Sexual Disorientation

Dr Ramani and Silvia Saige discover a common thread between Valentine's Day pressure, the Aziz Ansari scandal and terrible parenting: A lack of transparency. But can making your intentions clear go too far? Silvia laughs at what a 100% transparent date might look like, but Dr Ramani doesn't think the alternative is much better. Is it better to be a transparently selfish asshole upfront, or to try to mold your partner over time? Is there a third way? We all have "cereal commercial" notions of what a great family looks and feels like, but do the notions say anything about what you really want? Ramani says to get specific with yourself! If your specifics defy social trends, or your partner's specifics, what then? Dr Ramani and Silvia have the answer. A challenge for our listeners: What happened on your last Valentine's Day? And what does your answer say about you? Listen to find out! Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe

Dr Ramani is back! And she's just in time to prepare our listeners for the minefield of Valentine's Day. As far as she's concerned, it's the worst day of the year for love. Hear tons of helpful advice for ducking the FOMO, dealing with pressure and expectations, and how to read the signals to have a happy, healthy Valentine's Day – whether you're in a relationship or flying solo! Help us start a V-Day movement! Like Dr. Ramani says in the episode, go out to your local drugstore, buy the cheapest packet of elementary school Valentines you can find, and send them out to anyone who could use the love. Use the hashtag #DrugstoreValentine, and remember: Keep it simple, keep it cheap, keep it AUTHENTIC. Co-host Silvia Sage returns next week to talk New Year's growth, Aziz Ansari, and sex in 2018! Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app!  Sen

Dr. Ramani and Silvia Saige discuss the four month holiday period, from Thanksgiving until Valentine’s Day, that can be hell for both people in relationships and singles.  Silvia recounts the time she was back at her dad’s house for Christmas as a single woman, and her vibrator went off in her luggage as she was bringing it in. Another trip back home lead to her hearing her father and his girlfriend having loud sex.  Dr. Ramani weighs in on people trying to live up to expectations, and how that gets magnified during the holidays, which in turn creates tension for partners. Expectation is the relationship killer.   To remedy all of this sadness they decide to come up with the 12 Days of Sex for the Holidays, in hopes of bringing back the joy, love, fun, and lots of sex as the ultimate gift for you and your partner.  Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play,

Dr. Ramani and Silvia Saige discuss Louis CK and his exhibitionist masturbation issue. They dig deeper into using power for sex of any type and if there's a way to solve this problem. Dr. Ramani brings up the sexual spectrum in America, ranging from Calvanistic to outrageously deviant, and why we're at extremes. Silvia laments the fact that we don't teach our kids about sex in a healthy way. They ask the questions-- Did these abusive men in the news not get the girl when they were younger? Why is masturbation considered shameful? Does porn give people permission to do what they see in it? Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app!  Send anonymous questions to [email protected] 

Dr. Ramani and Silvia Saige sound off on Kevin Spacey and wonder how many men are scared that they're next. They discuss whether anyone will change or just curtail behavior over fear of getting caught. And can teaching our children better values and behavior make the world better in the long run? Then they dissect an article suggesting that cheating is good for relationships and break down monogamy, honesty, and if you should admit cheating to your significant other. Exploring pair mating vs open relationships and ultimately deciding that what matters most for humans is our capability to love.  Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app!  Send anonymous questions to [email protected] 

Dr. Ramani and Silvia Saige continue discussing the Harvey Weinstein controversy with the #MeToo hashtag. They explore why it's so hard for women to come forward when they've been harassed or assaulted and how there's a lot of shame in being a whistleblower. Also, how there's always the potential for quiet blowback even though you've done the right thing.  Plus, Woody Allen's idiot comments, Mayim Bailik pissing people off online, and how harassment even exists in porn.  Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app!  Send anonymous questions to [email protected] 

Dr. Ramani is joined once again by comedian and pornstar Siliva Saige. They discuss the topic on everyone's minds right now, the Harvey Weinstein scandal. From Harvey, to Bill Cosby, to Anthony Weiner, they go hard on narcissistic predators and the people that enable them. Plus, they both take issue with so called "sex addiction" and people that use it as an excuse for harassment and cheating. Get Dr. Ramani's book Should I Stay Or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship With A Narcissist now in paperback! Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app!  Send anonymous questions to [email protected] 

