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Hey Chicago! We were in you! And we recorded the whole thing. Have a listen to our live show from last Spring at the Music Box Theatre. On the Magnum, Dan dares to argue with Heather Havrilesky (a.k.a "Ask Polly" from New York Magazine,) about the role of honesty in relationships. Also, a gay man saw someone he knows in some online porn. Should he tell the guy? 206-302-2064 Today’s Lovecast is brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com Get 50% off just about any item, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". This episode of the Savage Lovecast is also brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to BollandBranch.com and enter Savage.

A closeted bi woman, newly aware of her own bisexuality, feels guilty when she so much as hugs another woman. How can she get over it already? A lesbian is about to have her wedding. Does she have the right to exclude Trump supporters from the guest list? On the Magnum, Dan chats with NYT columnist Rob Walker, of the Workologist, about how to deal with some sexist, bigoted schmucks at the workplace. A bi woman started seeing a super-sexy bi gal. But! She only gets to sleep with her when the boyfriend is in the room watching. And he's kind of a jerk! A true dilemma, yes? 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is brought to you by Rocket Mortgage from Quicken Loans. Rocket Mortgage brings the mortgage process into the twenty-first century with a fast, easy and completely online process. Check out Rocket Mortgage today at QuickenLoans.com/savage. Today’s Lovecast is also brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super-comfortable, good looking undies. Get 20% off your first order when you go to MeUndies.com/Savage. Th

Special guest ranter Ana Marie Cox tells us what it's actually like at a Trump rally. (Spoiler: terrifying.) A gay man is living in a group house with a straight couple. When the man in the couple drinks, he gets a bit...handsy, much to his girlfriend's delight. Should the caller get together with his roommate? Will the girlfriend give her permission? What exactly is the etiquette when you discover that your long distance boyfriend of 4 years actually has a wife and kid? Should you ghost him? Or confront him? On the Magnum, author, feminist pornographer, and sex educator Madison Young chats about making the porn you want to see. Also, Dan advises a woman who has been HIV positive from birth, on how to disclose her status, and own it without shame. 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by . Send them your art, choose a frame and they'll send you your art beautifully framed and ready to hang. Use the promo code "Savage" for 15% off your first order. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.co

A young man living at home is getting blamed for his father's second divorce. That sounds like kind of a raw deal doesn't it? A man is in a GREAT relationship with his girlfriend. It's SO AWESOME. Except when she gets drunk and verbally abuses him. So there's that.  On the Magnum, Dan chats with identical twin, queer, pop-star heart-throbs, Tegan and Sara about online dating, and what to do with that bottle of conditioner your ex left behind in the shower. A man and his wife are going through hard times. Thank goodness for Linda, his mother-in-law who is there to help. Except...she's always there! How can our caller carve out some Linda-free time to fuck his wife already? 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is brought to you by Rocket Mortgage from Quicken Loans. Rocket Mortgage brings the mortgage process into the twenty-first century with a fast, easy and completely online process. Check out Rocket Mortgage today at QuickenLoans.com/savage. Today’s Lovecast is also brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, sup

A man has started dating a woman he suspects is a virgin. She's hot, but he doesn't want to have to teach her about sex. Should he bail, or give her a few lessons? A woman fell into bed with a man so drunk, that he didn't remember going down on her. Now he's asking her friends what happened that night. Should she tell? On the Magnum, Dan chats with MTV's Ira Madison III about the complex issues that come with being a black man with submission fantasies. And, the sleepover that fried a mother's brain. 206-302-2064 The Savage Lovecast also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep.  Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/savage and enter the promo code savage. This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. G

A woman is in a new relationship with a wonderful man! But! His ex keeps coming around leaving love notes, Victoria's Secret receipts and otherwise marking her territory. How can the caller flush out the intrusive ex? What is the etiquette in asking out a guy at the gym to join you and your husband for a threeway? Should your husband be present for The Ask? On the Magnum, Dan chats with the creators of Tickled- a documentary about a seemingly harmless fetish, that turns strangely sinister. Also, should you go and get that vasectomy already? Dan and author/Professor of Sociology Eric Klinenberg, discuss male vasectomy hangups. This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to BollandBranch.com and enter Savage. Today's episode is also brought to you by Framebridge.com. Send them your art, choose a frame and they'll send you your art beautifully framed and ready to hang. Use the p

