Coaching For Leaders

Bonni Stachowiak: Teaching in Higher Ed Bonni Stachowiak is the host of the Teaching in Higher Ed podcast, a professor of business and management at Vanguard University, and my life partner. Prior to her academic career, Bonni was a human resources consultant and executive officer for a publicly traded company. She joins me monthly to respond to listener questions. Listener Questions Chris asked for advice on how to begin his leadership development journey, in spite of a lot of current frustrations. Warren asked for our perspective on how to handle a problematic situation with two employees he has inherited. Malcolm asked about our philosophy of leadership and how much we need to stay true to ourselves. Resources Mentioned The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People* by Stephen Covey How to Win Friends and Influence People* by Dale Carnegie 11 Crucial Books That Every Leader Should Know American Management Association Dale Carnegie courses Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That

Jon Lokhorst: Technical Leaders Jon Lokhorst is a leadership coach and consultant who partners with CPAs, CFOs, and other leaders who face massive change in their industry and recognize the need for a new model of leadership to navigate those challenges. Key Points Leadership development is often neglected in technical fields. We have a tendency to focus more on our clients’ businesses than our own. Take a step back and ask yourself, “What are the things that are really important to focus on that aren’t necessarily urgent?” Resources Mentioned Jon’s white paper and e-course on professional development Academy Applications Open September 11th If you’re considering applying for the Coaching for Leaders Academy, visit coachingforleaders.com/academy to get on the early alert list. There will be an early application opportunity and a special offer for those on the early alert list prior to September 11th. Activate Your Free Coaching for Leaders Membership Get immediate access to my free, 10-day audio c

Kwame Christian: Negotiate Anything Kwame Christian is a business lawyer who teaches professionals how to negotiate and be more persuasive. He is the director The American Negotiation Institute and also produces the podcast Negotiate Anything, the top ranked negotiation podcast on iTunes. Questions Margaret asked about how to respond to people when they are asking for a pay raise. Kim asked about how to encourage an employee to leave the company. Vivian asked about how to handle a situation where an employee isn’t performing but who has a close relationship with a more senior leader. Roger asked what wisdom we’d give to leaders on handling tough negotiation situations. Resources Mentioned Download Kwame’s Free Guide Getting to Yes* by Roger Fisher and William L. Ury 306: Five Steps to Hold People Accountable with Jonathan Raymond  How to Win Friends and Influence People* by Dale Carnegie Activate Your Free Coaching for Leaders Membership Get immediate access to my free, 10-day audio course

Tina Payne Bryson: No Drama Discipline Tina Payne Bryson is the co-author, with Dan Siegel, of two New York Times bestsellers, The Whole Brain Child* and No Drama Discipline* — each of which has been translated into over twenty languages. She is a psychotherapist and the Executive Director of The Center for Connection in Pasadena, California, where she offers parenting consultations and provides therapy to children and adolescents. Key Points Much of what we do in the name of discipline is counter-productive. The original meaning of the word “discipline” is to teach. To effectively discipline (to teach kids skills to do better in the future), children have to be in a state of mind in which they can learn. Consequences can be counter-productive. If you’re being an effective disciplinarian, you should be disciplining less over time. “Time-outs” don’t teach kids anything, but taking the time to step away from the situation to talk to your kids does teach. Resources Mentioned No-Drama Discipline:

Bonni Stachowiak: Teaching in Higher Ed Bonni Stachowiak (web) (Twitter) is Dave’s life partner and best friend, business professor, past executive leader, and the host of the Teaching in Higher Ed podcast. Listener Questions Michael asked about what you do when you have a follower who has leadership potential but is reluctant to step into leadership shoes. Steve asked for suggestions on how to get communication out to a team when email isn’t an option. Michal asked about transitioning military leadership experience to a position in the private sector. Ricard asked about the discomfort of feeling like you don’t know it all when you’re new in a role. Resources Mentioned Radical Candor by Kim Scott* The Servant as Leader by Robert Greenleaf* Scaling Up : How a Few Companies Make It … and Why the Rest Don't by Verne Harnish* The 4 Disciplines of Execution by Chris McChesney, Sean Covey, and Jim Huling* Past Coaching for Leaders episodes on feedback Turn the Ship Around! by David Marquet*

