But in this culture, it's also absolutely necessary. Have you ever realized we have one set of canned lines we deliver to people we know when we see them? But there are also completely different things we've grown accustomed to saying to people we don't know. I'll give you the absolute clearest example in this brief episode. When we approach and meet women, is there really a clear set of "small talk" guidelines? The answer will surprise you...along with the subtle change to how society tends to work nowadays in general. Did you know that VAMANOS is the everyday carry for "Big Four" men? Getchasum at https://vamanos.chat === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. It's all built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character.

Co-Host Sanya Bari (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/sanya) My first time guest Sanya Bari is a relationship therapist and emotional clarity expert...which given she's from New Jersey means she's in high demand. She asked a dangerous question: What keeps men from thriving? To get the show rolling, Sanya riffs away on what her findings were. So what is the difference between merely surviving and thriving? What is the real "drug" that keeps us from being our best selves? (Hint: It's not booze or ganja.) What about being "locked in" to a project or goal? Is that a good or a bad thing? If you "survive" effectively enough, others may actually give you accolades for it. But what's the danger behind that mindset? Why does Sanya believe that most guys really don't even realize when they're slipping into "survival mode"? And how to we recover from that and get ourselves back? How do we handle seeing everyone else's "highlight reels" on Facebook knowing that we're NOT okay? How do the mixed messages we as men get about e

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== There's so much shop-worn dating advice out there we've heard SO often that I swear we don't even realize there's anything wrong with it. Example...have you ever noticed that virtually all tips on approaching women, meeting them and interacting women them assume a playful, happy-go-lucky, flirty woman as a given? The only other frame of mind we consider possible in that scenario is disgust and anger...directed at the guy approaching her! But that's just not how life works, is it? There are perfectly sane, decent women out there who will not be at their best when it's time to meet them and interact with them. They could be women you're just meeting, or long-time acquaintances. But either way, interacting them is an opportunity we should absolutely not avoid. Here's why...and this could revolutionize your approach out there. Did you know that VAMANOS is the everyday carry for "Big Four" men? Getchasum at https://vamanos.chat === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE ===

Co-Host Emily McKay (https://www.deservewhatyouwant.com) Since our last episode together, Emily and I celebrated 20 years since we met. Over the course of two decades, we've realized there are seasons to a marriage. Now obviously, most couples would hope for an endless springtime rather than the winter of their discontent, but what we're talking about here isn't quite so literal. It's not just that things change both in the marriage and around you. That's inevitable in this life. It's not even about the evolution of the marriage, or the both of you over time, really.  Rather, it's a definite smooth and perhaps even rhythmic flow from one major theme of your life together into another. Now, Emily and I met when we were in our mid- and late-thirties, respectively. For the benefit of those of you listening who might be younger, what seasons can younger couples expect? Is it all about being DINKS (or even DINKWADS)? What about the "Honeymoon Phase"? And the dreaded "Seven Year Itch"? Does Parenthood count as a se

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== Better men get better women. To be a better man, the "Big Four" is the standard. Once you're a "Big Four" man, you deserve what you want. Although there's always room for improvement, most men who listen to this show have three of the "Big Four" down pretty well. You're masculine, you like women and you're a man of good, solid character. But when "confronted" with an attractive woman we'd like to meet, talk to and get to know, we freeze up and "fail to deploy". What's up with that? Why is the CONFIDENCE part so difficult? I mean, without it, how are women ever going to know you represent the other three pillars of the "Big Four" as well? In this week's SFTS you'll not only get answers to why so many men struggle with the confidence part, you'll get practical solutions to fix the problem and make sure it never happens again. Did you know that VAMANOS is the everyday carry for "Big Four" men? Getchasum at https://vamanos.chat === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE ==

Co-Host Sandra Myers (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/sandra) My first-time guest Sandra Myers is a matchmaker who heads up Select Date Society. In this fast-paced and often funny episode, we talk about how (and when) men and women tend to blow it in the first three months of dating each other. To kick things off, Sandra throws down how WAY too many people mess up within the first three MINUTES, or on the first date. Here's a hint: How many people do you know who love biographies? What are some other ways we as men all tend to sabotage any chances with a woman early on? Why does living in the past even in a present relationship have such damaging consequences? How does a "dry spell" over the past several months affect our mindset when getting into a new relationship? What's the trap that couples fall into on or shortly after the first date that instantly creates a bad habit that could doom the relationship later? What's the right level of "being mysterious" early on? I mean, where's the proper balance between