Dr. Ramani welcomes back guest host, pornstar & comedian Silvia Saige. They talk about the Anthony Weiner conviction which leads them down the road of how tech interacts with sex. From filtering what you do sexually online to how passionate love is unsustainable. Plus, Silvia opens up about having ongoing "relationships" with fans that go to far and how porn starts to feel real to people.  Plus, the question everyone wants answered--is it better to engage online or pick up a hooker on the corner? Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app!  Send anonymous questions to [email protected] 

Dr. Ramani Durvasula and guest host Sasha Knox talk to Mare Simone, a sex surrogate and tantric sex educator.  Mare provides sex coaching for individuals and couples. She is offering a comp consultation to our listeners. Visit MareSimone.com for more info.  The group discusses sex issues including shame and guilt. Mutual masturbation vs. engaged sex. How does sex surrogacy compare to prostitution? Is tantra better than just banging it out? And much much more.  Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app!  Send anonymous questions to [email protected] 

Dr. Ramani welcomes porn actress and comedian Silvia Saige who went from a corporate job, to standup comedy, then added porn to her resume. She went through a tumultuous time in her life then turned to comedy to start on a new path. After a legal situation left her needing money, she started doing porn and hasn't looked back since. Silvia and Ramani talk about porn's objectification of women, dating when you're in the adult film business, making it in standup comedy, and much more. Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on Apple Podcasts , Stitcher, Google Play, or any podcast app!  Send anonymous questions to [email protected] 

Dr. Ramani is joined by psychic Chris Medina who teaches her "Gay 101". In a candid and humorous way he explains, from his perspective, tops and bottoms, sex with straight men, sex with women, ass play, and why he will never go down on a woman---again! If you ever wanted to know the intimate details of gay sex then this is your episode.  Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on iTunes HERE and listen through Apple Podcasts or any podcast app! LIKE us on Facebook HERE.  And send us any questions anonymously to [email protected] if you want it answered on the show!  

Dr. Ramani is joined by pornstar, fetishist, and sex enthusiast Sasha Knox. They discuss sex cults, younger women with older men, and paying for everything with your vagina. Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on iTunes HERE and listen through Apple Podcasts or any podcast app! LIKE us on Facebook HERE.  And send us any questions anonymously to [email protected] if you want it answered on the show!  

Dr. Ramani is joined by pornstar, fetishist, and sex enthusiast Sasha Knox. They discuss normal vs. "porn" penis size, being sex positive vs. feeling guilt, and why porn is no longer a quick buck.  Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on iTunes HERE and listen through Apple Podcasts or any podcast app! LIKE us on Facebook HERE.  And send us any questions anonymously to [email protected] if you want it answered on the show!  

Dr. Ramani talks to her producer Frank about a book she read called "You Should Have Known" by Jean Hanff Korelitz. They discuss how, when a relationship goes bad it shouldn't come as a surprise because you knew it would from the beginning. How we delude ourselves into staying in something that's never going to last.    Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on iTunes HERE and listen through Apple Podcasts or any podcast app! LIKE us on Facebook HERE.  And send us any questions anonymously to [email protected] if you want it answered on the show!

Dr. Ramani sits down with pornstar and fetish lifestyler Sasha Knox to discuss foot fetishes, watersports, dominants and submissives, S&M, role playing, and more. They dissect the nuances in the fetish world, the responsibility of fetish based relationships, and the inaccurate depiction of movies like 50 Shades Of Gray.  You can find Sasha on social media at: Twitter: @RealSashaKnox Instagram: SashaKnox Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on iTunes HERE and listen through Apple Podcasts or any podcast app! LIKE us on Facebook HERE.  And send us any questions anonymously to [email protected] if you want it answered on the show!

Dr. Ramani and standup comic Sam Grody discuss a listener question about significant others with baggage.  Question: Is it acceptable to be with a person who has had multiple sex partners and keeps in touch with all of most of them as friends? Find out from both a clinical and a comedic perspective what it means to date someone who texts with people they've banged! And if YOU have questions you can email us anonymously at [email protected] to have them answered on the show! Also, if you have suggestions for great guests or topics drop us a line. Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on iTunes HERE. LIKE us on Facebook HERE.     

Dr. Ramani Durvasula talks to her producer, Frank, about cheating in the modern age. How does technology contribute to cheating? What defines cheating if you're not actually having sex with the other person. How does cheating manifest itself today?   Please subscribe to Sexual Disorientation on iTunes HERE. LIKE us on Facebook HERE.  And send us any questions anonymously to [email protected] if you want it answered on the show!