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While you and I danced in the streets, Dan was trapped in Australia, where marriage equality is NOT YET LEGAL. Hear his thoughts on the Supreme Court decision. A woman is attractive, accomplished and has big plans. But when potential dates start talking to her, they quickly shut down and move on. What is she doing wrong? Is her grandmother correct that she talks to much?  A woman was sexually abused by her mother. Is she obligated to explain this to her 16 year-old son?  On the Magnum, Dan speaks with PhD neuroscientist and data scientist  Matthew Baggott about the therapeutic uses of MDMA. A.k.a ecstacy,a.k.a. the LOVE DRUG. Does it have a place in your therapists office? This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at

This week we are delighted to welcome Hillary Frank, host and creator of The Longest Shortest Time podcast, to answer some questions about reclaiming your sex life after pregnancy. Also, a woman tends to date messed-up, and/or addicted guys, because she likes to try to heal them in their “time of darkness.” How can she keep doing all this groovy healing without constantly dating damaged men? A woman’s husband is bisexual. He came out to a friend at their subtly anti-gay church group and the man ran screaming. How can she help her husband to get over the loss of this friend?  And more, more, more.  206-201-2720 This episode of theSavage Lovecastis supported by SundanceNow Doc Club: The new streaming service for everyone who loves documentaries. To get a free 30-day trial go to Docclub.com/Savage. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is also brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to Boll and Branch.com end enter

OMG it’s actual movie star famous guy celebrity JASON SCHWARTZMAN. And guess what? He’s clever, funny and super-nice. He and Dan talk about his new movie The Overnight, swinging, swastika tattoos (spoiler: he’s against them,) controlling mothers, and the famous people you want to sleep with. Don’t miss it. There’s some on the micro, and more on the Magnum.  Also, a man’s new boyfriend has the same name of a former abuser of his. How can he get over the horrible association?  And, how can an experimenting bisexual lass get “lesbian society” to take her seriously? 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale.

A divorced single mother can’t seem to get it through her lovers’ heads that she just wants casual relationships. How can she convince them that there’s no ring required?  A woman’s mouth is dick Kryptonite! Her boyfriend’s penis always goes soft when she tries to go down. What on earth is she doing wrong?  On the Magnum, Dan talks to author and bioethics professor Alice Dreger as well as documentarian Liz Canner, who created Orgasm Inc, about the hype and general scumminess surrounding the new “Female viagra”- flibanserin. And tons more.  206-201-2720 This episode of theSavage Lovecastis supported by SundanceNow Doc Club: The new streaming service for everyone who loves documentaries. To get a free 30-day trial go to Docclub.com/Savage. Today's Lovecast is also brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you

An 18 year-old man and his girlfriend are learning how to get it on. She can make herself come, but he can’t get her there himself. Would a vibrator be such a bad idea?  Dan welcomes comedian, writer and actress Ophira Eisenberg (host of NPR’s “Ask Me Another”) to discuss the wisdom of face tattoos and the sexiness of mansplaining.  On the Magnum, a family tiptoes around their gay son’s atrocious behavior because they’re afraid he’ll call them homophobic.  Hey penis-havers! Do you ever have aftershock orgasms when you pee after sex?  Tell us all about it.  206-201-2720 The Savage Lovecast is sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep.  Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/savage and enter the promo code savage.  This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at   Today's episode is also brought to you by Framebridge.com. Send them your art, choo

The complicated nature of abusive relationships: Dan speaks with Seattle author Jason Schmidt about his memoir A List of Things That Didn’t Kill Me, a raw, honest look at the mix of neglect, abuse and fierce love in his own upbringing. You should buy this book, and then read it.  Also, a gay man is about to go to drama school at a conservative Christian college. Should he stay in the closet just long enough to graduate and then begin the lifelong project of exacting his revenge? On the Magnum, a straight man is friends with a transwoman. Once she got her surgery, she’s suddenly super-hot to the caller. Is it time to make a move? And, breast milk: It’s not just for babies anymore! 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you byHarrys.com. Get $5 off your first purchase by entering the code "Dan"when you check out. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They mak

Mom has been having an affair for 17 years, and dad just found out about it. How can this beleaguered daughter support both of her parents?  A gold star lesbian fell into bed with a man, and discovered that…she liked it. A lot. Now what?  On the Magnum, what makes people rat out their friends or family for infidelity?  Dan speaks with Dr. Dan Kruger for a “What You Got?” about why people blow the whistle.   Also, a woman is dating a man who happily accepts blow jobs, but won’t go down on her because he only does that for “slender ladies.”  And tons more.  206-201-2720 The Savage Lovecast is sponsored by SmartMouth Activated Mouthwash. SmartMouth blocks bad breath for 12 hours. Get SmartMouth at your local drugstore and keep your breath fresh. Today's Lovecast is also brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage Today's episode is also brought to you by Framebridge.com. Send them your art, choose a frame an