Last week, we asked our African-American listeners to call and speak their minds. Please listen to them at the end of the show. It's  the American thing to do. A woman is married to a man she knows is a creep. He pervs at all the wrong times to all the wrong people. So is it a good or bad idea to open their relationship? On the Magnum, Wonkette's Rebecca Schoenkopf takes some calls about the continuing rift between Bernie supporters and Hillary supporters. Also, should a woman get a harmless-but-ugly mole removed from her vagina, or learn to love it? 206-302-2064 Today’s episode is brought to you by Rocket Mortgage from Quicken Loans. Rocket Mortgage brings the mortgage process into the twenty-first century with a fast, easy and completely online process. Check out Rocket Mortgage today at QuickenLoans.com/savage. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web

A woman with Catholic in-laws tires to figure out whether she should cave in to them and get her little baby baptized. Dan’s advice…may shock you. Then, Dan chats with ex-muslim sex blogger and children's book author, Elynah about sex negativity in conservative Muslim communities. On the Magnum, Dan speaks with trans activist Parker Molloy about the problematic connection the clueless make between transwomen and drag queens. And, another marriage falls apart as a man discovers his wife textin’ and sextin’ snorting blow, lying and meeting strange men in bars. Can this one be salvaged? No, it cannot. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Get a free 30-day trial at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage. The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep.  Get $50 off any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/savage and enter the promo code savage. This podcast is also brought to you by

The ins and outs of HUMP! Dan chats with Hump! Producer Tracey Cataldo about the Hump! Film Festival- what kinds of films you can expect to watch and how to make the kind of porn we want to see. What to do when your open relationship comes to a screeching halt? A married woman has been getting it on with her married female friend, but neither husband can handle it. Should they continue in secret? On the Magnum, It’s Emily Galati, live at our show in Madison, Wisconsin. This is some seriously funny shit, people. Listen. Learn. Laugh. Also, why do all the men in this woman’s life have a problem with her adorable, fuzzy, little teacup puppy hopping up on the bed to sniff around when they’re trying to fuck? 206-302-2064 This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration This episode is also brought to you by Club W- the wine club that helps you to c

A woman has endured 10 years of sexual harassment from a creep she works with. How can she get him to stop without getting him fired? (Hint: It’s a trick question.) Dan and another gay guy get into a BIG FIGHT about guns!!! In a far more civil discussion, on the Magnum, Dan chats with Moira Weigel, author of “Labor of Love: The Invention of Dating” about how your grandparents viewed dating and going steady. And finally, hear the sordid tale of man who finds himself cat-fished by his own girlfriend. Oh, the people. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Club W- the wine club that helps you to choose wine that suits your taste and ships it right to your door. For 50% off your first order, go to ClubW.com/Savage. Today's episode is also brought to you by Framebridge.com. Send them your art, choose a frame and they'll send you your art beautifully framed and ready to hang. Use the promo code "Savage" for 15% off your first order. Today’s Lovecast is also brought to you by MeUndies.com: High quality, super

A tortured gay man can’t envision a world where it’s better to be out than to stay in the closet. Dan tries his darnedest to convince him. Hey fellow homos: call us and pitch in, won’t you? A woman catches her boyfriend signing up for a hook-up app. What does this mean? On the Magnum, Dan chats with the Queen of Ireland, a.k.a Panti Bliss- the drag queen who took on Irish homophobes and won big. A true hero who looks fabulous in heels. And, hear the wisdom of a Trump supporter! 206-302-2064 This podcast is brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration Today’s episode is also brought to you by the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week

Please listen to Dan’s heart-rending response to the Orlando massacre. In lighter fare... A 19 year-old bi lass worries that she’ll never get to try ladies if she stays with her monogamous-minded man…forever. Is there any hope for her? A man is about to meet a woman he’s been having phone sex with for the first time. Where he just wants to “bone down,” she’s been talking about moving to his town to start a relationship. How can he proceed with caution in this delicate situation? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Vocative writer Tracy Clark-Flory about the plight of the virtuous pedophile. Also, a man is considering sex work. So long as he keeps himself safe, is this a good idea? Dan chats with sex worker and sex worker’s rights activist Mike Crawford. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Get a free 30-day trial at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage. This episode is also brought to you by Club W- the wine club that helps you to choose wine that suits your taste and ships it right to your door. For 50% of

A man is dating a woman who stopped putting on make-up and fixing her hair. If he asked her to start gussying herself up again, would that make him, like…you know…an asshole? A woman asks a question that sends Dan scurrying to the red phone to call a veterinarian for some expert advice. Why does Dan need a vet? You’ll have to listen to find out. (Cat humping.) On the Magnum, Dan and sex blogger Ella Dawson are here to SMASH THE HERPES STIGMA once and for all. Glad that’s out of the way. Also, a woman wonders if she let her boyfriend wax her pussy, would it kill the romance a bit? 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration. The Savage Lovecast is also sponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premium mattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deserves a great night’s sleep.  Get $50 off any mattress purchase by vi

Ever since her brother walked in on her masturbating as a child, our poor caller thinks about him when she’s fantasizing. How can she get her brother out of her sex-head? In other yucky family dramas, a woman’s father has advanced dementia, and tugs it openly, all the time. It’s gotten to the point where she doesn’t want to see a single penis- not even her dear boyfriend’s. How can she get her father out of her sex-head? Man. What is going on out there? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Emily Bazelon and Mistress Matisse about decriminalization of prostitution. And, even though gay marriage is finally legal in this country, a lesbian still finds the concept of a lesbian wedding ridiculous. Dan helps her tease her discomfort apart. 206-302-2064 This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". This episode is also brought to you by Club W- the wine club that helps you to choose wine that suits your taste and ships it right to your door.

This is our 500th episode. And we’re just getting started! This week, Dan chats with stoner, writer and delightful person David Schmader about his book “Weed: The User’s Guide.”  Speaking of green, Dan has a thing or two to say about the Green Party. A 24 year-old Texan woman worries that if she breaks up with her boooorrring boyfriend she’ll be called an “old maid.” And, guess who sashays in to harsh our mellow with “science?’ It’s Doc Barak! 206-302-2064 Thanks for listening for so long, you guys. Stick with us, won’t you? This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage".   This episode of the Savage Lovecast is brought to you by BollandBranch.com: luxury, affordable fair trade certified sheets. Get $50 off a set of sheets plus free shipping by going to BollandBranch.com and enter Savage.   Today’s episode is also brought to you by the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulo

What is the etiquette for when you run into someone who stood you up on a date? A woman’s friend is in a crappy marriage with 4 kids and a lying, cheating husband with a high profile in their church community. How can the caller convince her friend to DTMFA? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Jillian Keenan, author of “Sex with Shakespeare” about vetting a dom, and her new book. Also, a caller wonders how to help his 96 year-old grandmother experience sexuality in her life. It’s Joan Price to the rescue! She and Dan discuss sex for the senior set. 206-302-2064 This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". This episode is also brought to you by Club W- the wine club that helps you to choose wine that suits your taste and ships it right to your door. For 50% off your first order, go to  ClubW.com/savage This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want

A caller wonders if super-rich people are naturally less monogamous than the rest of us. In other inane questions, exactly which, and how many of One Direction are gay? On the Magnum, Dan takes a few lesbian-oriented calls with author Anna Pulley. And, in a “What You Got?” Dan interviews Lea Seguin on the men who fake orgasms and why they would do such a thing. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Get a free 30-day trial at Today’s episode is also brought to you by the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 2 meals free by going to .com/savage. This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale.

A woman’s sister has been in a secret relationshipfor 7 years. Can or should she talk her sister out of what shethinks is an unhealthy relationship? A woman discovers that she gets off from spitting inher boyfriend’s mouth. Is this common? Is this wrong? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Alice Dreger, author ofThe Talk: Helping Your Kids Navigate Sex inthe Real World about whether it’s cool to let your 12 year olddaughter get that teeny-tiny, little bikini. And a shy straight guy can’t figure out how to ask agirl out even when she’s making ggo-goo eyes at him on thetrain. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace.com.They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, andif you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount andfree web domain registration. The Savage Lovecast is alsosponsored by Casper, an online retailer of premiummattresses for a fraction of the price -- because everyone deservesa great night’s sleep.  Get $50 off any mattress purchase byvisiting casper.com/s

It's the sex toy extravaganza! After receiving a preternaturally high number of questions about sex toys, we decided to bring in a crack team of experts from women-centered, sex-positive stores across the US and Canada. What actually fits in a cock ring?  How do you keep a dildo clean? What's the best restraint to start out with? Do sex toys carry emotional baggage? All these questions and more are answered for you. And additionally, on the Magnum, a man out on parole wonders when and how to tell the story of his crime. 206-302-2064 Thanks to the folks at She Bop, Babeland, Come As You Are and Womens Ware.   Today’s episode is also brought to you by the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week’s menu and get your first 2 meals free by going to .com/savage. This episode is also brought to you by Club W- the wine club that helps you to choose wine that suits your taste and ships it right to your door. For 50% off your f

Furries and Cheeseheads: Join us in Madison, Wisconsin as Dan loves up his old college town. He took about a million questions from the audience and messed with their Midwestern heads. On the Magnum, Dan chats with the charming hosts of Feral Attraction- the furry community’s sex and relationship advice podcast. Meow. 206-302-2064 This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage". This podcast is also brought to you by Stamps.com. Click on the microphone and enter "Savage" for $55 free postage and a digital scale. This episode is also brought to you by Squarespace.com. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl, and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% discount and free web domain registration