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Most people think uncertainty is the problem. It’s not. AJ sits down with journalist and author Simone Stolzoff to unpack why our obsession with certainty may actually be making us more anxious, avoidant, and stuck. From AI and career anxiety to relationships, decision-making, and control, Simone explains why experts are terrible at predicting the future — and why learning to tolerate uncertainty is one of the most important modern skills. This episode explores the three traps people fall into when facing uncertainty: comfort, control, and hubris — and how taking action, instead of endlessly consuming information, is what actually creates clarity. Chapters00:00 – Why we’re addicted to certainty08:00 – Experts predict the future like dart-throwing chimps16:00 – The comfort trap and avoiding uncertainty24:00 – Why overthinking becomes emotional safety32:00 – Control, anxiety, and the illusion of certainty40:00 – Identity, values, and making hard decisions48:00 – Curiosity, future self-trust, and taking action