Coaching For Leaders

Bonni Stachowiak: Teaching in Higher Ed Bonni Stachowiak is the host of the Teaching in Higher Ed podcast, a professor of business and management at Vanguard University, and my life partner. Prior to her academic career, Bonni was a human resources consultant and executive officer for a publicly traded company. She joins me monthly to respond to listener questions. Listener Questions Evelyn asked if you need to be a caretaker first before moving to become a rainmaker. Samantha wondered if you should always try to save someone who has elected to leave. Tammy wanted to know our advice for managing along with peers who have different styles. David asked for our advice for managing student workers. Resources Mentioned Drive* by Daniel Pink Employee Resignations: Counter Offer or Say Goodbye? When Talent Quits, Don’t Be A Jerk Related Episodes An Astronaut’s Guide To Life On Earth with Chris Hadfield How To Lead The Millennials How Superbosses Master the Flow of Talent What to Do When So

Lois Frankel: Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office Lois Frankel is the President of Corporate Coaching International, a bestselling author, executive coach, and an internationally-recognized expert in the field of leadership development for women. She is the author of the New York Times bestselling books Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office*, Nice Girls Don’t Get Rich*, and Nice Girls Just Don’t Get It*. Tom Henschel: The Look & Sound of Leadership Tom Henschel of Essential Communications grooms senior leaders and executive teams. An internationally recognized expert in the field of workplace communications and self-presentation, he has helped thousands of leaders achieve excellence through his work as an executive coach and his top-rated podcast, The Look & Sound of Leadership. Key Points You can’t control anyone but yourself. What women contribute to the workplace is different but equal to what men contribute. Things are slightly better for women these days, but not by much. Men must be advocat

Daniel Goleman: Emotional Intelligence In 1995, Daniel Goleman published the blockbuster bestselling book Emotional Intelligence*, a book that now has more than 5 million copies in print worldwide in 40 different languages. He’s the author of a series of primers for the competencies of emotional and social intelligence, titled Building Blocks of Emotional Intelligence* and he’s the founder of the Emotional Intelligence Coaching Certification. Key Points The three types of empathy: Cognitive empathy - you can sense what people are thinking Emotional empathy - you can pick up on other people’s emotions Empathic concern - people can tell you care about them Resources Mentioned Emotional Intelligence* by Daniel Goleman Building Blocks of Emotional Intelligence* by Daniel Goleman et al. A Force for Good* by Daniel Goleman and the Dalai Lama Emotional and Social Competence Inventory Emotional Intelligence Coaching Certification Book Notes Download my highlights from the Empathy primer in PDF for

May Busch: Accelerate May Busch enjoyed a 24-year career at Morgan Stanley, most recently as Chief Operating Officer for Europe. She chaired the firm’s European Diversity Council and was a member of Morgan Stanley’s European Management Committee. She is the author of the book Accelerate: 9 Capabilities to Achieve Success at Any Career Stage*. She’s also the host the Career Mastery Kickstart summit*. Key Points Steps to move from caretaker to rainmaker: Identify the organization’s most important outcomes. Figure out what you can take action on. Create a safe space. Learn from your network what will move the needle the most. How to find the organization’s values: Observe Listen Ask Bonus Audio How to help others become rainmakers Resources Mentioned Career Mastery Kickstart Summit* Accelerate: 9 Capabilities to Achieve Success at Any Career Stage* by May Busch Eisenhower Grid Related Episodes How to Succeed with Leadership and Management, with John Kotter Three Steps to Great

Tom Henschel: The Look & Sound of Leadership Tom Henschel of Essential Communications grooms senior leaders and executive teams. An internationally recognized expert in the field of workplace communications and self-presentation, he has helped thousands of leaders achieve excellence through his work as an executive coach and his top-rated podcast, The Look & Sound of Leadership. Listener Questions Caroline asked about whether she should appease a peer by interviewing someone she doesn’t think is a good fit. Jane asked for suggestions on team diversity. Susan asked about promoting engagement with her team when there is lots of reluctance. Mariah wanted our advice on creating an orientation program for her team leads. Resources Mentioned StrengthsFinder (Gallup) Leading Change* by John Kotter Who Moved My Cheese? by Spencer Johnson Influence* by Robert Cialdini Three Steps to Great Career Conversations with Russ Laraway Being the Boss * by Linda Hill and Kent Lineback First, Break All t

