Master Coach Mindset | Mastering The Art Of Fearless Conversations + Learning Life Coaching Skills

Clarity. There’s never enough of the stuff. It’s so easy to get confused when you’re trying so hard to do the right thing. And it’s so easy to get off track when all the parts of you aren’t aligned. Asking clarifying questions is the key to finding out if all the elements of you are in sync and that leads to clarity, which leads to trusting yourself.   Welcome to Season 2, Episode 9 of Master Coach Mindset™ with Rhonda Britten. Today’s episode focuses on “Speak to Clarity.”   What You Will Discover: (JA)   - The keys to trusting yourself as a Coach - Getting back into the Session if you’re lost - How to discover if your Clients are aligned and how to get them back on track - Clarifying questions allows the Client to find the wisdom within - Silence heals - Question of the Day: "Should a new Coach focus on one-on-one coaching or group coaching or both at the same time?" ********** P.S. Grab your Free Fearbuster Coaching™ Toolkit at http://bit.ly/2kNP1um   #mastercoachmindset #rhondabritten #fearlessliving #lif

In today’s episode, I’ll show you which Coaching Tool to use to help a confused client narrow down their beliefs, desires, or choices as well as how to support a Client feel the feelings that are unresolved. Plus, do you know when to interrupt a difficult, highly charged conversation and how to do so gracefully? And what about when to let a Client talk and talk and talk and talk?   When you want to make the biggest impact for your Client, you must use the correct Coaching Tool as well as apply the Coaching Skill of Clarifying.   What You Will Discover:   - When to clarify your Client’s authentic needs and wants using open and closed-ended questions - Why you must not be afraid to ask your Client any question - How to listen to your Client with your whole body - Your Client’s language is key to unleashing the power of clarifying questions - Here’s when to interrupt and do so skillfully and gracefully - Question of the Day: "I have a tendency to say what's on my mind to try and fix my Clients. How can I learn t

Getting distracted during a Session is something we rarely want to admit; yet it happens all too frequently. When we get distracted, we aren’t present. If we aren’t present, it’s tough to speak inclusively.   And more importantly, when we’re not present in the Session, we can no longer call ourselves a Coach. What You Will Discover:    - The difference between true and fake humility - Why caring for the Client includes taking care of you - How to make sure your Client is including their whole being - Reasons behind mirroring the same language as your Client - Question of the Day: "If I want to follow up on issues from a previous Session but don't want to interrupt or change the subject after a Client is in the flow, is it okay to leave it for the next Session?"   *** P.S. Grab your Free Fearbuster Coaching™ Toolkit at http://bit.ly/2kNP1um   #mastercoachmindset #rhondabritten #fearlessliving #lifecoach #FLICoaches ***

How do you speak inclusively to your Client while at the same time being the “Coach?” When do you take the lead versus take a seat? How do you have authority and compassion? Here’s What You Will Discover:   - Using the "Art of Coaching" to be an effective Coach - What it means to "Speak Inclusively" - The critical key for momentum - How to create “team” with your Client - The disempowering aspect of aha’s and insights - Are you teaching a class or are you coaching? - Question of the Day: "What's the best thing to do as a Coach when you need time to think and find your words?"   *** P.S. Grab your Free Fearbuster Coaching™ Toolkit at http://bit.ly/2kNP1um   #mastercoachmindset #rhondabritten #fearlessliving #lifecoach #FLICoaches ***

Today’s episode we’ll be continuing our conversation about Skill #1: Speak as if they are Innocent.    Innocence changes everything. Listen to Episode 5 now.   What You Will Discover:   - Different ways judgment may be seeping in to your Sessions - Disempowering questions and their effect on your Clients - How to be present in your conversations - The rate of listening versus speaking matters - The power of eliminating "you" before a sentence - Potential roadblocks to seeing your Client's innocence - Question of the Day: "What's the best way to respond in a Session when a Client asks, ‘How are you?' or starts to chit-chat?"   *** P.S. Grab your Free Fearbuster Coaching™ Toolkit at http://bit.ly/2kNP1um   #mastercoachmindset #rhondabritten #fearlessliving #lifecoach #FLICoaches ***