One of the most tired tips for men when it comes to telling if a woman is attracted is "she makes eye contact with you and smiles". Way too many of us as men have never seen that happen even once. It's no wonder we're so frustrated. But wait a second, could we be robbing ourselves of potential "moments" with women because we're avoiding eye contact with women to begin with? Why do so many of us as men do that? What could we be possibly afraid of? Well, the simple (and easy!) cure for this weird and devastating problem is contained in this brief episode. Subscribe to the free newsletter and download your free copy of Sticking Points Solved: https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say her

Co-Host Steve "The Dean" Williams (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/dean) Well, here we are...finally all the way to episode #500. Massive respect and appreciation to all of you guys who've supported the show over the years, many since the very beginning back in 2007...when it was originally called The Chick Whisperer. The first guy I thought of to join me for this milestone episode was none other than Steve "The Dean" Williams, who co-hosted the first ten episodes with me BITD. And it's been too long, so the OGs got the band back together for one special show. Get your crayons out, gentlemen...we're about to chop up some game. And I figured nothing would launch us both into one of our patented rants than a topic like What's Wrong With Men And Women Nowadays? We get rolling by talking about what's changed over the last 19 years, and what's stayed the same. How have men been blown and tossed by whatever the "next new thing" is in dating and relationship advice? What has post-modern culture done to men's mindset

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== You've heard the term. "Liquid courage" refers to slamming back a few alcoholic drinks before expecting to approach and meet women. It goes hand-in-hand with "night game" culture of meeting women in bars and clubs, doesn't it? There's no doubt that a little "social lubrication" to grease the skids and lower inhibition really can work. But there's also a good, solid reason why I strongly discourage alcohol consumption during Ten-Plus Live weekends with guys out in field. Subscribe to the free newsletter and download your free copy of Sticking Points Solved: https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!

Co-Host Dr. Karen Stewart (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/stewart) We've all heard the term "situationship" all the time over the past few years, but what exactly does it mean? We already have "friends with benefits" and even "f-buddies", so there's no need for a new term for that. And hey, it's okay to date someone casually without rushing into commitment, too...so that's certainly not it, either. Well, as it turns out there's a pretty clear differentiator between a true "situationship" and any other kind of relationship with a woman. My first-time guest, clinical psychologist and sex therapist Dr. Karen Stewart, not only describes the "situation" clearly, she's all about the discussion regarding the good, the bad and the ugly going on there. What is "girlfriend mode", and what does it have to do with all of this? How is a climate of fear directly associated with the modern-day proliferation of situationships? What are the disastrous ways men misunderstand a woman's signals that she's indeed just up for some

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== What can one specific play from Super Bowl LX teach us about how to get better at meeting and interacting with women? As it turns out plenty. In this brief episode, discover the valuable habit that carries over from most team sports, and how specifically to apply to cold approach situations. What's more, I'll show you the exact response you're likely to see initially from women, as well as how they'll respond once you actually start a conversation with her. No more fumblerooskis, only first downs (and first dates) from there. Subscribe to the free newsletter and download your free copy of Sticking Points Solved: https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say

Co-Host Holly Nelson (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/holly) Think of it like aspartame is to real sugar. "Synthetic intimacy" may be sweet, but it's not the real thing. And when you get right down to it, you're not really even fooled. So why then are so many people falling for it nowadays? My first-time guest Holly Nelson is NOT a robot (she said so herself), but rather a sex therapist from Phoenix, AZ who has spent a lot of time thinking about this subject. We hit the ground running on this fast-paced discussion, talking about how "intimacy" isn't really intimate at all if it's one-sided and people are getting manipulated. How is AI already affecting our relationships with women, and what should we be watching out for both now and in the near future? Why is Claude.AI so convincing when pretending it cares about you? And why is it dangerous to "get close" to ChatGPT (even above and beyond the obvious)? In all fairness, has technology actually succeeded at connecting us...even while dividing us at the same tim