Mike Erwin: Lead Yourself First Mike Erwin is the CEO of the Character & Leadership Center and the Founder and President of The Positivity Project, a non-profit organization with the mission to help America’s youth build stronger relationships by recognizing the character strengths in themselves and others. He is the co-author of the book Lead Yourself First: Inspiring Leadership Through Solitude*. Key Points Solitude helps both in intense thinking and also in giving the brain a chance to quiet down. It’s hard to think intensively with a lot going on around you. Even extroverts can benefit from solitude. Start small. Just find a few minutes throughout the day to build a habit of solitude. Social media and solitude can coexist. The four ways solitude benefits leaders: Clarity Creativity Moral Courage Emotional Balance Resources Mentioned Lead Yourself First: Inspiring Leadership Through Solitude* by Raymond M. Kethledge and Mike Erwin The Character & Leadership Center Team Red, Whi

Deepa Purushothaman: Inclusion at Deloitte Deepa Purushothaman is a National Managing Principal of Inclusion at Deloitte. She speaks extensively about Deloitte’s focus on women and has been featured at national conferences and in publications like Bloomberg and Harvard Business Review. Key Points You don’t have to always do things they way they’ve been done before — you can find a new way that is authentic to you. As society evolves, companies need to think about how they provide inclusion for their employees. People are less worried about seeing a diverse leadership team than they are about feeling like they belong. Individuals need to feel a sense of belonging and connection. Inclusion is starting to play an important role in talent acquisition and retention. One of the biggest mistakes is not knowing where to start and then doing nothing. Employees join and leave companies based on whether or not there is an inclusive culture. Resources Mentioned Responding When Your Expertise Is Challen

Jonathan Raymond: Good Authority Jonathan Raymond is the founder of Refound, a firm that believes we should all be aiming for more Yoda and less Superman. He is the author of the book, Good Authority: How to Become the Leader Your Team Is Waiting For*. Many managers and leaders recognize when more accountability is needed, but few use a process that invites high performance and embraces the whole person. In his work at Refound, Jonathan invites leaders to imagine a world where personal and professional growth are one thing, and where improving your relationships and owning your strengths translate directly into the rest of your life. In this conversation, Jonathan teaches us a common language around accountability that works for almost everyone. Plus, he teaches us the five key steps of the accountability dial. Key Points Micromanagement is focused on tasks, but accountability is focused on relationships. Accountability doesn’t work unless there’s a context of personal caring. Employees want growth,

Liz Wiseman: Multipliers Liz Wiseman has been listed on the Thinkers50 ranking and named as one of the top 10 leadership thinkers in the world and recipient of the 2016 ATD Champion of Talent Award. She is the author of three best-selling books, including Multipliers: How the Best Leaders Make Everyone Smarter*. Key Points Some leaders make the people around them less capable. Leaders who diminish others get less than half of their capabilities. Diminishing often comes from good intentions. Leadership is a skill you can learn. A good boss sees the genius in others. Find a way to let your boss know what you’re best at. By admitting our own mistakes, we create an environment where others are willing to take risks. Ask yourself how you might be shutting down people’s ideas and capabilities. Resources Mentioned Multipliers: How the Best Leaders Make Everyone Smarter (revised and updated)* by Liz Wiseman Activate Your Free Coaching for Leaders Membership Get immediate access to my free, 10-day au

Bonni Stachowiak: Teaching in Higher Ed Bonni Stachowiak (web) (Twitter) is Dave’s life partner and best friend, business professor, past executive leader, and the host of the Teaching in Higher Ed podcast. Questions Kristi asked about how to consistently apply what she’s learning from the show until new habits become unconscious behaviors. Kimberly asked for advice on how to handle a situation where she is co-managing a team. Bar asked about the best ways to navigate imposter syndrome. Jonny asked about avoiding career moves that may be motivated only by status or money. Resources Mentioned 7 Ways to Maximize Misery The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg* Radical Candor by Kim Scott* Why Is Authenticity So Hard and How Can You Be The Best Kind of Real? - Chris Brogan CFL300: Tom Henschel Interviews Dave Coaching for Leaders Academy Cars 3 Very Bad Wizards Activate Your Free Coaching for Leaders Membership Get immediate access to my free, 10-day audio course, 10 Ways to Empower the P