Have you ever wished you could be less judgmental? Well, hold on to your hat, because things are about to get serious.   Welcome to Season Two. Episode 4. This season I will be sharing the Eight Coaching Skills every Certified Fearless Living Coach learns in the Fearless Living “Life Coach Certification Program.”   In today’s episode, I share one of the most critical coaching skills and one of the most difficult to master. And… this skill is the foundation of everything. And I do mean E.V.E.R.Y.T.H.I.N.G. What’s the #1 Coaching Skill? Speak as if they are innocent   What You Will Discover:   - What does it mean to practice “innocence” - How do you see your Clients innocence as well as your own (even when you disagree) - The structure of your Session impacts your results - Learn how to practice seeing your Clients innocence - Question of the Day: "Occasionally I find myself reacting to my Client's story with expressions like, 'Oh man,' or, 'I'm so sorry.' Why is that such a bad thing? Is there a way to recove

What’s the difference between coaching and therapy? One of the most important distinctions you must have as a Coach is understanding where coaching ends and therapy begins. When you understand this line, you will better serve your client. And it’s critical for your integrity and living true to the ethics of coaching.   What You Will Discover:   When does your Client need therapy vs. coaching? How to coach Clients into therapy What's the Coaches lane vs the therapy lane Being attentive to your Client's needs Question of the Day: "Rhonda, what's the difference between a Coach and a therapist? How do we know when to refer a Client to a therapist while continuing to get coaching with us as their Coach? How do you approach a Client with a suggestion that they get therapy without being insulting?” *** P.S. Grab your Free Fearbuster Coaching™ Toolkit at http://bit.ly/2kNP1um   #mastercoachmindset #rhondabritten #fearlessliving #lifecoach #FLICoaches ***

Dirty Coaching™ is a phrase I created for coaching that does not serve the client, but instead, serves the coach. Find out if you’re unwittingly Dirty Coaching in your coaching sessions. What You Will Discover:  The five components of a Fearless Conversation™ The difference between solution coaching and transformational coaching Detaching from your Clients results Fearless Conversation™ vs. Dirty Coaching™ Dirty Coaching™ is seductive. Don’t get caught in the trap. Here’s how to help your clients figure out how they feel Question of the Day: "Are there telltale signs early on when a Client isn't the right one for the Coach?" *** P.S. Grab your Free Fearbuster Coaching™ Toolkit at http://bit.ly/2kNP1um   #mastercoachmindset #rhondabritten #fearlessliving #lifecoach #FLICoaches ***

Why learn coaching skills? You may be surprised at the answer. Plus, Rhonda shares what those Eight Coaching Skills are and so much more. What You Will Discover: Why learn coaching skills anyway? What you need besides insights and a-ha’s The importance of safety, trust and respect Miscommunication is at the heart of your heartbreak Dependency on your clients screws up your coaching The way coaching works is collaboration Who leads a coaching session? Question of the Day: "Do your coaching sessions often start off rocky and confusing with new Clients? *** P.S. Grab your Free Fearbuster Coaching™ Toolkit at http://bit.ly/2kNP1um   #mastercoachmindset #rhondabritten #fearlessliving #lifecoach #FLICoaches ***

The one way to quit shaming and blaming yourself is to embrace your humanity and give up labeling yourself and your clients with words like “resistant.” There’s no such thing.   That’s why today we are focusing on line thirteen of the Master Coach Manifesto: "A Master Coach embraces humanity and sees the miracle in every moment, never pushing away fear but devoted to ushering in freedom."   Highlights you don’t want to miss: 6:34 It’s never about “not” doing something, it’s about moving “toward” 7:16 Roleplay: Clients who complain 9:49 Your brain does not hear “not, no, stop” 13:44 The symptoms of fear 16:07 You have no “resistant” clients 21:37 Question of the Day: "What are good questions to ask to help a Client remember how far they've come? 26:07 Tip of the Day: Embrace your own humanity   *** P.S. Grab your Free Fearbuster Coaching™ Toolkit at http://bit.ly/2kNP1um   #mastercoachmindset #rhondabritten #fearlessliving #lifecoach #FLICoaches ***

Our feelings override our best intentions. Our insights give us a false sense of awakening. Our coaching is a reflection of how masterfully we have embodied our own feelings, intentions and insights. Our head will not get us where we want to go. We must use our whole body, heart, spirit and mind.   That’s why today we are focusing on line twelve of the Master Coach Manifesto: "A Master Coach supports the client in staying centered in their heart because they know a visceral problem can only be solved by a visceral solution."   Highlights you don’t want to miss: 5:34 A problem isn't solved because they think better 7:43 Crying, silence, “what?!” are all powerful visceral cues 10:59 Question of the Day: "What should we look for in a coaching program to ensure the most confidence in our skills when it's over?" 11:42 Insights and ah-ha’s alone do not change lives 15:53 Coaching with peers is ineffective, here’s why 21:28 How did you give up resentment Rhonda? 24:33 Tip of the Day: "Are you willing to love yourse

