The Chick Whisperer Podcast

Co-Host Dr. John DeMartini (https://mountainoppodcast.com/perceptions) It's easy to get kind of a warped perspective on our relationship with a certain woman--or women in general, really--especially if we've gone through a bit of a "dry spell" or haven't yet experienced the kind of success we'd really like. In those cases, we already know we need a whole new way of looking at things because what we're doing is openly sabotaging our chances with the very women we want. My first-time guest Dr. John DeMartini is a world-famous human behavior expert, and he has powerful ways of reframing and/or even resetting how we as men look at relationships with women. First off, how is it we as men put women on a pedestal at best, or completely dismiss them as "out of our league" at worst? And how do we repair that mindset? What does "The Miracle Of Selfhood" have to do with how our perceptions of women get so warped and unbalanced? What does John mean when he says, "envy is ignorance, imitation is suicide"? What's the diffe

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== We all want to be our true selves in any situation, of course. But how do you head-check yourself to make sure you're presenting your real, natural self when approaching and meeting women? How about on first meetings, or those first few weeks when you're getting to know them? As it turns out, there's a sobering but potentially dead-accurate way to tell. All is revealed in this brief episode. Where do you stand? Take the Reality Check Inventory quiz for FREE at: https://mountaintoppodcast.com/realitycheck === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. It's all built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.

Co-Host Lauren Salaun (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/essence) We talk about the masculine/feminine dance quite a bit around here, but what is the very essence of femininity? And especially, how would a woman define that herself? My first-time guest is Lauren Salaun, who is a transformational facilitator and somatic life coach. When she came to me with the idea for this show, at first it sounded a bit basic. But after 500 episodes, we've never talked about it the way she presents it. So what IS femininity, and what ISN'T it? And how do women sometimes exhibit "masculine energy" even as feminine women? What are feminine women actually looking for in a man, beyond those surface-level interview questions? How can a man bring out a woman's feminine energy, and what do men do to shut it down? Why can a woman be soft with one man and hard with another? What's the difference between a woman who wants you vs. one who just chooses you? What makes a woman feel safe enough to fully open up and surrender? Next, why attra

==SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== For years there has been talk about "going direct" with women. Well, how can you directly approach and talk to women while being "indirect" at the same time? Unlock that secret and open up a whole new (and easier) way to tell what a woman's interest level is, whether she has a boyfriend or not, and more...all before you get her number and tell her you want to see her again. Get the BRAND NEW report on 5 ways to get better with women RIGHT NOW for FREE at: https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. It's all built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.

Co-Host John Kim (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/johnkim) We've had a number of guests define "love" different ways on this show. My returning guest John Kim, author of the new book Love Hard On Purpose, thinks of it as a deliberate, daily practice. Well, isn't that the same thing as love being a decision, rather than simply a feeling? We jump right in by talking about whether couples should feel guilty for being happy. John isn't sure there's really such a thing as a happy couple. So what does love look and feel like to John? Do couples who love each other fight...or what's the better word for the healthy kind of expression there? John is from LA and his partner is from NYC. What happens when cultures collide in a relationship? What do most couples fail to do daily in demonstration of their deliberate love for each other? How should couples handle the inevitable evolution of their selves and their relationships over the course of their lives together? What are some of the subtle traps or pitfalls couple run

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT===Far too many men wait passively for a woman to come into the picture. And when she does, they expect her to make the first move...whether that's showing them some sort of flirtatious sign or downright approaching them first and saying "hello". In the real world, that rarely happens. As men, we lead. We make things happen. And it shouldn't feel as if we HAVE to, it should be more like we GET to. When we take the initiative, we WIN...and that goes for most every area of life, not just success with women. But how do we DO that? Expect real-world examples in this brief episode. Get the BRAND NEW report on 5 ways to get better with women RIGHT NOW for FREE at: https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. It's all built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character.

Co-Host Suzanne Noble (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/noble) My first-time guest Suzanne Noble is the host of Sex Advice For Seniors. Whatever you're thinking, forgettaboutit. She is candid, open and honest enough to make Dr. Ruth Westheimer blush. So what can a woman who's compiled over 10,000 hours of sexual activity (now Malcolm Gladwell's blushing as well) tell us about sex and relationships? Well, after bantering a bit about her being an American in London for over five decades, we jump right into how qualified she is to share with everyone what works, what doesn't, and what pisses her off. Adding up Suzanne's 10,000 hours, she was quick to mention that some of that was in five- or six-hour increments. How do you last six hours? Can you have snacks, or even take naps during sex? What is up with "performative sex", and how does maturity help us stop focusing on that? Sex is supposed to be fun, but is it also supposed to be silly? Are multiple orgasms really necessary...or even desired? Why do even younger

