Delight Your Marriage

Hi there! Belah here. Today, I have with me Karen, a DYM listener who bravely shares her heartbreaking---yet very enlightening---story. She talks about her own struggles with anxiety and depression and thoughts of taking her own life due to abusive experiences from  childhood. She shares about the more recent issues of sexual abuse that has  ravaged her family. Not only did these affect her individually, but they have also taken a toll on her marriage. She tells about how the frustration and emotional torment affected the intimacy in her marriage. Listen as Karen takes us deep into how common sexual abuse is and how victims have been silent under a blanket of shame. Karen urges everyone to keep an seek help from trustworthy people who can help and support you.   All the links, resources, and show notes available at: delightyourmarriage.com/31   Sign up for my free, live online training: “How To Love Him MOST” delightyourmarriage.com/webinar

 Hi there! Belah here. Today is Part II of my interview with Brad and Kate from onefleshmarriage.com. In this episode, this godly couple talks about how they were able to overcome struggles in marriage, through opening up to each other. They share a most inspiring story of how they arrived at a better place in their marriage with three central things that you too could use in your own marriages. Join us as we tackle the intimacy hardships faced by married couples, new and old, and as we unwrap helpful tips to take yourselves out of the darkness and bring your marriage into the light.   All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/30 Check out Part I at delightyourmarriage.com/29 Sign up for my free, live online training: “How To Love Him MOST” delightyourmarriage.com/webinar

Hi there! Belah here. Today, I have with me Brad and Kate of onefleshmarriage.com. Together they bring us into the first few years of their marriage when they were too distracted by everyday life and it greatly affected their intimacy. Kate opens up about how it was tough for her to switch gears, from being a full-time mother and homemaker to being a wife who desires her husband. Brad pitches in about how he was too busy making a living for his family that he neglected his wife’s emotions and failed to understand her needs as a woman. Listen in as this godly couple takes us on a journey with their helpful tips and advice on how to vanquish selfishness in marriage and be more present in the relationship, especially during sexual intimacy.   All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/29   Sign up for my free, live online training: “How To Love Him MOST” delightyourmarriage.com/webinar

Hi there! Belah here. Today is Part II of my interview with Julie Sibert of intimacyinmarriage.com. Julie talks more about how to nurture your sexual intimacy by intentional habits and letting your spouse know exactly what you want in the bedroom. Hear her speak about how to get past the past, it’s okay to let your guard down, and drown out the insecurities. Listen to her tips on how to be proactive in the bedroom and shares the three chief things that are central to marital success.   All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/28 Check out Part I at delightyourmarriage.com/27 Sign up for my free, live online training: “How To Love Him MOST” (and receive my free guide!) delightyourmarriage.com/webinar

Hi there! Belah here. Today, I have with me Julie Sibert of intimacyinmarriage.com. Julie is a wife and mother to 2 boys and is passionate about creating a long-lasting marriage with sexual intimacy as a big part of it. She believes that marriage is to be enjoyed by two "grown ups" who are in love and have the desire for each other. Listen as Julie shares her experiences with her past relationship and how she has come to realize that sexual intimacy, alongside friendship and faith, is a major part of married life and should be nurtured and taken care of. Join in as Julie tells us how she keeps track of “healthy” relationship habits that will surely affect your marriage positively. All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/27   Sign up for my live, free online training: “How To Love Him MOST” delightyourmarriage.com/webinar  

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have Part II of my interview with founder of Covenant Spice. She talks about how she and her husband has made their marriage a priority, right after God and even before their children. Listen as she shares about the importance of resolving problems when they are still at the beginning stages, growing connection with your husband, and knowing each other’s limits. She tells us a refreshing story about just having fun with your hubby and how her business has served as their ministry that reaches out to others who struggle with the same intimacy issues.   All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/26   Or go directly to Covenant Spice to spice up your intimacy!   Sign up for my free, live online training: “How To Love Him MOST” delightyourmarriage.com/webinar

I would be honored if you have agreed (even if only with parts of DYM) or have been interested to hear the true heart behind it.... I have tried to be as honest as possible here. (There may be areas that-- I can't see currently, that were dishonest--but I tried!) I didn't listen to this again before uploading it. I plan not to listen to it, (but maybe I will when I need help getting refocused on what I think is God's heart is for DYM). I would be honored if you at some point were able to listen (though beware: my vulnerable heart is revealed in it). I do sincerely ask that you would choose wisdom if you have feedback for me--or want to talk about this to others--as Jame 3:17 says: "But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere." Thanks and love, Belah

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have founder of Covenant Spice talking about her married life and how intimacy changed when she opened herself up to really enjoying it. She and her husband founded Covenant Spice, an online shop featuring intimacy products for married Christian couples. She shares about her wildly conservative upbringing and how it has required a journey through the Bible and discover that there’s a lot more to enjoy than she thought! Listen in as she talks about how it is perfectly okay for a married couple to use more interesting means and make sex exciting for you both! Shop at the adult toy store here and receive free shipping for this week! Just type in the coupon code: delight (Offer ends 5/5/15) Or go directly to Covenant Spice to spice up your intimacy!    All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/25   If you’re interested in joining the free, LIVE training “How To Love Him MOST” sign up at delightyourmarriage.com/webinar

Hi there, Belah here. Today is a BONUS (Friday) episode: Part III of Annie Lobert, hookersforjesus.net, and she shares her best intimacy tips for husbands and wives! Tips for how you can turn on your wife tonight. And for the ladies: how you can understand your husband at a whole other level! The underlines the truth that there is hope for your marriage. And I deliver a challenge at the end that I hope you and your spouse pays attention to. I believe God wants to do some incredible things in your marriage and this world. Listen in!   Find all the show notes and resources at delightyourmarriage.com/24   Challenge links: For men: Delightyourmarriage.com/dignity For women: Delightyourmarriage.com/webinar

