New Life Live With Steve Arterburn

Caller Questions: I came into my marriage with sexual addiction and caused my wife to have PTSD with my disclosure. How do we navigate her triggers?  Restore was lifechanging for me!  I’m in my 60’s and engaged. I’m choosing to love but don’t have feelings of love. Is this a red flag?  How do I […]

Caller Questions: Since the Bible talks about abstaining from the appearance of evil, Christians shouldn’t participate in Halloween.  I was sexually abused as a child and couldn’t play with other kids; can you explain what happens in the brain when this happens?  On Halloween, Christians get it right by being accepting and kind to odd-looking […]

Caller Questions: My husband packed up his car and left after I found out he had an emotional affair. I’ve been extremely critical of him; is it too late for us?  Should I tell my adult kids not to go to the restaurant where the woman works who had an affair with my husband? My […]

Caller Questions: How do we do tough love with our 19yo son who lives with us and smokes pot? He has been charged with a misdemeanor.  My abusive husband died 7yrs ago, but I can’t get past being terrified of men. Where do I go from here?  Although I can minister to others and God […]

Caller Questions: What’s the right thing to do? I want to tell my 9yo daughter that my husband is not her biological dad, but my husband doesn’t want me to.  My 25yo son struggles with a porn addiction. How can I help the Christian girl he is living with?  Where in the Bible does it […]

Caller Questions: What is generational trauma? I don’t want to pass on to my children the trauma from my husband’s adultery or my childhood abuse.  I lost my great job and now I can’t take care of myself. I really don’t know who I am or where to go from here.  How can I salvage […]

Caller Questions: I need spiritual warfare help for my 9yo disabled daughter who says she sees children who aren’t there and they tell her to do bad things.  Is there any difference between listening to an audio Bible versus reading the Bible?  How do I get out of my on-again, off-again relationship with my girlfriend? […]

Caller Questions: I was abused so badly as a child that I was covered in cigarette burns; watching the movie I Can Only Imagine helped me.  Do I legally separate or divorce my husband of 54yrs who has been leading a double life? He was an airline pilot and had numerous affairs.  How do I […]

Caller Questions: What can I do if my 31yo twin sons stop talking to me for months even though they say they love me?  We are newlyweds, but I’ve never met my father-in-law.  My brother-in-law molested my daughter when she was a child, and my husband didn’t do anything. She is now a 35yo meth […]

Caller Questions: How do I deal with parental alienation with my 19yo daughter? She was 17yo when I divorced, and now she is married.  Our 15yo son is receiving sexually suggestive texts from his friend; how should my husband talk to him about it? 

Caller Questions: How do I address my older child being very upset that my 22yo child is living at home and going to college but not working?  How do I move forward if my mom doesn’t want me to tell my older siblings that I have a different father?  My lesbian daughter has a partner […]

Caller Questions: I caught my wife sexting and lying about it; how do I forgive her? Like your first caller, my wife had affairs and my marriage was unable to be fixed.  I had a porn addiction, and reading Every Young Man’s Battle helped me to commit to making changes!  My 22yo daughter gained eighty […]

Caller Questions: What should I do to stop my wife from divorcing me? She just moved out due to our arguments.  I’m a pleaser in a friendship with a narcissist who always plays the victim; how do I put up healthy boundaries?  Steve, would you repeat your concise steps of recovery you talked about on […]

Caller Questions: I want to do what you do! Do you have any advice on what path I should take to be a therapist?  As a recovering alcoholic, what do I tell my adult son when his church friends tell him he only needs God and not AA?  Will I lose my salvation for dating […]

Caller Questions: After you gave me advice for my food addiction relapse, I met with my therapist and uncovered some reasons why.  My daughter found out her husband talked to other women before their marriage in May. What can she do now that he is deployed? 

Caller Questions: What’s the difference between an addiction and OCD? I have obsessive thoughts that are very disturbing.  I am 65yo and single; what should I do about my anxiety that is getting worse? 

Caller Questions: My son is divorcing after 21yrs and his 13yo daughter refuses to talk to him or us; what can we do?  I’m done with my elder cousin who complains about being abused by her adult granddaughter, but she won’t help herself. Adult Protective Services came by and she didn’t tell them anything. 

Caller Questions: The contractor I hired didn’t do the work, and I put a stop payment on his check. How can I be less passive?  How do I help my 10yo great-granddaughter whose mom hit her and is threatening to kick her out?  What’s the best way to deal with obsessive thoughts about food when […]

Caller Questions: Does God use dreams to speak to us?  My friend’s wife is abusive to the kids, and she is in a lesbian relationship now. How does he protect his children?  When I was 10yo, we were in a car accident and my mom died. Do I need EMDR to get past the fear?  […]

Caller Questions: My wife is showing signs she might have cheated, but I have no proof. What can I do?  I attended the Emotional Freedom Workshop and my PTSD and depression levels are so much lower!  How do I start a women’s ministry?  My husband refuses to go to counseling, but he wants to work […]