A woman finds herself in the middle of a poly free-for-all when she falls for a guy who is sleeping with every woman he can get his mitts on. Is this the poly lifestyle, or just a dude with a harem?  A woman is nursing a crush on a man she suspects to be gay. Is there any way she can divine the truth?  On the Magnum, Dan speaks with Dr. Andreas Baranowski for a “What You Got” on what happens to women when you take fear out of casual sex in a sexy, sexy laboratory. (Warning! The sound quality in this interview is pretty bad. But we can’t help it when science happens in Germany!)  And the show ends where it began- with poly heartbreak. A man is crushed to hear that his girlfriend wants him to take a step back, so her girlfriend can move into his primary slot. And he thought he was so cool with the whole poly thing… It’s not for everyone, kids.  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. The Savage Lovecast is al

This week we delight in welcoming the incomparable poet, writer and filmmaker Sherman Alexie. He and Dan discuss white chicks who embrace “Native American spirituality,”  how to pretend to be abstinent to placate your psychopathic preacher, and whether it’s creepy to ask your younger girlfriend to call you “daddy.” Sherman is a treasure and this is not to be missed.  This episode is brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by SmartMouth Activated Mouthwash. SmartMouth blocks bad breath for 12 hours. Get SmartMouth at your local drugstore and keep your breath fresh. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage"

Conservatives smile with their mouths. But liberals smile with their eyes. So says social psychologist Andreas Wojcik in a "What You Got" proving once and for all that lefties are happier than right-wingers.  A young man suffers from CUNNILINGUS LOCKJAW. Although Dan has never experienced this particular ailment, he nonetheless  has some advice to give. On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans rights activist Chelsea Poe about straight cis men who are attracted to transwomen.  A woman used to cut herself when she was depressed. She's better now, but has many scars to show from her dark times. How can she warn her new lovers and get over the shame and embarrassment she feels? 206-201-2720   The Savage Lovecast is sponsored by SmartMouth Activated Mouthwash. SmartMouth blocks bad breath for 12 hours. Get SmartMouth at your local drugstore and keep your breath fresh. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at   This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.

A priest and a rabbi come onto a podcast… This week Dan welcomes the retired gay Episcopal Bishop of New Hampshire, Gene Robinson, as well as a Rabbi Jeremy Gerber to tackle some thorny religion/sex issues.  How should straight men act at gay pride parades?  Are facials inherently misogynist? A woman has just discovered that her husband had an affair. But when they finished fighting about it, the sex was hotter than ever! A married man notices that when he and his wife fight, she tends to withhold sex. Is this a strategy, and how can he make it stop? And a ton more.   206-201-2720 The Savage Lovecast is sponsored by SmartMouth Activated Mouthwash. SmartMouth blocks bad breath for 12 hours. Get SmartMouth at your local drugstore and keep your breath fresh. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at   This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage".

After a long dry spell, a woman's husband is finally going down on her. But his stubble is causing considerable discomfort! Dare she use her words and suggest he take a razor blade to his pretty face?  A teen girl in Utah has just discovered feminism. She realizes she has only seen images of passive women on the tee-vee, and worries that she won't know what to do in bed. How can she learn to take an active role?  On the Magnum, are you ready to rumble? From our live show in Portland this year, witness Dan vs. the mighty Cheryl Strayed from the Dear Sugar podcast in an ADVICE SLINGING CLASH OF THE TITANS.  Send us your one minute or less calls!  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by SmartMouth Activated Mouthwash. SmartMouth blocks bad breath for 12 hours. Get SmartMouth at your local drugstore and keep your breath fresh. This episode is brought to you byHarrys.com.

