Valiant Growth: Earn Self-esteem, Build Amazing Relationships And Achieve Freedom Through Radical Personal Development

Why pursue radical personal development, and until when? Is there an end goal? These questions have been on my mind for a long time, and I finally feel that I have a good answer to them. The end goal is independence, or even better, becoming self-contained: “Having all that is needed, in itself.” We gain great benefits from relationships: the ability to powerfully fulfill our needs and have a support network that is far superior to what we can create on our own. But entering relationships with great neediness is a recipe for disaster. When we don’t have the inner resources to meet our needs to an at least satisfactory level, our connections go from being a great boost to being a lifeline - hence codependency, jealousy, clinginess. Also, it grants immense power to the other party - and that rarely ends well. This applies both on the emotional level, but also on the financial one. Abusive partners and abusive bosses stem from the same source: a lack of independence, or a lack of belief in one’s ability. Once yo