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT===People pleasers have the bad habit of trying to seek approval from everyone. Typically, talk on this subject gravitates around how people pleasers attract narcissists, which is a bad thing for sure. But there's an even darker side to this mindset and its associated behavior pattern that almost guarantees perpetual failure with women. Worse, most people pleasers have a massive blind spot. How can you figure out what is actually happening, put a stop to it, and start going about things the right way? Here's a hint: When you do, you'll almost immediately get all the approval that's been somehow eluding you all this time. Get the BRAND NEW report on 5 ways to get better with women RIGHT NOW for FREE at: https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. It's all built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Ma

Co-Host Emily McKay (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/coach) Emily joins me once again, this time for a fun-filled topic. Yes, we're talking about flirting...and flirting should indeed be fun. If it's work, drudgery, or even creepy and weird then we're not doing it right. Since women love fun, that means they also love to flirt. So what IS flirting really, anyway? And given the stereotype that sex slows down (or stops) after marriage, is it really flirting that stopped first? How is it that couples who actually like each other and are attracted to each other stop flirting? What killed it? The even better question is how do you get your flirt mojo back once you've lost it? Can we not lose it to begin with? What are the big differences between casual flirting with people we don't even know (yet), and flirting with someone we already know, or are in a relationship with? When Emily and I met, we flirted constantly from the first date. Have we slowed down or stopped flirting in our own relationship? And what in the

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== Last week we talked about how men try to find a "workaround" for not being tall, good looking or rich...when the truth is we should be focusing more on what our strengths actually are. As a follow up, this week I'm covering another equally tricky prank we play on ourselves. The craziest part about this one is we hold ourselves to such strict account in this regard when considering our potential attractiveness to women, yet even though WOMEN also suffer from the same affliction, we as men rarely even notice...let alone care! Add it all up, and we really need to get over ourselves, stop being our own worst enemy (yet again) and start attracting women like we deserve to. Get the BRAND NEW report on 5 ways to get better with women RIGHT NOW for FREE at: https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionab

Co-Host Brandon Wade (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/seeking) My first time guest Brandon Wade s the founder and co-CEO of Seeking.com, a dating platform he founded in 2006 after his own frustrations with modern dating and difficulty finding meaningful connection. For nearly 20 years, he has helped build and evolve Seeking around a core idea that now feels more relevant than ever: successful relationships start with honesty, intentionality and aligned expectations. And importantly, if the person you're with isn't inspiring you, that's a major red flag, if not a flat-out dealbreaker. Brandon freely admits that seeking.com started out as a "sugar baby" site, and that description is still somewhat accurate even nowadays. But here's the thing...despite everything I've ever warned you about regarding the whole "sugar daddy" thing, Brandon found the love of his life on his own site, despite his own take that the entire "dating industry" is rigged against successful people! After once cynically (and publicly) questi

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== For years we've been told women want tall, rich, good-looking guys...and then given workarounds, loopholes or "quick fixes" to try to get women without having any of those traits going for us. Well, how is that working out? If not so well, this brief episode exposes the real truth. It's not that you've been lied to about not needing to have won the "genetic lottery" to get women, it's just that for all these years the FOCUS has been all wrong. Here's what to do that really WORKS...without tricks...without having to be someone you're not. Also, I have a BRAND NEW report on 5 ways to get better with women RIGHT NOW. Get your FREE copy at: https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. It's all built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get bet

Co-Host Simone Milasas (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/simone) You have what's commonly known as relationships, you have situationships, and now you have creationships. The term was coined by my first-time guest Simone Milasas, who sheds some new light on some of the ideals we've held true for years now around here. Now obviously, a "creationship" should be the opposite of, say, a "destructionship", but what is it exactly? Simone explains all. Knowing what it is and how great it sounds, what's holding most people back from entering into one? Well, for starters, it's not medieval times anymore. We're not partnering up for political reasons or financial reasons (at least, hopefully not), we actually get to choose who we want to be with. What's the "trickle down" effect of that freedom of choice? What exactly do you get to "create" together as a couple, perhaps even in defiance of conventional wisdom and commonly held limiting beliefs? And how do today's widely held opinions on masculinity and femininity factor

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== Too many of us psyche ourselves out when it's time to meet a woman and invite her to spend some quality time with us. We start fearing rejection, think of the hundreds of other guys she'd probably want instead of us, and end up rationalizing our inaction. Meanwhile, sure enough...some other guy who's really no better than you ends up with her. What's he got that you don't? The truth is he probably didn't win the genetic lottery or inherit millions. All he has is a different mindset. The good news is you can "flip a switch" and get that mindset for yourself. When you do, you'll revolutionize both the ease and the simplicity with which you meet and attract women from now on.. Speaking of "flipping the switch", I have a BRAND NEW report on 5 ways to get better with women RIGHT NOW. Get your FREE copy at: https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that