Hi there! Belah here. Today is Part II of Annie Lobert, hookersforjesus.net, talks about how one can leave the sex addictions whether it is or inappropriate fantasies, porn, and using call girls. Its so sad but a reality and it is important to understand and be ready to resist. God cares about every person struggling in this sin and He wants to give you hope and inspiration to fight against this significant struggle.   All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/23   Sign up for my free, live training and receive my FREE guide! delightyourmarriage.com/webinar

Hi there! Belah here. Today, I have Annie Lobert of hookersforjesus.net talking about her story from being coerced and abused in the sex industry. She has been through horrifying experiences, where she was beaten into submission by her then boyfriend who ended up controlling her as a pimp for years and how she was raped at gunpoint multiple times. Since her amazing transformation, she has now been married to an awesome man for 6 years and has 3 step-children, she shares hope in the midst of so much brokenness. All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/22 Sign Up for my free, live Online Training (for wives only!) at delightyourmarriage.com/webinar

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have with me Dr. Joel Kahn of drjoelkahn.com and author of The Whole Heart Solution. Dr. Kahn is practicing medical doctor who specializes in cardiology and gives quick, but important keys to support your sexual health. He gives pointers on how to achieve a better lifestyle to support a great sex life, and how wives can support their husbands in this journey toward optimal health. Listen as he explains practical insights on making your health work in the bedroom!   All the links, resources, and show notes available at: delightyourmarriage.com/21 If you’re interested in joining the free, LIVE training “How To Love Him MOST” go to delightyourmarriage.com/webinar

Hi there! Belah here. It’s just me today, and I will be talking about the vulnerable issue in my life: my struggle with body image and how it has affected my life in general. Every day we are faced with the “standards of beauty.” We are bombarded with skinny women on the covers of glossy magazines, in ads---everywhere we look. It’s about time that we take a look at ourselves a different way; be proud of who we are and for what we are. The body is just a vessel; the soul is the real deal. You are more than your weight. Listen in as I talk about how I struggled with eating disorders, growing up with the teasing, going into a marriage with my insecurities, and how I slowly overcame all these with some steps that you, too, could use in your own lives.   All the links, resources, and show notes available at: delightyourmarriage.com/20 If you’re interested in joining the free, LIVE training “How To Love Him MOST” go to delightyourmarriage.com/webinar

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have Part II of my interview with Chris Taylor. Chris shares bravely about how serving her husband (at first just to fill his need) has become an incredible place of joy for her as well! Chris is a self-proclaimed feminist (as am I), and she says it’s important for a wife to serve him in the bedroom. She shares the hard work she’s put into improving their marriage, including how she used “stealth growth opportunities” on her husband every chance she got. Listen as she explains how it’s absolutely alright to let loose and be vulnerable; and that in those vulnerable moments, the most tremendous spiritual aspects of intimacy come into play.   All the links, resources, and show notes available at: delightyourmarriage.com/19   If you’re interested in joining the free, LIVE training “How To Love Him MOST” go to delightyourmarriage.com/webinar

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have Chris Taylor of forgivenwife.com shares the struggles that began with two decades of incredibly sparse intimacy. Sex was something she didn’t enjoy because of her guilt due to a promiscuous past. Listen to the pain that’s so evident as Chris shares how sex began to transform her marriage. Though it was a difficult road of humility and change in herself and in her marriage. Sex drew her closer to her husband and God.   All the shownotes and resources can be found at delightyourmarriage.com/18   Sign up for the free, live training about Peni (marital oral sex) happening tonight at 8pm! delightyourmarriage.com/14

Hi there! Belah here. This is Part II of my talk with Bonny about her story. Bonny Logsdon Burns of oysterbed7.com made a choice to fight for her marriage. She grew and learned about what her husband needed her to be as a wife. Be a warrior in the bedroom and learn how to increase your sex drive too!   All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/17   The FREE webinar is coming up soon! Sign up at delightyourmarriage.com/peniwebinar

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have Bonny talking about her story. Bonny of oysterbed7.com  has been married for 20+ years. Her story is about God’s redeeming power of something that could have broke them. Bonny was raising 3 kiddos almost single-handedly when she learned of a secret that caused her so much pain.   All the links, resources, and show notes available at: delightyourmarriage.com/16   & Sign Up for free webinar Specifics of Amazing Peni (aka oral sex; Wives only!) delightyourmarriage.com/peniwebinar

Hi there! Belah here. Finances are the #1 cause for divorce, find out how this marriage survived even having the electricity cut off and not enough gas to drive to church. Today I have Valerie on the show to talk about her marital story. Like all of us, she experienced tough times financially. She shared how hanging tight to God was the best thing she could do for her marriage. Listen in!   Check out all the shownotes at delightyourmarriage.com/15. Sign Up for FREE webinar "Specifics of Amazing Peni" at delightyourmarriage.com/14

Hi there! Belah here. This is Part II of my interview with Ginny Hannan who shares the habit that she and her husband have developed to make their fights way easier. She also gives some great ideas about having fun in intimacy and just generally lightening up about life’s challenges. I give a little insight into how to choose joy even in the midst of challenges.   All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/13

Hi there! Belah here. Today I have Ginny here, who shares a heart wrenching story of the challenges she faced when her adopted daughters came home from Colombia. She struggled with serious depression and considered ending her life, but God made a way out. She shares how we can fight depression before it takes hold. It will inspire and challenge you.   All the links, resources, and show notes available at: http://delightyourmarriage.com/12   Plus receive my guide "8 Secrets to Enjoy Love Making & Staying Present!" for free at delightyourmarriage.com