New Life Live With Steve Arterburn

Caller Questions: Am I doing the right thing by having no contact with my wife? She left me after I found a picture of her sitting on a coworker’s lap.  What’s the best way to spread the gospel? I’m in the UK where only half of the population is Christian now. I’m engaged to a […]

Caller Questions: My husband is signed up to go to Every Man’s Battle this weekend because you guys told me to stand up for myself!  Why are young adults loyal to the parent who does nothing for them, while the parent who does everything doesn’t get respect?  My ex left when our daughter was 2yo; […]

Caller Questions: After recovery from a 20yr porn addiction, how do I move forward? I’m feeling disappointed in my spiritual life and in myself as a father and husband.  If my arrogant husband secretly flirts with my friend on Facebook messenger, is he being unfaithful?  We have been married over 50yrs, and sexual intimacy is […]

Caller Questions: My ex-husband confessed his affair and abandoned me on Christmas Eve; how do I move forward if I get triggered by putting up a Christmas tree decades later? How do I handle my 52yo son who says he loves me but never shows it with his actions? How do I fix my relationship […]

Caller Questions: How do I become a better husband if my wife communicates more intimately with her friends than me?  I can’t cope with being bullied and slandered by someone in my neighborhood.  After my divorce and remarriage, how can I help my adult children attract healthier partners?  How do I have a conversation with […]

Caller Questions: Is it wrong to remarry my first husband, the father of my children, if he came back into the picture after my current husband passed away from COVID?  My uncle raped me when I was an infant. How do I heal from the trauma and shame if I have no memory of it?  […]

Caller Questions: I went from a secular 12-step group to starting a Life Recovery Group because a Life Recovery Group leader encouraged me.  My husband has had affairs and committed adultery throughout our 21yr marriage; do I walk away as the therapists tell me to do?  Can you explain what happens to a child when […]

Caller Questions: How should a church member respond to a pastor who says Jesus didn’t die for our sins?  Is there a benefit to abstaining from sex with my wife for a while? I just attended Every Man’s Battle.  How do I move forward with my emotionally abusive husband if he won’t change?  Is it […]

Caller Questions: I saw the movie I Can Only Imagine; that is my story! My father accepted the Lord and the Lord changed him! I’m a stay-at-home dad. My wife wants me to sign a postnuptial agreement or she will divorce me.  My husband has let his 46yo son live with us for 9yrs without contributing […]

Caller Questions: I was sexually abused as a child. How do I get over my anger and hurt when my husband masturbates in front of me?  What do I tell my niece and sister about the Virgin Mary? They believe she was born without sin.  How do I handle my girlfriend’s handicapped son who treats […]

Caller Questions: How do I curb my lustful desire to look at good-looking women? I stopped using porn 20yrs ago.  How do I forgive my dead father so I can receive and give love well?  My husband has watched porn and had affairs for 25yrs; how do you know if it’s an addiction?  I went […]

Caller Questions: My husband had sex with a prostitute a month ago right before he went to Every Man’s Battle workshop; what are my next steps?  How can I stop thinking of the married woman I used to be friends with and still care about?  How do I get rid of my anger? I get […]

Caller Questions: When should I say yes if I struggle with rejection and boundaries and then turn to overeating?  My 6yo stepgrandson wets his pants; do you have any advice for my son who is his stepfather?  Am I doing the right thing to get my 12yo grandson to talk about his mom who died […]

Caller Questions: My fiancée and I both have PTSD. How can I be there to support her when we are both triggered?  I am going through a divorce that I don’t want. How do I demonstrate to my wife hope and reconciliation for our marriage?  My wife and I are separated and she has developed […]

Caller Questions: My wife puts her job and kids from her previous marriage before me; what is the biblical perspective?  What can I do if I’m estranged from my 32yo adult son who will only communicate by texting? His dad and I are divorced.  How do I handle my husband being addicted to porn since […]

Caller Questions: Should I do more to build relationship with my narcissistic sister who only has superficial conversations with me?  How much should I share with a friend about why I left a church? The pastor’s wife thought I was trying to bring a revolt against her.  I’m a 66yo virgin who struggles with porn; […]

Caller Questions: Did I make the right decision to set boundaries with a man who only wants a friends with benefits relationship?  Do you have any words of wisdom as I have stage 3 colon cancer and am staying in a hotel because my husband is emotionally unavailable?  How can I help my adult daughter […]

Caller Questions: Because of you, I made a decision to not shake my fist at God or numb out my pain after my adult son recently died in a bridge collapse.  At Thanksgiving should I tell my son why I was cold and harsh to him when he was a little boy?  What is your […]

Caller Questions: My 69yo husband with Parkinson’s demands sex once a week despite being impotent.  My niece won’t talk to me after I offended her; how much time should I give her?  Can you explain more about an exercise on forgiveness in your book Healing is a Choice?  My adult daughters discovered my husband had […]

Caller Questions: I’m dating a man who gets angry easily; do I continue dating him if I can’t trust him?  After 40yrs, how do I press on with my wife’s borderline personality disorder?