Co-Host Gabriela Rosa (https://mountaintoppodcast.com) Sure, a lot of guys fear--or even dread--fatherhood. But what if you have the right woman in your life, are finally ready to start a family with her...but can't? And it turns out the problem isn't her, it's you. My first-time guest Gabriela Rosa is a Harvard-trained fertility specialist and founder of Fertility Breakthrough, the world's first fully virtual fertility clinic. She has helped 140,000+ people in 111 countries achieve parenthood, with a 78.8% live birth rate. So first off, does age have anything to do with this? If you drop the hammer on your 25 y.o. honey at age 90, will you still knock her up? Or is that a myth? What about women's "biological clock"? Do they worry too much about that? What are some of the ways our sperm can suffer? Did you know "silent infections" can keep us from being as potent as we could be? What is the big "misconception" people have about getting reproductive help, and why is it so counterproductive to getting results?

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== The idea of a rite of passage from boyhood to manhood is talked about constantly in masculinity circles. Well, even though lots of other world cultures have historically had one well-defined moment when a boy comes a man, either by ritual or simple pronouncement, that certainly is not the case here in the post-modern Western world. We look around us and see way too many "man children" whose ID cards say they're adults, but their mindset, lifestyle and character aren't quite there. What is the real point when a boy can step up and say he's truly a man? And why is it so hard to define? As it turns out, the answer is crystal clear and has been hiding in plain sight. It's just that other factors in society have obscured matters. In this brief episode we'll reveal what that TRUE rite of passage is, along with how and why everything got so confused. Get the new program called The "Big Four" Woman program here: https://mountaintoppodcast.com/bigfourwoman === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO

Co-Host Jim Wolfe (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/funny) My long-time friend and fellow coach Jim Wolfe returns, this time to talk about how to use the kind of humor that women find attractive. We kick things off by talking about the oxymoron that the harder we try to be funny, the less funny we are. What do you do with that situation? Well, the good news is being funny is a learned skill...but one few men ever master. What kind of humor attracts women, and what kind turns them off? It's important to get that part right. Jim lives right next to Iran these days, which is decidedly not funny. How does humor relieve stress and make life in general more bearable? What is the difference between having a sense of humor and being funny? You don't actually have to be a comedian to make women laugh, all you need is THIS (which most men are allergic to!) What about using humor as a Dad, as well as with women? What's the same and different? And what's the same and different about the humor you use when meeting women vs.

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== Who knows where the term started, but "sexual threat" is one of the most widely mis-interpreted phrases in the world of seduction and attraction science. For better or worse, it's also dead-on accurate in terms of describing what's going on. Obviously, we know a "Big Four" man is rightly focused on making a woman feel safe and comfortable. So how can something called a "threat" be a positive and powerful thing? Well, the truth isn't quite as complicated as it sounds. And yes, this is yet another one of those subtle areas that once you get right, your success with women skyrockets. In fact, it's a major key of moving from platonic to sexual. Get the new program called The "Big Four" Woman program here: https://mountaintoppodcast.com/bigfourwoman === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. It's all built on the "Big Four"

Co-Host Marni Kinrys (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/fwithher) We talk about making women feel safe and secure, but what else do women need to feel genuine, raw, primal attraction? My long-time friend and returning guest Marni "The Wing Girl" Kinrys joins us to talk about her "Four Ss" (which I'm not exactly sure how to type out in proper English), which have everything to do with how we show up and lead as a man. Before we dive into that, we talk about being "equal time" advocates for men and women, and how that translates into us both being optimistic about the future of male/female relationships. Marni is a "boy mom" nowadays, which is having more and more impact on how she views masculinity and what kids are up against. How has the "all or nothing" fallacy affected how men and women communicate with each other nowadays? Next, Marni talks about how she met her husband...in a totally unexpected way, which is solid insight for every man. How do we as men create "monsters" out of women, without even realizing

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== We're hard-wired to want women, and women are hard-wired to want us. That's how it has been since the dawn of time. So what's happened in the last century or so to make men apparently uninterested in women? Was it that women were uninterested in us first? Well, the truth is all of us--men and women--have been tricked. What's the truth underneath all of the division between men and women? And more importantly, how do we as men return to GETTING women rather than trying to FORGET them? And will women at least meet us half-way there? Get the new program called The "Big Four" Woman that goes into more depth: https://mountaintoppodcast.com/bigfourwoman === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. It's all built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you lo