The Chick Whisperer Podcast

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== There's so much shop-worn dating advice out there we've heard SO often that I swear we don't even realize there's anything wrong with it. Example...have you ever noticed that virtually all tips on approaching women, meeting them and interacting women them assume a playful, happy-go-lucky, flirty woman as a given? The only other frame of mind we consider possible in that scenario is disgust and anger...directed at the guy approaching her! But that's just not how life works, is it? There are perfectly sane, decent women out there who will not be at their best when it's time to meet them and interact with them. They could be women you're just meeting, or long-time acquaintances. But either way, interacting them is an opportunity we should absolutely not avoid. Here's why...and this could revolutionize your approach out there. Did you know that VAMANOS is the everyday carry for "Big Four" men? Getchasum at https://vamanos.chat === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE ===

Co-Host Emily McKay (https://www.deservewhatyouwant.com) Since our last episode together, Emily and I celebrated 20 years since we met. Over the course of two decades, we've realized there are seasons to a marriage. Now obviously, most couples would hope for an endless springtime rather than the winter of their discontent, but what we're talking about here isn't quite so literal. It's not just that things change both in the marriage and around you. That's inevitable in this life. It's not even about the evolution of the marriage, or the both of you over time, really.  Rather, it's a definite smooth and perhaps even rhythmic flow from one major theme of your life together into another. Now, Emily and I met when we were in our mid- and late-thirties, respectively. For the benefit of those of you listening who might be younger, what seasons can younger couples expect? Is it all about being DINKS (or even DINKWADS)? What about the "Honeymoon Phase"? And the dreaded "Seven Year Itch"? Does Parenthood count as a se

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== Better men get better women. To be a better man, the "Big Four" is the standard. Once you're a "Big Four" man, you deserve what you want. Although there's always room for improvement, most men who listen to this show have three of the "Big Four" down pretty well. You're masculine, you like women and you're a man of good, solid character. But when "confronted" with an attractive woman we'd like to meet, talk to and get to know, we freeze up and "fail to deploy". What's up with that? Why is the CONFIDENCE part so difficult? I mean, without it, how are women ever going to know you represent the other three pillars of the "Big Four" as well? In this week's SFTS you'll not only get answers to why so many men struggle with the confidence part, you'll get practical solutions to fix the problem and make sure it never happens again. Did you know that VAMANOS is the everyday carry for "Big Four" men? Getchasum at https://vamanos.chat === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE ==

Co-Host Sandra Myers (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/sandra) My first-time guest Sandra Myers is a matchmaker who heads up Select Date Society. In this fast-paced and often funny episode, we talk about how (and when) men and women tend to blow it in the first three months of dating each other. To kick things off, Sandra throws down how WAY too many people mess up within the first three MINUTES, or on the first date. Here's a hint: How many people do you know who love biographies? What are some other ways we as men all tend to sabotage any chances with a woman early on? Why does living in the past even in a present relationship have such damaging consequences? How does a "dry spell" over the past several months affect our mindset when getting into a new relationship? What's the trap that couples fall into on or shortly after the first date that instantly creates a bad habit that could doom the relationship later? What's the right level of "being mysterious" early on? I mean, where's the proper balance between

One of the most tired tips for men when it comes to telling if a woman is attracted is "she makes eye contact with you and smiles". Way too many of us as men have never seen that happen even once. It's no wonder we're so frustrated. But wait a second, could we be robbing ourselves of potential "moments" with women because we're avoiding eye contact with women to begin with? Why do so many of us as men do that? What could we be possibly afraid of? Well, the simple (and easy!) cure for this weird and devastating problem is contained in this brief episode. Subscribe to the free newsletter and download your free copy of Sticking Points Solved: https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say her

Co-Host Steve "The Dean" Williams (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/dean) Well, here we are...finally all the way to episode #500. Massive respect and appreciation to all of you guys who've supported the show over the years, many since the very beginning back in 2007...when it was originally called The Chick Whisperer. The first guy I thought of to join me for this milestone episode was none other than Steve "The Dean" Williams, who co-hosted the first ten episodes with me BITD. And it's been too long, so the OGs got the band back together for one special show. Get your crayons out, gentlemen...we're about to chop up some game. And I figured nothing would launch us both into one of our patented rants than a topic like What's Wrong With Men And Women Nowadays? We get rolling by talking about what's changed over the last 19 years, and what's stayed the same. How have men been blown and tossed by whatever the "next new thing" is in dating and relationship advice? What has post-modern culture done to men's mindset

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== You've heard the term. "Liquid courage" refers to slamming back a few alcoholic drinks before expecting to approach and meet women. It goes hand-in-hand with "night game" culture of meeting women in bars and clubs, doesn't it? There's no doubt that a little "social lubrication" to grease the skids and lower inhibition really can work. But there's also a good, solid reason why I strongly discourage alcohol consumption during Ten-Plus Live weekends with guys out in field. Subscribe to the free newsletter and download your free copy of Sticking Points Solved: https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!