Learning the art of layered questions is essential to move from a good Coach to a Great Coach to a Master Coach. Without understanding the purpose open-ended questions versus close-ended questions or knowing how to stay in the flow that exists in the moment or anchoring and expanding your client’s ah-ha’s into their entire life, your influence, impact and confidence will be thwarted.   That’s why today we are focusing on line eleven of the Master Coach Manifesto: "A Master Coach listens beyond words and asks layered upon layered questions to get to the heart of the matter, working within the flow of what's happening now."   Highlights you don’t want to miss: 8:24 Question of the Day: What’s the difference between an open-ended and closed ended question? 10:15 Roleplay: Open-ended questions examples 13:00 Roleplay: Close-ended questions examples 17:10 When to take ownership as a Coach in your client sessions 24:35 Tip of the Day: Record your client-coach sessions   *** P.S. Grab your Free Fearbuster Coaching™

When you’re truly here to help, support and coach your client, you must have the courage to listen to what's moving through you and ask the next question whether or not you know the reason you're asking. It’s not nosy. It’s coaching. This is critical to support your client to reach beyond the known. 

That’s why line ten of the Master Coach Manifesto is:
"A Master Coach isn't afraid to ask how much money a client makes, when was the last time they had sex or any other relevant question. It is not nosy. It's coaching." Highlights you don’t want to miss:
 4:20 When do you ask how much money a client is making 8:48 When you feel nosy, this is what’s really happening 9:54 Clients aren’t coming to you for the reason they think they are 13;14 Question of the Day: How do I embody the way I want to ask my client questions? How do I always come from a place of love and nonjudgmental? What if I catch myself sounding judgmental after I've already spoken?" 14:18 Saying “You can do it” is not coaching. Do this instead. 17

There’s nothing more frustrating to me than hearing a coach talk about their ‘resistant client’ or ‘difficult client.’ There’s no such thing. Here’s the truth: Your client isn’t purposely sabotaging themselves, your client isn't purposely resisting, your client isn't purposely doing anything. They're not purposely wrecking their lives, they're not purposely not trusting themselves, they're not purposely making bad choices. When you know that in your heart and live it in your being, your coaching will change forever. Oh and so will your life. Seeing innocence is THAT important. That’s why today line nine of the Master Coach Manifesto is so critical: "A Master Coach speaks to their client's innocence, creating safety and deep healing, allowing their client to trust themselves again." Highlights you don’t want to miss: 4:44 You are not the solution to your client’s problem 9:37 Roleplay: Your client is not purposely sabotaging themselves, here’s what to say… 10:10 Do not coach to urgency here’s why 10:50 There’s

When we say we want to do something but don’t do it, it’s not because they are difficult or resistant, it means they are afraid. Telling a client they can do it, is ineffective. Try coaching them instead.  That’s why today we are focusing on line eight of the Master Coach Manifesto: “A Master Coach treats their client as if they are wholeheartedly doing their best, not theoretically but in reality.”   Highlights you don’t want to miss: 3:45 Every time you get frustrated with your client, this is the result 6:56 Fake cheerleading causes you to lose credibility 8:30 Do you believe your client is doing the best they can? 15:00 There’s no such thing as a resistant client 16:40  “The more you embrace human reality the more divine your experience.” 22:52 Question of the Day: How can I tell when a client is having a shift? Often they glaze over it themselves if the Coach doesn't catch it. 28:33 “Slow is the new fast”   *** P.S. Grab your Free Fearbuster Coaching™ Toolkit at http://bit.ly/2kNP1um   #mastercoachmindse