Sharone Bar-David: Trust Your Canary Sharone Bar-David is a leading Canadian expert on workplace incivility and author of Trust Your Canary: Every Leader’s Guide to Taming Workplace Incivility*. She is particularly passionate about her work with abrasive leaders — the highly talented people whose interpersonal style rubs people the wrong way and creates distress in the work environment. Key Points The three contexts that pose a risk: Routine (To mitigate risks, Cultivate) Sensitive (To mitigate risks, Calculate) Problem (To minimize damage, Compensate) Bonus Audio How to not cross the line Resources Mentioned Trust Your Canary: Every Leader’s Guide to Taming Workplace Incivility* Hey (We’re Not All) Guys! Why I Don’t Use “You Guys” Related Episodes How to Tame Workplace Incivility Use Power for Good and Not Evil How to Manage Abrasive Leaders How to Make Inclusion Happen Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, sear

Corrinne Armour: Leaders Who Ask Corrinne is an accredited Master Certified Coach with the International Coaching Federation and a certified Neuro-Linguistic Programming Practitioner. She’s the author and co-author of several leadership books, most recently Leaders Who Ask: Building a Fearless Culture by Telling Less and Asking More*. Key Points You’re not developing your people if you’re constantly giving them all the answers. If you don’t have an awareness of something, you can’t change it. Ask your reports, “What have you tried so far, and what do you think I’m going to tell you to do?” Bonus Audio Why being clever doesn’t always make you a better manager Resources Mentioned Leaders Who Ask: Building a Fearless Culture by Telling Less and Asking More* Special book offer for Australian listeners (Use code: COACHINGFORLEADERS) Free resources for leaders from Corrinne Corrinne’s Leaders Who Ask program Book Notes Download my highlights from Leaders Who Ask in PDF format (free membership

Lois Frankel: Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office Lois Frankel is the President of Corporate Coaching International, a bestselling author, executive coach, and an internationally-recognized expert in the field of leadership development for women. She is the author of the New York Times bestselling books Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office*, Nice Girls Don’t Get Rich*, and Nice Girls Just Don’t Get It*. Key Points Women often back off when they see things get competitive. Don’t confuse other people in the workplace with relationships you’ve had in the past. When negotiating, women should focus more on the relationship. Bonus Audio Behavior has changed, attitudes haven’t Don’t be the company’s conscience Resources Mentioned Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office* by Lois Frankel Nice Girls Don't Get Rich* by Lois Frankel The Male Factor: The Unwritten Rules, Misperceptions, and Secret Beliefs of Men in the Workplace* by Shaunti Feldhahn “Ask Liz” with Liz Weston Connect with Lois

Jason Brooks Jason Brooks is a member of the Coaching for Leaders Academy and principal of a high school in Los Angeles. Key Points People respond to honesty from a leader. Admitting that you don’t know all the answers helps build bridges and gets your team working together. Deciding what not to do can actually be harder than deciding what to do. Working out a vision for your life can reduce the constant anxiety of wondering whether you’re making the best use of your time. Resources Mentioned Racism in America, with Jason Brooks The Power of Vulnerability, with Brené Brown Related Episodes How to Get the Ideal Team Player How to Deal With the Diminishers How to Create a Vivid Vision Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.

Howard “H” White: Believe to Achieve Howard “H” White was an NBA draft pick until knee injuries put a stop to his basketball career. Today he is vice president of Jordan Brand and has been with the company for thirty-five years. With Nike’s support, he founded the Believe to Achieve program, an innovative traveling seminar designed to encourage youth to believe in themselves and adults to mentor them. He’s the author of the book by the same name: Believe to Achieve: See the Invisible, Do the Impossible*. Key Points We often set our sights too low. Others often see things in us that we don’t see ourselves. How do you make others see the best in themselves? Everybody wants something in life, but there are very few who are willing to give up anything to get it. Bonus Audio Developing realistic expectations Resources Mentioned Believe to Achieve: See the Invisible, Do the Impossible* by Howard “H” White Book Notes Download my highlights from Believe to Achieve in PDF format (free membership requ