Co-Host Dr. Karen Stewart (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/stewart) We've all heard the term "situationship" all the time over the past few years, but what exactly does it mean? We already have "friends with benefits" and even "f-buddies", so there's no need for a new term for that. And hey, it's okay to date someone casually without rushing into commitment, too...so that's certainly not it, either. Well, as it turns out there's a pretty clear differentiator between a true "situationship" and any other kind of relationship with a woman. My first-time guest, clinical psychologist and sex therapist Dr. Karen Stewart, not only describes the "situation" clearly, she's all about the discussion regarding the good, the bad and the ugly going on there. What is "girlfriend mode", and what does it have to do with all of this? How is a climate of fear directly associated with the modern-day proliferation of situationships? What are the disastrous ways men misunderstand a woman's signals that she's indeed just up for some

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== What can one specific play from Super Bowl LX teach us about how to get better at meeting and interacting with women? As it turns out plenty. In this brief episode, discover the valuable habit that carries over from most team sports, and how specifically to apply to cold approach situations. What's more, I'll show you the exact response you're likely to see initially from women, as well as how they'll respond once you actually start a conversation with her. No more fumblerooskis, only first downs (and first dates) from there. Subscribe to the free newsletter and download your free copy of Sticking Points Solved: https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say

Co-Host Holly Nelson (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/holly) Think of it like aspartame is to real sugar. "Synthetic intimacy" may be sweet, but it's not the real thing. And when you get right down to it, you're not really even fooled. So why then are so many people falling for it nowadays? My first-time guest Holly Nelson is NOT a robot (she said so herself), but rather a sex therapist from Phoenix, AZ who has spent a lot of time thinking about this subject. We hit the ground running on this fast-paced discussion, talking about how "intimacy" isn't really intimate at all if it's one-sided and people are getting manipulated. How is AI already affecting our relationships with women, and what should we be watching out for both now and in the near future? Why is Claude.AI so convincing when pretending it cares about you? And why is it dangerous to "get close" to ChatGPT (even above and beyond the obvious)? In all fairness, has technology actually succeeded at connecting us...even while dividing us at the same tim

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== A lot of us as men have allowed ourselves to believe that making common small talk with women when we meet them is something we have to avoid. After all, if we don't come up with something heroic to say in the moment, she'll probably lose interest quickly. Well, in this brief episode I'll not only show you why making small talk is actually the right strategy, I'll reveal why attempting some sort of "big talk" is likely to backfire spectacularly. And yes, even if you DO somehow come up with something miraculous and creative to talk to her about, I'll tell you why it's STILL likely to ruin everything ANYWAY. Hint: It has less to do with you, and more to do with her . Subscribe to the free newsletter and ownload your free copy of Sticking Points Solved: https:mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionabl

Co-Host William Schroeder (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/justmind) My first time guest William Schroeder is an expert on neurodivergence not only because he is a mental health therapist, but also because he has walked that path himself. What are the challenges facing men who are ADHD or have Asperger's...especially when it comes to relating to women? More importantly, how can you overcome those challenge and thrive? Well, the first question to ask is why the term "neurodivergence" has been in the media more often in the last few years. Next, it seems like everyone's attention span is shorter since COVID. How much of neurodivergence is nature vs. nurture? And what is the difference between ADD, ADHD and Asperger's, anyway? How transparent should we be about neurodivergence with other people, say, girlfriends or even bosses? How can ADHD men excel in relationships with women? On the other hand, what if neurodivergence seems to be wrecking my chances with women? How are people affected by changes in how ADHD an

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== Have you ever known someone who you have occasional social conversations with, but then one day--boom--crickets. What happened there? Was it you, or was it them? Chances are, neither of you was particularly at fault. In this brief episode I'll give you at least eight solid reasons why it happened. Several are specific to situations like this that might happen with women you're interested in. And yes, at least two of the others sound straight out of a Larry David plot on "Curb Your Enthusiasm". But since this is no joke when it happens, I'll also give you reliable ways to fix the situation to get you back on the right track socially. Get in on the AI revolution: https://mountaintoppodcast.com/vamanos === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed

Co-Host Chloe Carmichael (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/chloe) It's no secret that more of us than ever don't exactly feel as if free speech is what it used to be. It's as if we can get canceled, arrested, or even worse for saying what we really think, and that's especially worrisome when it comes to communicating with women. After all the warnings from HR, is it okay to express interest in a woman, or even talk to her at all?  My first-time guest Dr. Chloe Carmichael is a clinical psychologist and USA Today bestselling author of "Can I Say That? Why Free Speech Matters and How to Use It Fearlessly". We kick things off by talking about "toxic masculinity", and the possibility of it being talked about less nowadays because the job was done (!). But have men really resigned themselves to shutting up and "staying in our lane", or have we simply rejected the whole premise altogether? I mean, what did men gain by even trying to "do better", other than women being more disgusted with us than ever? Chloe offers rea

>===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== The quest for the perfect pickup line is one of the oldest in the world of men's dating advice. But ultimately, after all the hype settles, there's only ONE perfect pickup line. Here's the truth: No matter how cool, how funny, how smooth or how perfect your silver-tongued pickup line is, it's ALWAYS gonna come down to what you say next. And guess what? It's exactly what you should have said FIRST all along...every time you approach a woman. Get in on the AI revolution: https://mountaintoppodcast.com/vamanos === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!

Co-Host Rob Thomas (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/robthomas) The default setting when trying to resolve dating and relationship issues with women is to talk about it, right? Well, my first-time guest Rob Thomas came to the conclusion that trying to say the right words at the right time was exhausting. Drawing from his day job as a business consultant, he figured out there are very real ways to truly increase rapport and connection without using any words at all. The next thing you know, he wrote a book about that called Wordless Connection. Importantly, its not about wordless communication, per se, but rather about full-on connection. So first off, why is it we often end up speaking a "cloud of euphemisms" when talking to our WAGs? And what can we do instead to create an almost instant connection without saying anything at all? What is the science behind the value of embracing your partner for an exact duration of time? And how does that concept apply directly to eye contact, as well? Does the saying, "watch

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== Why do extremely self-centered women who don't seem to care about you and your needs at all keep ending up in your life? It's like the same relationship over and over, only with a different woman. Well, it happens to literally the best of us as men. In fact, some solid traits adjacent to the "big four" are exactly what attract narcissists. The first step to putting an end to this pattern is recognizing it's there to begin with. So if you've found this episode, you're already on the right track. But once you also know how the mind of a narcissistic woman works, you can easily understand exactly what it is about you that was so attractive to her, and then put the kibosh on toxic relationships. Then, you can make a stand against ever welcoming another woman like that into your life. Better still, you can leverage those same fantastic traits of yours to match up with a woman who is sweet, kind and treats you right for a change. Get in on the AI revolution: https://mountaintoppodcast

Co-Host Doug Noll (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/dougnoll) Why is it that younger men get into so many more unfortunate altercations than older guys...not just with other men, but also with women? My returning guest Doug Noll is a world-class expert in de-escalating situations with angry or unreasonable people. Known for his book De-Escalate: How To Calm An Angry Person In 90 Seconds Or Less, Doug returns this time for a deep-dive into how mental and emotional maturity makes us better at calming down hysterical women, and even avoiding sticky confrontations altogether. For starters, how can it be that Doug and his wife never fight or argue? What is "affect labeling", and why is it your #1 strategy for cooling down potential altercations? How come arguments between men and women can become so hurtful so fast, and how do we prevent that? Why does Doug believe there's no such thing as "rationality", and ergo, "irrationality"? How does Stoicism enter into all of this? What genius principle has Doug identified th

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== We talked last time about how the woman of your dreams quite probably will be the culmination of all your favorite girlfriends. But wait...how did you arrive at what you "favor" about women to begin with? In a recent coaching conversation, it came up that our "type" might actually be established when we're VERY young...like in pre-school. Does that mean that our "inner child" pre-destined us to be with a certain type of woman some day? Well...sort of, but not exactly. Get the "bigger picture" truth in today's brief episode...and stay tuned for the surprise ending. Get in on the VAMANOS AI  app at : https://mountaintoppodcast.com/vamanos === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here i

Co-Host Daniel Ratner (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/ratner) On this first day of 2026, we hit the ground running with how to eliminate the WRONG people from your life this year, and from now on. Daniel Ratner is a Jewish-American coach who made Aliyah and now lives in Jerusalem. So obviously, specializing in vampires of any kind only shows he has a sense of comedic irony that would make Mel Brooks blush. But for sure, the whole weird but tragically common phenomenon is what it is, and Daniel has studied it as much as anyone. So much so that he has identified several different types of emotional vampires and described them. For starters, what's the pattern that makes so many of them narcissists? And what exactly is "covert narcissism" again, and why are they typically among the worst offenders? How do women in particular draw us in with vampirical patterns that seem "cute" at first--even attractive--only to truly wear us out over time? Can a real, actual emotional vampire really, actually love us? Why is it