Most people are desperately trying to solve their problems. Yet, solving a problem only gives temporary relief. The only path to permanent transformation is soul work. That’s why today we are focusing on line seven of the Master Coach Manifesto: "A Master Coach works on two tracks at all times. The problem the client brings, and the real opportunity at hand."   Highlights you don’t want to miss: 4:17   The problem is the path to soul work 4:57   Live the Life Your Soul Intended ® 5:35   Resolving what’s underneath brings peace of mind 7:23   Their dream will eventually fail if we forget this 9:19   You can’t strategize your soul 12:20  What mattered doesn’t matter now 14:54  Coaching Tip of the Day: You are not the answer to your client’s problem. 19:16  What is a leading question? 24:35  The questions that give true choice *** P.S. Grab your Free Fearbuster Coaching™ Toolkit at http://bit.ly/2kNP1um   #mastercoachmindset #rhondabritten #fearlessliving #lifecoach #FLICoaches ***

Feelings are so confusing. They pull us one and then the other. And because of that, we stay stuck in indecision. One of the key aspects of taking our power back is knowing how feelings work and how to align our head, heart, body, and soul. When you can do that, clarity ensues bringing with it clarity, focus, motivation, and awe-inspiring wonder. Here’s line six of the Master Coach Manifesto: “A Master Coach honors a client’s feelings, yet listens for alignment, knowing that when the head, heart, body, and soul work together, that determines how free and fearless their client can truly be.” Moments You Don’t Want to Miss! 1:07 Coaching Skills are an Art 4:23 Listen to line 6 of the Master Coach Manifesto 5:27 Alignment means clarity, motivation, momentum. 6:35 Feelings either serve fear or freedom 7:33 An example of how anger is not bad or not good 9:11 How to coach: “I can’t take this one more minute.” 11:25 Victoria wanted to quit her job. I shocked her instead. 12:19 Who’s in charge of your decisions? 13:

One of my favorite lines in the Master Coach Manifesto is: "A Master Coach coaches beyond right or wrong or bad or good because there is no such thing as a mistake.” Here’s what I know: There’s no benefit to blaming and shaming for mistakes. The same is true for withholding innocence. Seeing your own innocence, and your clients is a cure-all for reframing your past into a new present that you’ll be proud of. And even more important, you will be able to let go of guilt and breath! Moments You Don’t Want to Miss! 4:51  Go beyond the current problem 7:06  This belief limits your capacity to help your clients 7:38  Three things needed for transformation 8:48  Downfall of “I should have known better.” 10:03 Coaching skill of seeing innocence 10:45 More you know, the crueler you can become 11:59 Wrong way to motivate yourself and robot results 13:30 What if you saw your client’s innocence? 14:17 Coaching roleplay: Mistakes 17:40 Ask coaching questions to eliminate guilt, shame, etc. 18:08 Forget 10. Six is fine.

There’s Something Way Better than Results Moments You Don't Want to Miss! 04:20 – The mechanics of a deep breath 07:12 – Embracing your humanity means awakening to your process 08:40 – Why you should be coaching yourself out of a job 10:41 – The real purpose of goals 11:03 – What our true job is as coaches 12:15 – Difference between coaching and consulting 13:00 –You client is looking at the sign ahead, where are you looking? 13:40 –This is what I do. Do you do this too? 16:20 –Every experience you have ever had brought you here 17:50 –If you’re not spiritual, you might want to turn the podcast off now 17:55 –How I became an actress, and why I quit 20:17 –Is everything really possible? 21:46 – Coaching Tip of the Day: Focus on when you’re coaching results versus process 23:16 – Question of the Day: What do you do, Rhonda, when a client comes to a session and says they have nothing to work on? *** P.S. Grab your Free Fearbuster Coaching™ Toolkit at http://bit.ly/2kNP1um   #mastercoachmindset #rhondab

A Master Coach never blames or shames their client, or gives them sympathy or pity, but supports them unconditionally. Moments You Don’t Want to Miss! 2:13 – Hear Rhonda flub and lesson learned 4:31 – Do you do this? Examples of shame and sympathy 6:31 – How your assumptions disempower your clients 8:45 – This disempowers your client 9:11 – To empower your clients, put your personal opinions aside 9:58 – How to get to the heart of your clients feelings 10:38 – How to support your clients in processing their feelings 12:41 – Coaching Tip of the Day: Eliminate the word “stress” and here’s why 13:39 – Fearbuster Exercise™: Feelings List and how to use it 14:10 – One word that changes everything 15:07 – Naming your subtle feelings is one aspect of self-mastery 16:09 – The one tool I use alongside Nonviolent Communication 17:33 – How blame and shame may show up in your coaching 18:42 – What does it mean to support unconditionally 19:13 – Question of the Day: “If a client goes