Can Dan convince a young woman to accept and forgive her father for having a 9-year-long affair with a married woman?  Listen in as Dan deftly navigates through the kind of  theoretical quandary that only a conservative silly person could present.  Dan interviews Laura Anderson about her Slate article covering the history of condoms and why they could be so much better.  On the Magnum, fall down the poly rabbit hole with us, won't you? Dan chats with poly activist and lawyer Diana Adams about the rise of polyamory in our cultural awareness, and how to live the poly lifestyle, while maintaining your precious sanity. Also, don't you want to learn about "Poly Cocktails"? 206-201-2720 Today's Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage This episode is also brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage The Sa

This week, we are delighted to welcome Dr. Kara Cadwallader from Planned Parenthood to answer a backlog of medical questions about herpes, meningitis, IUDs and the good ole flu.  When you cheat and cheat and cheat, is it time to call yourself poly?  On the Magnum, Dan chats with writer, journalist, and transgender woman Parker Molloy, about seeking the understanding and acceptance of family members when dating a trans person.  And, a gay man wants to try a threeway with a woman included. Does he have to turn in his gay card?  And MORE.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by SmartMouth Activated Mouthwash. SmartMouth blocks bad breath for 12 hours. Get SmartMouth at your local drugstore and keep your breath fresh. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobo

Her fiancé would rather enjoy congress with an unwashed blow-up doll than his betrothed. Does this spell ruin, or just a happy companionate marriage?  Hear the steamy tale of the nude model, the super-hot art teacher and the things he does with his laser pointer.  On the Magnum we've been saving up parenting questions for the indomitable Amy Lang, sex educator and creator of Birds + Bees + Kids, to help parents talk to their kids about s-e-x.  And, Dan interviews Alison Stevenson about her article in Vice Magazine, about not giving blow jobs 206-201-2720   This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by SmartMouth Activated Mouthwash. SmartMouth blocks bad breath for 12 hours. Get SmartMouth at your local drugstore and keep your breath fresh.

Trapped in LA, Dan chitty-chats with comedian Jeffery Self about self lubricating, bossy slaves, "little brother" role playing and three-ways with celebrities among other things. The Gay is strong with this one.  Also, on the Magnum Dan talks with Sex and Family Educator Stephanie Mitelman about the struggles people on the autism spectrum have with sexuality and dating.  206-201-2720 Today's Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage This episode is also brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by SmartMouth Activated Mouthwash. SmartMouth blocks bad breath for 12 hours. Get SmartMouth at your local drugstore and keep your breath fresh.

The Lovecast is delighted to welcome Mistress Matisse. Dan and our favorite dominatrix/sex-worker rights activist talk about getting started with domination, the perils of being a sex worker and (what else?) 60 Shades of Grey.  When planning a three-way with your wife and a friend of yours, how do you choose the lucky friend? And how can you minimize the awkwardness when you make the ask?  On the Magnum, hear the spooky tale of a mother-in-law's mysterious vibrating couch.   206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. From now until Valentine's Day 2015, get 50% off almost any item, plus a romance kit, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by SmartMouth Activated Mouthwash. SmartMouth blocks bad breath for 12 hours. Get S

A self-professed "pervert" is married to a self-professed "Christian." He wants to keep watching his porn in peace, she forbids it. Should he sneak to see Hump, or fess up and invite her along?  A hand-wringing lesbian feels guilty whenever she gets the foot massages that turn her on so.  Dan chats withJonathan Capehart (of the Washington Post and MSNBC)  about homophobia in black culture, and the CONSPIRACY to destroy black families by making black men gay.  On the Magnum, Dan welcomes Historian of Sexuality Alice Dreger to talk about her brave new book, "Galileo's Middle Finger: Heretics, Activists, and the Search for Justice in Science." Today's Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage This episode is also brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter snacking. Get a free sample, by visiting Naturebox.com/savage This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.c

The Lovecast welcomes Anna Sale from WNYC's "Death, Sex & Money" podcast to pick over the nuances of Dan's thinking on non-monogamy.  We check in on a caller from last year who has recurring cancer, and a boyfriend who wasn't quite ready to marry her. Learn how she is doing, and whether they tied the knot.  Hear the tale of yet another deflowered, "abstinence-only" Christian. (It's kind of hot…)  So much. Always so much.  206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. This episode is also brought to you by Audible. Download a free audiobook of your choice today at

An amputee is offended when her new boyfriend warns his brother about her disabilities. Is she being too sensitive?  A man is being ask to lie about his sister-in-law's abortion. How should he handle the complicated family dynamics?  How do gay people happen? Do mommies cause them?  On the Magnum version of the show, a very smug Dan Savage interviews Dr. Amy Muise about her recent paper which proved, (PROVED!) that being GGG is beneficial to relationships. Science says so.  A woman is horrified to discover that her boyfriend has been sending off dick pics to anyone who will look on Craigslist. Dan gently talks her off the break-up ledge.   206-201-2720 The Savage Lovecast is sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep.  Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/savage and enter the promo code savage.  This episode is also brought to you by NatureBox: the subscription service dedicated to smarter sna