Bonni Stachowiak: Teaching in Higher Ed Bonni Stachowiak (web) (Twitter) is Dave’s life partner and best friend, business professor, past executive leader, and the host of the Teaching in Higher Ed podcast. Listener Questions Andrew asked about dealing with change on a personal level. Katie asked about inspiring movement for more recognition in her organization. Thomas asked for suggestions on his new role overseeing two related, but different, departments. Loveleena was looking for a suggestion for an article on executive presence. Paul asked for ideas on leading a full commissioned sales team. Resources Mentioned Transitions: Making Sense of Life's Changes by William Bridges* Managing Transitions: Making the Most of Change by William Bridges* Leading Change by John Kotter* Our Iceberg is Melting by John Kotter* Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us by Daniel Pink* That's Not What I Meant!: How Conversational Style Makes or Breaks Relationships by Debra Tannen* The Lo

Dan Schawbel: Back to Human Dan Schawbel is a New York Times bestselling author, a partner and research director at Future Workplace, and the founder of both Millennial Branding and WorkplaceTrends.com. He is the bestselling author of two career books, Promote Yourself* and Me 2.0*, and now his newest book, Back to Human: How Great Leaders Create Connection in the Age of Isolation*. Key Points We have to learn at the speed of business. Make learning a central part of what we do. The best source of knowledge is our coworkers. People learn by doing. Make learning a part of your daily routine. In addition to traditional things like pay and benefits, many prospective employees are also interested in what they’ll learn on a job. Resources Mentioned Back to Human: How Great Leaders Create Connection in the Age of Isolation by Dan Schawbel * Related Episodes Promote Yourself (and Others) Through Intrapreneurship, with Dan Schawbel (episode 163) How Superbosses Master the Flow of Talent, with S

Seth Godin: This is Marketing Seth Godin was recently inducted into the American Marketing Association’s Hall of Fame and is the author of one of the most popular blogs in the world. He founded TheMarketingSeminar.com and the altMBA. Seth is the author of eighteen best‑sellers that have been translated into more than thirty‑five languages, including his newest book, This Is Marketing: You Can’t Be Seen Until You Learn to See*. Key Points The world is fragmented into many groups; there is no more mass market. Each of us has the ability to market the work we are doing through our actions. The hard work begins by choosing the smallest group of people you can live with and ignoring everyone else. Pick ten people. Find something that will amaze and delight the ten. And if you can’t, then start over. Resources Mentioned This Is Marketing* by Seth Godin Tribes* by Seth Godin Permission Marketing* by Seth Godin First, ten by Seth Godin Book Notes Download my highlights from This is Marketing in PD

Kwame Christian: Negotiate Anything Kwame Christian is a business lawyer and the Director of the American Negotiation Institute. His TEDx Talk, Finding Confidence in Conflict, was the most popular TED Talk on the topic of conflict of 2017. He hosts the top negotiation podcast, Negotiate Anything, and is the author of the new book: Nobody Will Play With Me: How to Find Confidence in Conflict*. Key Points Three points to the breakdown of communication: The Frame (the storyline) The Pace (how fast) The Direction (what issues you’re talking about) Three steps of compassionate curiosity: Acknowledging emotions Getting curious with compassion Joint problem solving Resources Mentioned Kwame’s Negotiation guide Negotiate Anything podcast by Kwame Christian Nobody Will Play With Me: How to Find Confidence in Conflict* Anchoring episode on Negotiate Anything Book Notes Download my highlights from Nobody Will Play With Me in PDF format (free membership required). Related Episodes Negotiating

Bonni Stachowiak: Teaching in Higher Ed Bonni Stachowiak is the host of the Teaching in Higher Ed podcast, a professor of business and management at Vanguard University, and my life partner. Prior to her academic career, Bonni was a human resources consultant and executive officer for a publicly traded company. She joins me monthly to respond to listener questions. Listener Questions Samantha asked about what to do if you have a problem employee that is affecting the team. Pat asked about how to show respect for difficult work while also setting clear boundaries for ethical behavior. Ashish asked about using buzzwords and complexity vs. keeping language simple. Craig wanted to know how to influence people whom you have no direct control. Resources Mentioned Theory in Practice* by Chris Argyris Temple Grandin Double-loop learning Team of Teams* by General Stanley McChrystal Related Episodes What Search Dogs Can Teach You About Engagement (episode 25) Use Power for Good and Not Evil (ep