Pete Mockaitis: How to Be Awesome at Your Job Pete Mockaitis is the host of the How to be Awesome at Your Job podcast, regularly listed as a top careers show on Apple podcasts. Key Points Your sense of ownership in your work can have huge consequences in how well things unfold. Self-efficacy has a large effect on your sense of ownership in your work. Try to connect the job someone is doing with the overall mission of the organization. The effects of micromanaging can be disastrous for an organization. When delegating a job, think about the critical components of the job and what you want the result to be, then let employees get the job done however they see fit. Delegation doesn’t have to be an all-in-one-shot type of thing, it can be done in stages. Steps to delegating: Watch me do this Help me do this Let’s do this together I’ll help you do this I’ll watch you do this. Resources Mentioned Albert Bandura The 80/20 Principle* by Richard Koch Essentialism* by Greg McKeown The

Kim Scott: Radical Candor Kim Scott is a co-founder of Candor, Inc. She has been an advisor at Dropbox, Kurbo, Qualtrics, ReelGoodApp, Rolltape, Shyp, Twitter, and several other Silicon Valley companies. She is the author of the new book Radical Candor: Be a Kickass Boss without Losing your Humanity*. Key Points Show you care at a personal level. You can’t build a relationship that’s not personal. In order to care personally for someone, you have to bring your whole self, not just your “business” persona. Sometimes we get so focused on the work that we forget there’s actually a person doing the work. Begin by soliciting feedback, not by giving it. To get feedback, come up with a go-to question like “Is there anything I could do or stop doing that would make it easier to work with me?” Resources Mentioned Radical Candor by Kim Scott* Radical Candor podcast Candor Coach app Book Notes Download my highlights from Radical Candor in PDF format (free membership required). Activate Your Free Co

Patrick Lencioni: The Ideal Team Player Patrick Lencioni is the founder of The Table Group and the author of 11 books which have sold over 5 million copies and been translated into more than 30 languages. He is the author of the blockbuster bestseller The Five Dysfunctions of a Team*, and his most recent bestseller, The Ideal Team Player: How to Recognize and Cultivate the Three Essential Virtues*. Key Points Team players should be humble, hungry, and smart. Of the three, hunger is the hardest to teach later in life. Standard interviews don’t work. Think of unconventional ways to really get to know the interviewee. All the people interviewing a person need to evaluate the candidate using the same standards. There is a very high opportunity cost for hiring someone with values that don’t fit into your organization. Resources Mentioned Table Group Hub The Ideal Team Player* by Patrick Lencioni The Five Dysfunctions of a Team* by Patrick Lencioni The Look and Sound of Leadership Book Notes Dow

Dave Stachowiak: Coaching for Leaders Tom Henschel, host of The Look & Sound of Leadership podcast, executive coach at Essential Communications, and friend of Dave, interviews him on the growth of Coaching for Leaders and how he developed his voice. Key Points When trying to do something that helps others, remember that it’s not about you—don’t worry about you, worry about them. The best way to build a connection with people is to get really curious about them. You have to make the decision to listen. If you don’t have a lot of time to listen, figure out how much time you do have and make the decision to be totally present in that short time. Listening is an attitude, not a set of skills. View failure as data rather than an identity. Resources Mentioned The Look & Sound of Leadership podcast CFL episode with Susan Cain CFL episode with Michael Port Failing Forward * by John C. Maxwell CFL episode 1 The Lean Startup* by Eric Ries Listener Survey Please complete my upcoming listener

Tim Sanders: Lead Top-Line Growth Tim Sanders was the Chief Solutions Officer and later, the company’s Leadership Coach. He is the author of four books, including the New York Times bestseller Love Is the Killer App: How To Win Business & Influence Friends* and his new book Dealstorming: The Secret Weapon That Can Solve Your Toughest Sales Challenges*. Key Points Every big thing we try to do is not just the one thing, it’s a lot of smaller things put together. You no longer sell to just one decision-maker, you have to sell to an entire team or a committee. When selling, you’ll probably never meet most of the people need to influence. Somebody in the company you’re selling to needs to be your advocate. Leaders should always have a mentee because it’s a great leadership habit, not because it’s an HR program. The best mentors expect nothing in return. If you assume people are acting with the best intentions, you’re going to be a much happier leader. Resources Mentioned Download a FREE chapter

Bonni Stachowiak: Teaching in Higher Ed Bonni Stachowiak is the host of the Teaching in Higher Ed podcast, a professor of business and management at Vanguard University, and my life partner. Prior to her academic career, Bonni was a human resources consultant and executive officer for a publicly traded company. She joins me monthly to respond to listener questions. Resources Mentioned TimeTrade Doodle Feedly Newsify Instapaper Pinboard Blinkist * Sanebox * Getting Things Done* by David Allen Reminders Overcast Related Episodes CFL129: How To Create A Personal Knowledge Management System CFL242: How Twitter Can Help You Lead CFL285: How to Vastly Improve Your LinkedIn Profile Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.

Susan David: Emotional Agility Susan David is a psychologist on the faculty of Harvard Medical School; cofounder and codirector of the Institute of Coaching at McLean Hospital; and CEO of Evidence Based Psychology. She is the author of the bestselling book Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life*. Key Points Showing Up: Instead of ignoring difficult thoughts and emotions or overemphasizing ‘positive thinking’, facing into your thoughts, emotions and behaviors willingly, with curiosity and kindness. Stepping Out: Detaching from, and observing your thoughts and emotions to see them for what they are — just thoughts, just emotions. Essentially, learning to see yourself as the chessboard, filled with possibilities, rather than as any one piece on the board, confined to certain preordained moves. Walking Your Why: Your core values provide the compass that keeps you moving in the right direction. Rather than being abstract ideas, these values are the true path to willpower

Lolly Daskal: The Leadership Gap Lolly Daskal is the CEO of Lead From Within and was designated a Top-50 Leadership and Management Expert by Inc. magazine. She is the author of the the new book The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness*. Key Points If the situation isn’t working, what can you change about yourself? Ask yourself what type of person you need to be in a situation. There are aspects of ourselves that come out in times of stress. When you’re aware of your actions, you can choose how you’re going to act in the next moment. Allow your employees to teach you. Resources Mentioned The Leadership Gap website The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness* by Lolly Daskal Activate Your Free Coaching for Leaders Membership Get immediate access to my free, 10-day audio course, 10 Ways to Empower the People You Lead. Give me 10 minutes a day for 10 days to get the most immediate, practical actions to become a better leader. Join at CoachingforLeaders.com. R

Bonni Stachowiak: Teaching in Higher Ed Bonni Stachowiak (web) (Twitter) is Dave’s life partner and best friend, business professor, past executive leader, and the host of the Teaching in Higher Ed podcast. Questions Richard asked about how to practically influence on an executive team. Edwin asked about how to handle the situation when someone is fired. Isabeau asked about considerations to give when leading people who are parents. Tad asked about how to improve his skills as a program manager. Resources Mentioned Book: Leadership and Self-Deception* Book: Drive* Book: The Empowered Manager: Positive Political Skills at Work* Book: Essentialism* Book: Deep Work* 11 Crucial Books That Every Leader Should Know Coaching for Leaders Academy Activate Your Free Coaching for Leaders Membership Get immediate access to my free, 10-day audio course, 10 Ways to Empower the People You Lead. Give me 10 minutes a day for 10 days to get the most immediate, practical actions to become a better lead

Chris McChesney: The 4 Disciplines of Execution Chris McChesney is the Global Practice Leader of Execution for Franklin Covey Co. and the co-author of the bestselling book The 4 Disciplines of Execution* with his colleagues Sean Covey and Jim Huling. Key Points The 4 Disciplines: Focus on the wildly important Act on the lead measures Keep a compelling scoreboard Create a cadence of accountability. Resources Mentioned The 4 Disciplines of Execution* by Sean Covey, Chris McChesney, and Jim Huling Turn the Ship Around!* by David Marquet The 12 Week Year* by Brian P. Moran and Michael Lennington Frederick Herzberg HBR: One More Time: How Do You Motivate Employees? Activate Your Free Coaching for Leaders Membership Get immediate access to my free, 10-day audio course, 10 Ways to Empower the People You Lead. Give me 10 minutes a day for 10 days to get the most immediate, practical actions to become a better leader. Join at CoachingforLeaders.com. Related Episodes CFL117: The Seven Steps You