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== A lot of us as men have allowed ourselves to believe that making common small talk with women when we meet them is something we have to avoid. After all, if we don't come up with something heroic to say in the moment, she'll probably lose interest quickly. Well, in this brief episode I'll not only show you why making small talk is actually the right strategy, I'll reveal why attempting some sort of "big talk" is likely to backfire spectacularly. And yes, even if you DO somehow come up with something miraculous and creative to talk to her about, I'll tell you why it's STILL likely to ruin everything ANYWAY. Hint: It has less to do with you, and more to do with her . Subscribe to the free newsletter and ownload your free copy of Sticking Points Solved: https:mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionabl

Co-Host William Schroeder (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/justmind) My first time guest William Schroeder is an expert on neurodivergence not only because he is a mental health therapist, but also because he has walked that path himself. What are the challenges facing men who are ADHD or have Asperger's...especially when it comes to relating to women? More importantly, how can you overcome those challenge and thrive? Well, the first question to ask is why the term "neurodivergence" has been in the media more often in the last few years. Next, it seems like everyone's attention span is shorter since COVID. How much of neurodivergence is nature vs. nurture? And what is the difference between ADD, ADHD and Asperger's, anyway? How transparent should we be about neurodivergence with other people, say, girlfriends or even bosses? How can ADHD men excel in relationships with women? On the other hand, what if neurodivergence seems to be wrecking my chances with women? How are people affected by changes in how ADHD an

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== Have you ever known someone who you have occasional social conversations with, but then one day--boom--crickets. What happened there? Was it you, or was it them? Chances are, neither of you was particularly at fault. In this brief episode I'll give you at least eight solid reasons why it happened. Several are specific to situations like this that might happen with women you're interested in. And yes, at least two of the others sound straight out of a Larry David plot on "Curb Your Enthusiasm". But since this is no joke when it happens, I'll also give you reliable ways to fix the situation to get you back on the right track socially. Get in on the AI revolution: https://mountaintoppodcast.com/vamanos === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed

Co-Host Chloe Carmichael (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/chloe) It's no secret that more of us than ever don't exactly feel as if free speech is what it used to be. It's as if we can get canceled, arrested, or even worse for saying what we really think, and that's especially worrisome when it comes to communicating with women. After all the warnings from HR, is it okay to express interest in a woman, or even talk to her at all?  My first-time guest Dr. Chloe Carmichael is a clinical psychologist and USA Today bestselling author of "Can I Say That? Why Free Speech Matters and How to Use It Fearlessly". We kick things off by talking about "toxic masculinity", and the possibility of it being talked about less nowadays because the job was done (!). But have men really resigned themselves to shutting up and "staying in our lane", or have we simply rejected the whole premise altogether? I mean, what did men gain by even trying to "do better", other than women being more disgusted with us than ever? Chloe offers rea

>===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== The quest for the perfect pickup line is one of the oldest in the world of men's dating advice. But ultimately, after all the hype settles, there's only ONE perfect pickup line. Here's the truth: No matter how cool, how funny, how smooth or how perfect your silver-tongued pickup line is, it's ALWAYS gonna come down to what you say next. And guess what? It's exactly what you should have said FIRST all along...every time you approach a woman. Get in on the AI revolution: https://mountaintoppodcast.com/vamanos === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!

Co-Host Rob Thomas (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/robthomas) The default setting when trying to resolve dating and relationship issues with women is to talk about it, right? Well, my first-time guest Rob Thomas came to the conclusion that trying to say the right words at the right time was exhausting. Drawing from his day job as a business consultant, he figured out there are very real ways to truly increase rapport and connection without using any words at all. The next thing you know, he wrote a book about that called Wordless Connection. Importantly, its not about wordless communication, per se, but rather about full-on connection. So first off, why is it we often end up speaking a "cloud of euphemisms" when talking to our WAGs? And what can we do instead to create an almost instant connection without saying anything at all? What is the science behind the value of embracing your partner for an exact duration of time? And how does that concept apply directly to eye contact, as well? Does the saying, "watch