Parker Palmer: On the Brink of Everything Parker Palmer is the founder and senior partner emeritus of the Center for Courage & Renewal and is a world-renowned writer, speaker, and activist who focuses on issues in education, community, leadership, spirituality and social change. He is the author of the newly published book, On the Brink of Everything: Grace, Gravity, and Getting Old*. Key Points “The unexamined life is not worth living.” —Socrates Encourage people to examine the fears they have about looking inward. When we befriend what we are afraid of, it will become our friend. “If you can’t get out of it, get into it.” —Outward Bound motto Focus on building goodwill in your business because it repays many times over. Resources Mentioned On the Brink of Everything: Grace, Gravity, and Getting Old* by Parker Palmer The New Better Off: Reinventing the American Dream* by Courtney Martin Outward Bound Book Notes Download my highlights from On the Brink of Everything in PDF format (free mem

Tom Henschel: The Look & Sound of Leadership Executive coach Tom Henschel of Essential Communications grooms senior leaders and executive teams. An internationally recognized expert in the field of workplace communications and self-presentation, he has helped thousands of leaders achieve excellence through his work as an executive coach and his top-rated podcast, The Look & Sound of Leadership. Key Points An offsite doesn’t have to actually be offsite, but it needs to be treated like it is. What do you want the team to know that they don’t know now? Or what do you want them to be able to do that they can’t do now? An offsite is a great way to just talk and have experiences together that you don’t normally have time for. Really skilled facilitation is an art, not a science. Think about the why before the what. A good offsite is the start of a process, not the end of a process. If the offsite is really productive, it creates more work. Leaders should adopt the language of the offsite and use it

James Clear: Atomic Habits James Clear is an author and speaker focused on habits, decision-making, and continuous improvement. He is a regular speaker at Fortune 500 companies and his work is used by teams in the NFL, NBA, and MLB. He’s the author of the new book, Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones*. Key Points Goals are great for deciding what direction you want to head, but to actually get there it’s all about your systems. Results aren’t what needs to change; the processes and habits are what need to change. Start with the identity you want for yourself and build your habits to reinforce that identity. Your habits are what prove your identity to yourself. Habits are like compound interest for self-improvement. Bonus Audio How habits reinforce your identity Resources Mentioned Atomic Habits* by James Clear James Clear on Annual Reviews Related Episodes Getting Things Done with David Allen (episode 184) Create Behavior That Lasts With Marshal

Mark Ipaviz: ELEVEN Australia Mark Ipaviz is a member of the Coaching for Leaders Academy and National Sales Manager at Ozdare where he manages the brand ELEVEN Australia. Key Points Create an environment where people come to work absolutely loving every second of their day. If you create an environment where everyone feels loved, you create a family. If you take care of your people, they will take care of your customers. Resources Mentioned ELEVEN Australia How to Win Friends and Influence People* by Dale Carnegie The 7th Habits of Highly Effective People* by Stephen Covey The 5 Levels of Leadership by John C. Maxwell The Coaching Habit* by Michael Bungay Stanier Related Episodes These Coaching Questions Get Results (episode 237) How to Get the Ideal Team Player (episode 301) Your Permission to Fail (episode 338) Three Steps to Great Career Conversations (episode 370) Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, sear

Scott Harrison: charity: water Scott is the founder and CEO of charity: water, one of the most visible non-profit organizations in America. He’s author of the new book Thirst: A Story of Redemption, Compassion, and a Mission to Bring Clean Water to the World. Key Points If you’re chasing the wrong things there will never be enough. To do remarkable things you must have remarkable clarity of vision. Pick one thing and focus all of your energy on it. Resources Mentioned Thirst by Scott Harrison* Video: The Spring Thirstbook.com The Spring Related Episodes How to Be a Non-Conformist, with Adam Grant (episode 238) Four Steps to Get Unstuck and Embrace Change (episode 297) Six Tactics to Achieve Extraordinary Performance (episode 337) Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic.